I don't mean to sound critical or anything, but why does everyone seem to be "desperate" for a relationship? If we coudl just give ourselves time to grow up and learn to be good on our own, we wouldn't need someone as bad...just a thought

It may seem that way at times but there are plenty of people that are happy with how things are now and if someone comes along...that's great too

And yet...here you are...

That was a rough lesson for me to learn -- but what I've discovered is that my life alone has always been better than my life in a relationship....why make things worse?

OP:... that is a good question, and reasonable from your perspective... let me give you my perspective (since you ask)...

personally - I am not desperate at all. As a matter of fact I am quite happy with my life. I have worked hard all my life to achieve the goals and dreams that I have wanted since I was a teenager. It's been a good ride so far. Now, being on top of my chosen mountain - I look around and say to myself "gee, it would be nice to share this with someone... someone special"...

no desperation, no obsession -- it's just what I want. Will it happen? Eh, who knows... one cannot predict these things...

But to look at my situation and say "desperate" - I would reply, do not judge a man until you have walked a mile in HIS shoes...

Little tid-bits of wisdom from The Great Lex.

Easier to digest than putting them all in a big bowl and pouring chili sauce all over them....

Well then it didn't apply to you. I'm sorry if you thought it did...people know who they are.All im saying is that it doesnt take someone to post all these little "looking for love" quotes to grab someone's attention. If we took the time out to learn more of ourselves, the oppposite person would find us...you know?

Im not really here for a relationship. just friends, lik my headline says...

Agreed. Well said... you have quite a bit of wisdom for such a young man... luck to you!

That's good then, it's far easier to find friends here than relationships.

Everyone? or the people you know? Seeing as you are only 23, it's pretty typical of your age range. Lots of people in your age group want instant gratification and don't want to work for anything including relationships. When you get to be an old bat like me, you become more comfortable with your own company and don't need someone to be your cruise director through life. Anyway, good luck in your search for "friends".

I'm not an old bat but I couldn't have said it any better.

I don't agree everyone seems desperate. We are all here, we make friends, we put our selves out there because we do want to eventually be with one. It is natural for us to want to share our lives with another...
When one grows up...one also has a better understanding that things happen as they should. Even at my age with a son older than you, I am not desperate,
I have never been...

I admit I'm desperate......


for chocolate cake!!! Omg, where is it??????

Lemme guess. You tap alot of a$$ right? But you call it gaining knowledge, or research right? To be honest, you calling "everyone" desperate is like me writing those first two assumptions about you. Anyways....blah...blah...."Check In!" (I had to say it).

OH Gosh me too. sounds so good just finished the Chocolate pecan pie last night and have no munchies in the house dang it...


OP I am not sure where this basis or assumption is coming from, no offense meant when I say this most people that give such broad sweeping generalizations are the ones the are usually guilty of what they are assuming of others.

I personally have never been desperate in my life for a relationship... Now good chocolate or ice cream and I could be persuaded to be manipulated for the duration of the treat...

*pfft* Speak only for yourself!