What do you think about divorce? Is it moral in your opinion? Or do you
feel that people need to stick it out?


note: Please share your opinion regardless of what faith, or beliefs
that you affiliate with.

Death is just a transistion into something even more beautiful in my
opinion.

um okay, that's nice. I'm with you on that BUT..

What do you think about divorce?

People are fallible; they make mistakes. I see divorce as a viable
option when one particular mistake (a bad marriage) is recognized and
needs to be rectified.

i think thats not a great option... but i am going through that decesion
right now.. and for soooo long i tried to make it work becouse i took
vows in front of god and my family... but u cant make the other person
love u any more... so yea .. i think that devorce is an option ...

I agree heather. I don't know why but some marriages just
fall apart ...like my parents

Divorce is a failsafe. God doesn't close one door but he opens another
one.

thank you rainbow

hi lex

Well my wife committed adultery so morals and religion went out the
window with my marriage.

And what I come to realize is I could have risen to be the man she
deserved but she lowered herself to the type of women I did not or could
not want.

iRon I'm sorry that happened.

I don't know what I would do if someone cheated on me. I applaud
you for dealing with it.

I'm currently getting divorced my ex was abusive, an alcoholic, a drug
abuser and neglected our children. So I think divorce is a good thing.
Why should I stay with someone like that???

I think you can get a better deal, Alea.

Alea you shouldn't stay with someone like that oh my gosh, I
hope everything turns out okay.

God bless your soul

He says he was that way because of me. Now he has a new gf and they are
expecting a baby. Says hes all clean and a better person.

I have lionsbrew who is a great man. I'm much happier.

yeh right! "You made him that way"

Such an ugly ending, then he has the nerve to move on and get someone
pregnant..

I hope you make it through fine. You're better than me, I would snap. My
mom always taught me "Never let a man put his hands on you"

lol shes still married to her husband as well. Too much drama I just
wish he'd give me the divorce. Hes stalling because he doesn't want to
pay child support.

yeh what a situation. Can you get your lawyer involved to
fastforward the process? That's gross, she is still married

Any tips for a youngen? Did the abuse happen during the marriage and
were there any signs before?

No it was after we got married. Never intentionally hurt the kids to my
knowledge. But I was in the navy and over in Iraq for a year so I wasn't
home.

wow. I hate when stuff like that happens out of nowhere!

You're strong and stay strong

When I married my childrens' father, I made a promise to him, and to all
who stood as witnesses, 'To support him, through good times and bad
times, (as in adversity, poor health)...

Which 'bound' me, to doing my utmost to be the best person I could be.
My bindings, my sincerity, and my integrity, was wrapped up in those
words. Although we were not so sure, at the time, we were capable of
this 'marriage' thing, and all that our family, and society determined
it to be.

SO a doubt at the onset...not a strong foundation for a relationship
that requires committment, by both parties.

This marriage did end, and without fireworks, and venom, and was after
three years of looking outside of our marriage, for support and
guidance, by our network of friends, family and also 'professionals'.

Choosing to go seperate ways, was the most difficult decision I had ever
made, all the implications...all the long term changes that would occur,
not for me, nor even the childrens' father, but for our children.

There came a time though, after many years, where all we did within the
relationship caused more distance, and more 'seperation', which impacted
on the children. It felt as though it was a damned if I do, and a damned
if I dont.

The reasons as to why the marriage ended are really irrelevant, it did,
and trying to support four children through that, with adversity from
family, and society, was difficult enough without looking for blame or
accusations.

For me personally, I find the institution of marriage entrapment, and
unless a couple are very clear on what marriage means to them, can
become a huge 'power' play, and can be used as a controller.

I do not say for all, as we have our beliefs, and our choices...I see so
many dissolve into bitterness, as do so many defacto relationships, I
wonder what expectations people have with this marriage committment
thing, and whether 'the rules of engagement' were clear, and workable,
from the onset of the relationship.

In my own opinion, marriage, divorce, or defacto relationships, are
neither moral, or immoral, they are a part of this society that we live
in.