Me either.

I think the thing to understand for all sexes is, its all bs until you actually meet them in person, and know them for a looongg time, and SEE, and experience, their lives in action, knowing they are really what they say they are.


Its completely dillusional to believe you know someone well until you are actively in their lives.


I dont take too seriously what a man who is persuing me says on the internet ever.

True, however, it's hard for me to understand them in the real world too,

Not even me?

They want loyalty, they don't like drama, they can't read minds, they want sex, they want to feel like a man, they really are simple to please...

c'mon Calleigh..dontcha know...

I don't have much experience dealing with men. Interesting list, though, thanks.

Yeah, I dont wanna sit around, and play guessing games man.. That I can do in real life too.. I mean really, even if you KNOW a man.. I dont need all that wierdo pressure and stress. And oh good God, sex life based on phone convosss,.. o wierd.. reminds me of what we called "heavy breathers" when we got those calls on the phone as kids.. now theyve gotten organized.. this is now a real relationship apparently.. *cracks up*


O MAN phone sex is lame.. what IS special phone sex anyway? How is it set apart from all the special phone sex you had with the last guy? LOL.. maybe if the phone actually was a sex toy, and you used it that way.. hold on.. lemme try the kinky kind, and stick the phone up my butt... hold on... hold on... ok.. ow.. that hurt. But MEANINGFUL.

Yes I had you in mind Calleigh, so now were engaged.

Like, I would know...as long as I've been alone. I was guessing, I could be wrong...trying to simplify my life by simplifying the opposite sex.

You know more than I do, I think everyone knows more than I do.

peccy...

lol...

well dear one...

anything that cares more for something than itself, will naturally only be concerned with understanding it, and being loved itself does not even come into the mind!!!???

what that does this, will have to have any instruction on how to understand what it care for, which is to love it, as ALL boys that still wish to be loved, INSTEAD of wanting to love???

only forgoing self motive, can make the "acid" of true passion, which will destroy all false love that exist, that is perpetually only vexed with being loved itself most, and can create perpetual love, the only love elixer that will not sour, when it is not given what it wants, as it wants NOTHING FOR ITSELF, SO HOW CAN IT SOUR, or be angry, or be violent, or be manipulating, or lie, or decieve, or emotionally or physically CONTROLLING, AS ALL MEN THAT WISH TO BE LOVED ARE???

such as this could be the only true meaning of love, or courage, or valor, which be nothing more than caring for another more than itself, willing to die for it's female friend, or a child, or a man of integrity, as are not the men of the world called to love and protect the women and children of society FIRST, ABOVE SELF???

how can one not see how such things relate to love, which be only understanding another's value, which IS TO UNDERSTAND WHAT LOVE IS???

to know and learn such things, will erase the notion of "love is an investment for self" that a man, i mean boy, is born with...

if you canont understand the words of your fellow man, how does one claim to be an expert advice giver on understanding a women???

if it is feigned, it is NOT REAL!!!

IF IT IS FOR SELF, WITH A MOTIVE FOR WHAT SELF WILL GET OR ACHIEVE BY DOING SUCH, THAN IT IS FEIGNED, IS IT NOT???

how does one throw around accusation's of being on acid, and not be one that say's the same to any women, that speaks what itself does not like to hear???

the reason it was written in the first post, any man that wishes to understand for his OWN SAKE AND HAPPINESS, will not hear and see many words as true, and therefore ignore many details, only pretending to hear, by coming up with question's to impress, and convince, that oneself is INTERESTED???

we are talking about ANOTHER ****ING HUMAN LIFE HERE, NOT A FISH, AND HOW TO CATCH AND IMPRESS ONE!!!

please...

a man that looks for love for himself, becomes nothing but an investor, a rachateer of masterful manipulations and deceptive unterior motive's, and imprisons a women, as a young boy that puts a butterfly under a glass, his greed for self getting the best of him, not seeing that he shall destroy what was beutiful, because he wanted to POSSESS IT FOR HIMSELF!!!

you might try a little acid, if your mind thus far is still enamored with only "doing and saying to get for self", as each word from this persepctive, is but garnered for the sole intent of not being alone, and having a women but to satisfy personal agenda's...

Ha ha what? Well it had feeling.


LOOK!! Pretty colors!

How can we as men understand the things women are not saying? Are we supposed to be mind readers? If a woman has needs she should voice them and not make it about something else.

I have found that bringing up sex ASAP is the best way to start a sexual relationship. Women know men want sex. The trouble men have is that many of us don't understand that women want sex too, just as much and likely more than men. To pretend not to want sex from her is lying and women know it. If you can't be truthful with her about this how can she trust you with the really important things?

We all want a healthy, loving, sexual relationship with someone that cares about our needs, feelings and desires. Sex is part of the mix. Women are sexual beings. Their entire bodies are designed for reproduction. Every feeling and emotion we humans have is there to either help us survive or to help us find a good mate. Even if we no longer want children, we still desire sexual relations.

There is no reason to treat women like children. Even if SOME women want to b e treated that way.

what has the world come to, what integrity be there, what honor as caring exist, what valor as courage to care for more than self, when any talk of love as selfless, is but attibuted to narcotic use...

only what does not know, or feel, or recognize love for anything but itself, does not hear nor recognize what is of love, only despising whatever speak what it know's within is not itself...

i wish not to see see see, i wish not to hear hear hear, i only wish to weep weep weep, for what i do not recieve recieve recieve, sayeth the boy that only longs to be loved loved loved, and cares for nothing but personal self self self, that see and invest but to get get get, and to take take take, and then discard discard discard, when all fails fails fails, because it was built on but fallicy fallicy fallicy, of but boyhood fantasies of sex sex sex...

two cents

LOL some of you just don't understand at all

Now who's the easiest to understand???

See, that doesnt work for me.. know why? Because as an adult woman.. I need to know that what the majority of the makeup of the relationship requires is firmly in place, with a foundation.

If we cant talk.. I am not attracted sexually.

Am I sexual being? Highly.. but attracting me has to happen, and it doesnt have anything to do with knowing your penis size, or what you can do with it.

Personally I dont experience sexual attraction visually. Does it make me want to be closer to someone to see them, and be attracted by what they look like.. yes, more likely to draw me in. I just dont do the x-ray glasses thing.

I just cant be attracted to someone sexually who has a crappy attitude toward me, or in life in general.

Also.. body warmth, and breathing arent the only attractors for me.

There needs to be substance.

oh, many things are understood, that some just don't want understood, or spoken, as the guilt within creates a certain hate and distain, for anything that understand what is more important than what itself deem as important...

what is not blind, wretched, naked, and miserable, that cannot admit that it's own motive, is but tainted with self greed and selfish want alone, laced with the poison of self interest and ulterior motive but to aquire for self in all ways???

that which but see's in each living thing it look at, how it wants and can "take" from it, what will benefit and give good to itself???

it does not take a rocket scientist, to see the motive of the heart, that is revealed in each word from the human mouth...

each only speak of the code it live by itself, or it would not know the words to speak them, and the words from the mouth, decide the fate of each living thing, the destiny that is rolled out by itself...

all codes but honor, and valor, and courage, which is but caring about other's more than self, enough to admit self does not, will be crushed by the universe, to bring anything and everything that does not see or believe such is important, to see it is, and that itself is found lacking of all things that are most good in the world, and that it but love itself most in all ways and cases, and thinks all day long only of itself, and only of another favorably, if it gives to self of some favor...

such is the sour, that shall turn sour in the gut of each that embrace it...

that is what 2012 is all about...

nothing gets past 2013, without admitting it has self motive run amock, and this all will surely see and feel, as the time of smiles, will be passed for a small time, while integrity in reinstalled back into mankind...

three cents

just wanted to post four cents before David