Sometimes I exchange e-mails with people and notice that the person on the other end doesnt ask any questions making it hard to keep up a conversation. They'll just answer mine with short responses...

Is this a sign that they just are not that into me, or maybe they are shy and cant think of things to say? Should I or should I not hold this against someone? It is always hard to tell over e-mails...

Hope this makes sense...lol

It makes me feel weird when they do that to me

I find a lot of people don't realize that after they answer a question, they should end their emails with a question.
I think it's a lack of email experiance.

personally? I take it to mean that, although they may have found the content of your last email interesting enough to respond - that they are not interested in finding out about you... keeping things superficial... I think some people are polite and have good character by sending a reply to your e-mail out of general respect... although I think the latter is rare...

$.02

This sounds like EVERY email conversation I have with women. I find it more rude than not replying. A conversation is give and take.

I always assume if they reply the are interested on some level. But, if they don't give something back I think it's best to move on.

You don't have to always ask questions. You can leave an email open with the potential of generating good convo. You can do this by making a comment, and the other person can pick up on that comment and elaborate further with his or her point of view. Sometimes, you just don't have anything to say, or you don't want to say a whole lot of stuff in the first few emails. It's tricky. I find that if there is an "email" connection being made, then the conversation tends to run smoothly. If it doesn't, or it seems forced, then you probably will get basic, bland responses.

Some people don't really know what to say... and some people only answer the emails to be polite. They answer your questions so they don't ignore you, but they're really not interested in a convo.
The way I see it, is it shouldn't be so hard to talk to someone. If you're putting in extra effort to get a convo going, and not really getting anywhere... maybe he / she isn't the one for you.

"Sigh". So you were being polite to me. Damn!

That's why I always say put beer/booze in to the mix, everyone will be chatting up a storm

you're as bad as a woman twisting words

Wait till I send you the "I Love You" email. See how polite you are then.

I fear the "art of conversation" is dying. This society has turned into one that needs instant gratification. Whether it be a drive thru or relationship. I'm a retired writer and I see it happening everywhere.

I try to reply to give someone the benefit of the doubt. But I believe that if someone doesnt ask questions or try to get to know you then they really dont want to, so move on. For me communication is really important and I guess for some it really isnt.

But then if you'd had 1 to many you may be asking yourself in the morning "what did I say"? If someone sends you an Email and you don't think your that into them, its only polite to respond, but politely decline...

I agree it's hard to tell in e-mail, and for every one of us who find writing easy, there's someone else who doesn't feel comfortable expressing themselves in words.

I wouldn't jump to any concussions. If a guy responds at all he's probably somewhat interested... Most men are not very communicative - with me being the exception to the rule - but I also encounter women who don't seem to have much to say... I figure they're busy answering other e-mails, and whatever else they have going on in their lives; It takes a lot of time to write intelligently and thoughtfully, and there just aren't enough hours in the day! Others may be shy, or less communicative by nature, but that really has nothing to do with whether or not you will hit it off.

Email is the most difficult form of communication there is.

I'm sure everyone here has had a one sided email conversation. I tend to send only a couple of emails if there is no questions asked back. I tend to read it as someone just being "polite" and responding. No one just wants to come out and say "I'm not interested," that would be rude. However, "ending" a conversation, well that's a polite way of saying "I'm done talking with you."


I'm one of those that answers every email sent to me, or at least I try, but at some point and time, you either have to end the conversation or take it forward. If they aren't taking it forward and asking "do you want to meet," or "can I call you," then odds are, it's not going anywhere and looking for an end.


On the flip side of the coin, if you feel a conversation is starting to end with a person you genuinely find interesting, take the bull by the horns and be a little agressive. Make sure he/she knows that you find them interesting, some people (like me) sometimes have to be hit in the head with a two by four just to realize something that is obvious to everyone else.



My advice is free, unless it gets results, then I want two dozen chocolate chip cookies in an unmarked brown bag.

I always assume I am bothering people and they probably don't want to talk to me. So, I try not to bombard them with questions and chit chat.

I think any one you take the time to bother, and bombard, should be flattered... lol

When a guy sends you a long e-mail (5 paragraphs), you still respond with a short answer (2 lines)? Assuming you recieve long e-mails.

Thank you for the compliment.

I rarely receive long emails. I usually get the one or two line responses. I have some ongoing email exchanges and those are longer. The conversation dies out at some point, but then a new topic comes up and we start emaling again. But, if I send the last email in the conversation I will not start another conversation. I wait for him to start it. I figure if he wants to, he will write again.

Oh, and if I do get a long email, my reply is usually long as I will respond to each paragraph or point.