to get in a corner of a round room!!!


ok....this goes along with my save your drama. Would you consider someone that doesn't say anything about bad behavior or that keeps getting involved with someone who behaves badly....condoning it?

is that, in a way, condoning bad behavior????

sorry didnt read up on this one - dont follow
otherwise you know I'd share my $0.02 with ya

If they keep dating people with bad behavior then yes I'd say they are condoning it.

Depends on who's behaving badly...if it's a close friend, your child, a loved one and your wanting to help them. You would be involved in their bad behavior, not necessarily condoning it.

I'm not just referring to dating. could be family or friend as well. My aunt loves to start drama and thinks the world owes HER. I have spoken my mind but I know I can't change her, but she knows where I stand and I try to have little to do with her. My sister, on the other hand, talks about how she thinks my aunt is so wrong in how she acts but is gooey sweet to her when face to face.

this can go for online, real life, friends, family, relationships, etc

maybe I should have clarified about involvement. I am talking like...going along with it or not saying anything. Not being involved to help them

oh darn it...I thought I won the prize...drats!!

sorry....guess I forgot to clarify huh?

have you ever heard the black sheep gets the most attention from the flock......flock you buddy,go flock yourself, the mouse ran up the flock i know ooops

Is this a thread about babies who are geniuses?

Sounds as if, in the case of your Aunt, you did try. At least by being honest with her. choosing to keep your distance from harms way (as I put it) can be the best thing for yourself and have nothing to do with either condoning or condemning the other person's behavior.

I have one older sister that I no longer speak to, it's been over a year now. I finally choose to stop putting myself in harms way by not having anything to do with her.

Hope this is on track with your question...

It depends. If you can help to a person to become better, you must do it. If the case is hopeless, you should either kill the violator, or let the one go … from the top floor of a skyscraper.

Bad behavior is self-punishment always. So the question is can we help or we cannot.

I dont think inaction is the same as condoning. We sometimes dont have the energy or the motivation to correct every person or every behavior (besides our own). I love my friends and family,, I dont expect them to be perfect and wouldnt stop being involved with them because of 'bad behavior'.

It would also depend upon the severity of the behavior as to whether I stuck my nose in,, because I do believe there are sometimes situations I may think I know but I really am not privvy to many details. For instance, I may hear someone I love say something harsh to someone else,,I dont necessarily say anything because I dont know what lead to the harsh words,,,,

Its really a case by case basis as to what I 'stick my nose' into, but regardless, I never stop loving or being there for my loved ones.

that is basically what I'm asking...thanks

I only used my aunt as an example. I handle her the way I feel is right and my sister...well she's my sister

it could be with anyone though

Sometimes you just have to walk away or pick your battles IMO

but does not speaking up or acting as if they aren't doing anything similar to condoning it?

I doubt it has a lot to do with condoneing it as much as lacking the copeing skills and maybe the ability to assess people. Also adding in a desire to be fair or accepting because they are hoping for like behavior. Helping people with problems versus problem people is kind of the key. How to determine the difference is probably most often influenced in how often that person has problems. Do they repeat their mistakes and excuse their behavior? Letting that person learn from their own natural consequences is not being unfair or in my mind unchristian. Did not God allow the prodigal son to sleep with pigs until he had the realization that he had to work for his father as a responsible adult? The best way I know to find a desireable person is really to be one and then your peers will seek you out. Problem people will always seek people to exploit but if you do not give them permission then they are powerless over you. For many being expossed to problem people is all they ever knew so it is hard to identify the worthy ones. Good people do exist but they don't hang out in places commonly known for loosers.

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