Most people seem to be desperate for a relationship, so they'll take whatever comes along, I admit I've done it and it's pretty sad for both parties. So you don't come off as desperate, you actually have criteria for who you want to be with, and you're not willing to settle for anything just because it has boobs and a vajayjay, and for most people, that makes you complicated. Sounds dumb, but that's the way it is.

I go down to the hood with my ex most days for her to pick up H - which I don't touch.

She says she'll **** me for the support.

I tell her, "No... oh, god, no."

All individuals want their individual connection

So why can't there be about a billion more like you?

I suppose they do.....

Cuz that would only complicate things

It is intimidation to simple minded people living shallow and meaningless lives - and neither looking for more than that - to talk to those, or just being around people who can read between the lines and able to balance the equation. Intimidating, because while the so called "complex" people have more depth intellectually and spiritually, that might won't make any sense to the simple ones, but it does makes a lot of sense to others.
That's why it's virtually impossible for the so called "complex" people to ever make a connection with with those who just continue to be the same ones they were before and never made and never want to make any steps to go farther than they currently are.

You're right about the desperation thing. I went through it, too, the whole "next girl who walks through the door is my new girlfriend" sort of thing, and I can tell you how nicely THAT worked out.

Some people really DO seem to think it's wrong to have preferences, standards -- that the goal is to BE with someone, and it doesn't even matter WHO so much as it matters that there IS somebody there with you.

But when you've been with as many "wrong people" as I have, you really don't want to ride that particular horse anymore....

Yeah, I would absolutely love to meet someone compatible, but I'm not going to waste my time on someone who is obviously a complete mismatch. That's how I ended up being married.

"Complicated" for me has always meant "set in your ways" "intransigent" and unable to overcome differences?

I suppose you can qualify a person with OCD as "complicated" but in reality, It all makes sense to them. As we age, I think we all get a lil more "complicated"?

I've read some of the OPs posts. A few I've read mentioned "no family" and "no friends"(by memory). This thread could be considered proof that the OP indeed has friends but why does he continue believing he has no friends?

He MUST be "complicated"!


Signed
The thread killa

I probably should clarify that.

All of the people I considered to be real-life friends abandoned me after I was nearly killed in a major car accident last February. It was a bit of a wake-up call, actually.

I have friends on line. That's it.

Sometimes I'd like to be a nun, but then I figure they'd kick me out because of that whole God thing.

I'd like to be the Flying nun

Me too!!!!

Dumb question - when a person makes a "complicated" comment
to you, do you ask that person why they've arrived at that conclusion?

And ask: "Could you explain what 'complicated' means" ... believe it
or not, different folks will have differing opinions on its definition
as it relates to a person.

If she can't cast a spell on you and turn you into a goat, you're considered complicated.

Wondering what kind of writing you do?

maybe you seem complicated to them because they cannot associate with much, or any, of who you are, or what you want.

better to label than to self-analyze.

I don't think Complicated is a bad thing actually Lex,

I would rather someone be a bit complicated that so shallow there is only one layer and well once you figured that out there is nothing left to learn.

I have been told I am hard to figure out replied quite truthfully Thank you.

Look at it like this Lex if you are complicated then you are more of a challenge and more fun to get to know.

That has CERTAINLY been my experience!

Three books, so far -- sci-fi stuff.