So, I am at work and this one guy comes in like three times a day for a few weeks. Always very nice and makes sure he talks to me for a few minutes.

Well, after a few weeks passes he comes in and says, "Can I ask you a question?" I say sure, and he says "Well, I am sure you can tell that I like you" I smiled.. He then goes, "Would you agree to go out on a date with me?" I smile again and say well that depends. He asks on what? I reply, Are you married?

......Wait for it...............



















He replies....." Well, yes I am, but thats about to change."







ugh!

he wants to have an affair...kinda obvious.

Well yes, I realize that... It was more of a vent post

he (and his wife) may be in the 'grey zone': not yet divorced by law but not married anymore both physically and mentally

Its a good thing you asked,,and its a good thing he told ya the truth,,,now,,,as for me,,,I am single......

But,,,thats me.....


When I try and ask,,,they try not to here me.



So then I have to ask yelling,,,and then the whole place turns to see and hear my asking,,, aaaa,,never-mind..

That doesn't make things any better. I wouldn't date someone who was not yet divorced.

I am so sorry you met one of "those".

..or he could be thinking about adding you to his harem...

Me too Emily!!

Anyone who isn't divorced has baggage of emotion and obligation; it's tack no matter what!

True, it was great that he was honest..
And thanks for the

Thanks, I wouldn't date someone thats married or in a committed relationship...

And a harem? Me? Oh my, I so wouldn't fit in there.. lmao. I am not the type to share...

Your very welcome,,,and your blessed.....

Many on here have been played by one who is married or with another and they just use the other one,,,and so you didn't have to go through all that,,,so your blessed,,lol
And not as a hit but to be real,,you have a very beautiful smiling glow,,,,,,,In this pic here anyway,, so keep smiling,
and better luck to have happen in your future,,,

Exactly. It's just asking for trouble to get involved with someone who isn't divorced yet.

Thanks...

It's strange but thats always the first thing I ask people when I meet them. That was a lesson learned the hard way.

"It's strange but thats always the first thing I ask people when I meet them. That was a lesson learned the hard way."

:) thats a good thing looking out for yourself if he said he was going to be divorced soon hes prolly just looking for a rebound or soemthing to ease his mind and YOU do not deserve that

i hate to see people used and have feelings abused
it sucks

Disgraceful, disgusting slime pile! It's men like that who make me look bad. I hope he's happy, because the reason it's hard for me to find a girl...

... probably...

...I don't know...

...He's still horrible.

It doesnt make him horrible, One never knows. I respect the decision not to date married people, I hold the same philosophy at this point in my life. However there are extenuating circumstances that leave people still married but not together.

My first husband and I split up in 1995, moved to different residences, lived seperate lives, but we didnt have the money or the motivation to deal with the courts. WE werent officially 'divorced' until 2004 when I was asked for my hand in marriage by someone.

My parents split in 1994 but continued to live in the same house for three years for financial reasons....


there are all types of gray areas that sincerely honest people find themself in that cause the 'married, but available ' status.

The world is full of lonely people- married and unmarried- it's sad....

I'm sure you politely turned him down.

Oh I don't share well at all! Said that to an ex jokingly (sort of) many times...found out he was sharing - never walked away from a relationship so fast in all my life.

This is true, I perhaps jumped the gun with my judgment. I usually try not to judge anyone, but matters concerning marriage are ones that are particularly touchy for me. I take such vows seriously and often look at those who do not as wretched people.

You are right though, I do not know the situation.