Topic: Why does dating have to be such a game?
TNLakeLady's photo
Mon 10/26/09 07:53 AM
rofl rofl lolol

aLittleBird's photo
Mon 10/26/09 07:56 AM
lol...It was terrible...I thought I was going to throw up! My throat was all spasmy and stuff...I brushed my teeth like 3 times and washed the old-boy spit off my face...ewwwwww..


Experience under his belt....ewww Fran...just ewwwwww!!

And my doors are locked LakeLady!


countrymike's photo
Mon 10/26/09 07:57 AM
Well,

My fist post and I just have a few questions..
I never imagined dating in my 30s would be so much of a game..You go on a date and there is obvious chemistry..you hit it off really well..afterward you go home and its like a competition to see who will call or text first. Everyone is afraid they are going to scare someone off, afraid to say what they feel. If out send a text message longer than 3-5 words it must mean your obsessive. I just like to talk and communicate. .. men seem to flatter themselves too much thinking that if you text them a couple times a day that you are infatuated..lol.. I'm just looking for a really good friendship and not interested in a soulmate at this point.
Also, as far as sex goes..I mean if you want it, you want it..and just because a woman wants it doesn't mean that she is a slut...lol

I believe in being honest and upfront about what you want and hate playing these stupid games..

So answer me this, why is dating such a game?

well this is gonna be fun...For yourself,quit generalizing...use the term 'The males I have met"..We are all not of one mindset.
You say you do not like games but you are still married? .oh my my...
Now what we have here is a married (Oh yeah Seperated)woman who says that if a woman wants "it"she is not a slut..(the law calls that adultery not slut).Hmm..Only if she acts upon it.That is my opinion...No differant for men, is it,We get called players or male sluts but for you it is okay?
It also seems to me that you picked the worst venue for not playing games...Internet dating by far is a game with hearts at stake....Big gamble......Good luck with your quest whether it be sex or talk or getting a divorce...


franshade's photo
Mon 10/26/09 07:58 AM
pitchfork You know me looking for the positive in all situations :laughing:


countrymike's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:00 AM
well this is gonna be fun...For yourself,quit generalizing...use the term 'The males I have met"..We are all not of one mindset.
You say you do not like games but you are still married? .oh my my...
Now what we have here is a married (Oh yeah Seperated)woman who says that if a woman wants "it"she is not a slut..(the law calls that adultery not slut).Hmm..Only if she acts upon it.That is my opinion...No differant for men, is it,We get called players or male sluts but for you it is okay?
It also seems to me that you picked the worst venue for not playing games...Internet dating by far is a game with hearts at stake....Big gamble......Good luck with your quest whether it be sex or talk or getting a divorce...


aLittleBird's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:01 AM
You are so bad Fran...lol

but now you see why that image "popped" in my head....lol


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omg...that banana looks like an old man with a cane....***AARRGGGHHH**

TNLakeLady's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:03 AM

Well,

My fist post and I just have a few questions..
I never imagined dating in my 30s would be so much of a game..You go on a date and there is obvious chemistry..you hit it off really well..afterward you go home and its like a competition to see who will call or text first. Everyone is afraid they are going to scare someone off, afraid to say what they feel. If out send a text message longer than 3-5 words it must mean your obsessive. I just like to talk and communicate. .. men seem to flatter themselves too much thinking that if you text them a couple times a day that you are infatuated..lol.. I'm just looking for a really good friendship and not interested in a soulmate at this point.
Also, as far as sex goes..I mean if you want it, you want it..and just because a woman wants it doesn't mean that she is a slut...lol

I believe in being honest and upfront about what you want and hate playing these stupid games..

So answer me this, why is dating such a game?

well this is gonna be fun...For yourself,quit generalizing...use the term 'The males I have met"..We are all not of one mindset.
You say you do not like games but you are still married? .oh my my...
Now what we have here is a married (Oh yeah Seperated)woman who says that if a woman wants "it"she is not a slut..(the law calls that adultery not slut).Hmm..Only if she acts upon it.That is my opinion...No differant for men, is it,We get called players or male sluts but for you it is okay?
It also seems to me that you picked the worst venue for not playing games...Internet dating by far is a game with hearts at stake....Big gamble......Good luck with your quest whether it be sex or talk or getting a divorce...



Divorce is final in a few days..not playing games there..
Just stating the facts of the way relationships go these days..from what I have seen..Needing some answers for when I start dating in the future..I have been out of the dating scene for 10 yrs and really want to know what to expect..Thanks for your honesty..

RKISIT's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:08 AM

My fist post and I just have a few questions..
I never imagined dating in my 30s would be so much of a game..You go on a date and there is obvious chemistry..you hit it off really well..afterward you go home and its like a competition to see who will call or text first. Everyone is afraid they are going to scare someone off, afraid to say what they feel. If out send a text message longer than 3-5 words it must mean your obsessive. I just like to talk and communicate. .. men seem to flatter themselves too much thinking that if you text them a couple times a day that you are infatuated..lol.. I'm just looking for a really good friendship and not interested in a soulmate at this point.
Also, as far as sex goes..I mean if you want it, you want it..and just because a woman wants it doesn't mean that she is a slut...lol

I believe in being honest and upfront about what you want and hate playing these stupid games..

So answer me this, why is dating such a game?


i'll be a really good friend and won't think your a slutflowerforyou

TNLakeLady's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:09 AM
Thanx..I need good friends right now..your a sweetieblushing

franshade's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:14 AM
pssttt TN waving

It's not what someone calls you, it's what you answer to that matters flowerforyou

TNLakeLady's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:19 AM
Thanx..fran..At this point in life..I don't really care what people think of me..I worried about that for years..I have been through a lot..Married to a very critical, demanding, and demeaning man for 10 yrs..I had no friends, no life, and no say so..I'm glad I am out of it..Just want to mingle and get my life back..lol

countrymike's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:22 AM
what does that mean?
you wrote...It's not what someone calls you, it's what you answer to that matters "
So if I yell hey virgin and you are a hooker , you suddenly become a Godlike person ...get a grip ,she said she does not like games so why encourage the art of lying...isn't that what women do not like? If she wants sex outside of marriage ,then so be it and the terms that go with it...what ever happened to calling it like one sees it...A virgin is such and should not be answering to a whore call...agreee or disagree ,English is just that....words that define behavior....

TNLakeLady's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:26 AM
Well who made you master of the english language? Maybe everyone does not have the same beliefs as you..You need a walk a mile in someones shoes before you judge their lifestyle..

franshade's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:27 AM

Thanx..fran..At this point in life..I don't really care what people think of me..I worried about that for years..I have been through a lot..Married to a very critical, demanding, and demeaning man for 10 yrs..I had no friends, no life, and no say so..I'm glad I am out of it..Just want to mingle and get my life back..lol

then geter done gurl :thumbsup:


franshade's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:28 AM

what does that mean?
you wrote...It's not what someone calls you, it's what you answer to that matters "
So if I yell hey virgin and you are a hooker , you suddenly become a Godlike person ...get a grip ,she said she does not like games so why encourage the art of lying...isn't that what women do not like? If she wants sex outside of marriage ,then so be it and the terms that go with it...what ever happened to calling it like one sees it...A virgin is such and should not be answering to a whore call...agreee or disagree ,English is just that....words that define behavior....


What it means is that I give your comments and opinions their just importance, none :laughing: :laughing:


aLittleBird's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:30 AM
Ummm Countryboy...I think you are taking things a little too literal.

Fran...don't you hold classes every Saturday on the Art of Lying?? It's in room 666 isn't it??


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sk8mafia's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:32 AM

The majority of us are creepy... Age is no issue..... bigsmile laugh
this is true we are creeps.

franshade's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:33 AM

Ummm Countryboy...I think you are taking things a little too literal.

Fran...don't you hold classes every Saturday on the Art of Lying?? It's in room 666 isn't it??


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VIRGIN

Nope he's still not Godlike, is he??? :laughing:

Don't hold classes but selective students captive :laughing:


countrymike's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:37 AM
I have walked many a mile in my own shoes . Thanks ...I do not need to be in yours to see how bitter you still are and how you know you do not care what others think (your statement)You care enough to slam me for understanding English..
English can be found all over the internet and so can definitions...Try it ....
It is not for us to understand your failed marriage, but rather for you to get over it..
my opinion only..

countrymike's photo
Mon 10/26/09 08:45 AM
To start I did not bring up the word slut...The lady from the lake did..Slut or slattern is a pejorative term meaning an inividual who is sexually promiscuous..If she choses to be such ,then so be it...But do not chastize me for recognizing it for what it is by definition...