Regardless how death comes about it is never and easy thing to deal with. Many deal with death in many different ways. Even though within time the pain gets easier it will never go away.

Those that die tragically and at a younger age can make the pain so much more intense. Due to it is so much harder to understand why it had to happen.

Myself I try to remember the good times things they said or did that made me laugh or just the times I had with them. Memories are Priceless....

My sister passed away suddenly and I dealt with it the best I could.

It's hard loss my Dad 5 years ago but I do think about him all the time but only the good things ...I was lucky I had him in my life until pass at 84 ..I have large family and great support of friends ..as Jill298 says look for support pills and wine only numbs you for so long ..Good luck and very sorry for your loss..


To all Poster who have loss a love one my deepest sympathy.

Dad, Mom, Brother, Friends.

I've had a couple of people close to me die, the ones that bothered me the most were my stepfather and a girl I went to high school with. She was 17 when she died, and she was the only person in my school who was kind to me, so it was harsh. As for how to deal with it, you cry, you grieve and then you move on. You don't really have any other choice.

Frankly, I know more dead people than alive...all my Grandparents, both parents, most of my Uncles & Aunts, my older sister, my unborn son, the ex, countless friends & a couple of lovers...but I just figure there will be a hell of a party when it's my time to cross over...death is a part of life...but I also feel they are always around me.

I'm dealing with the death of a work mate today! We could see it coming but how
do you help someone who doesn't want help. Myself and two others tried on Friday
to stage a bit of an intervention, we even got management at work to talk to him
to offer help but he just brushed it off, said he was fine even though you could tell
just by looking at him that he was in some serious shape. Saturday at work was the
last time I talked to him, he was found early Sunday morning collapsed by his truck
and by 2am today cirrhosis of the liver had taken him. Now I'm thinking that maybe there
was more that I should of done, could of done. Not only am I filled with sadness
but also some guilt which I know I shouldn't feel. Maybe talking to the other guy's
at work will help

No guilt...the dead do not hold you responsible...

His drinking was his own choice but I feel that maybe I should of tried
harder to help him

What were you gonna do...tie him up? Survivor's Guilt should be outlawed...you did the best you could but in the end it was his own decision...

Feeling guilty in a situation like this is pretty normal. All you can do is remember that there really was NOTHING more you could've done. Talking to other's who may feel the same way is probably the best thing you can do right now

I have dealt with far too many people in my military life, that were alive one minute and dead the next. Sad for me that I see life as...."you're here one minute...gone the next. I don't hurt as much now when someone leaves me.

My best friend died when he was 19 yrs old (1999)and fresh into college, always willing to help anyone out was even in college to become a youth councillor. He died helping someone out, thought he was heavy enough (140 lbs) to weigh down plywood in the back of a half ton truck... not likely wind gusts on the highway lifted him and the sheet up into the air and smashed him to the ground... died instantly. I still cannot believe it was an open casket funeral when I went up to say good bye it wasn’t him didn’t look like him and could tell how horrible it would have been to die as he did. To this day I can’t listen to anything Sara Mcglocklin sings, the song they played for his memorial was her In the arms of an angel.
He was like my brother and my best friend part of our family. His parents were divorced and his dad was a police officer and worked a lot so he was always hanging out at our house helping me with homework as for he was a grade ahead of me, eating dinner with the family... was always there and then suddenly you wake up and he is gone. The night he died I knew it and I felt like he visited me to say good bye.. I woke up to my bedposts shaking; I rubbed my eyes and see nothing.... I felt like something was instantly wrong and missing... and I will never forget the phone call I felt I already knew what his dad was going to say to me before he said it.
How have I dealt with it....took long time to get use to him not sticking his smiling head around the corner and not be there to steal the last piece of meat from the table, and for him to not be the shoulder to cry on when I was feeling teenage pressure. I remember him always he’s here in my heart.... I get Goosebumps when I think of him and I tend to just say hello like he’s maybe here to check up on me and proud of the woman I strive to be today... I will always love him and will continue to deal with his loss throughout my lifetime. Even as short time in my life that he was he made a big impact on who I have become today. RIP my friend.

I'm sure it will be but I agree with Phuque they are ..I feel it all time it's weird but in good way..it's their spirited that you feel so they never really leave you ..

You have to also give yourself time to grieve ...

I lost my husband in Mar 07 and then my mom in Oct 07..Way too much too soon to deal with.....almost had a breakdown but knew enough to get medical help.. Lost my father in 1975 by suicide.. so tragic
My condolences to all who have lost someone.. its never easy..