If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making exscuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. SLOWER IS BETTER. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, Then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probley is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends seperate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are.....even if he has more eduacation or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more, nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord!!! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. ALL MEN ARE NOT DOGS. You should not be the one doing all the bending....compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships....there is nothing cute about baggage....deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals....look for someone COMPLIMENTARY....not SUPPLEMENTARY. Dating is fun....even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him, he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies....You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT.....AND THIS CAN ALSO BE APPLIED TO A WOMAN. So be honest and communicate, it does pay off.

like my daddy always says " never need a man, want one to enhance your life"

Visualize the space bar, it is your friend.

And as for a man wanting me and nothing can keep him away, um, yeah, that's what the police and restraining orders are for. Cheers.

other wise.."he's just not that into ya"

... and a good gun!

Hellz yeah, I forgot about that! My granddad left us three of them, huzzah!!!

... Regulators, Let's ride!!!

Likewise

wow that is very well said..... im guilty of a lot of these things in the past. i think these last 6 months or so ive grown a lot.. for even if i liked the guy i dated.. and see any of these things happening i have realized there is no point in continuing on.. hence perhaps the reason i am still single lol! however one thing will never change for when i have a man he will feel so important to me like he is on a pedistal, but if all i am doing is holding that pedistal up.. its time to let him fall... for i should be on the pedistal next to him...

thanks for the topic!! deb

Ya think... thank you so much I am now cleaning the moniter off...

Finally, the real author of this piece surfaces. People have been trying to figure out for a few years now since it was on Oprah. Thank you for stepping forward!

http://www.snopes.com/quotes/oprah.asp

now im fully awake!!! coz everything you wrote, its all true..thanks!

Hello Wolfman





I don't need the Albert Hall or Shaftsbury Avenue...... I just log into Mingle 2 to see hat the women are up to. You ladies ought to take the comedy act on tour, I haven't laughed so much in ages.

WOW!!!

Hello treasi

If a man wants you he will show up at your house late at night drunk after going to the strip club and want to make sweet love

There is nothing sweet about stale beer.............

LOL

How true!!!!

I will have to print this and carry it around with me to remind me that I am the most important person in my life. Thanks.

**is making notes with a ball point pen on her forearm...**