Irish_Dude made a post about "The one that got away." Do men more often experience regret over past relationships than women? Or vice-versa?

I'd say: vice-versa. Women are humans too... and have feelings...

I dont think men are as hardwired to feel regret as women are.

To further elaborate, I think men are often trained to see relationships as conquests and women as commitments. I think it makes it easier for men to go from one to the next without regret.

In my opinion when some men aren't ready when women are and down they road the men can't find what they're looking for and often times remember the one that got away, the one they should have treated right so she wouldn't leave him, etc.


I'm sure some women have done the same...

We have all heard 'dont hate the player hate the game"

I think its a common sentiment with men. Its a game for far too many but there is a stigma attached to women who treat it like a game. Its just the double standard of society.

Men have feelings too, and they can be hurt. It's a myth that women perpetuate that all men are interested in is sex.

I have no regrets..with relationships, others things yes, past relationships no.

I think it is about even but when guys do really get hurt I think they carry it a lot longer. Sad when you see someone get crushed and it just closes their heart.

I often have regrets with past relationships...

my behaviours, my mindset....all sorts of things.

It's called growth.

I can't believe you just said that, and if you believe that, you don't understand the male psyche at all. I and several other male friends of mine have been burned by arrogant egotistical woman that think that if they shake their booty and give it up, they can have any man they want. This is not a respectable woman, this is a whore.

I think you are on to something there. If men are "slower" to commit to a serious relationship, or fall in love, wouldn't that create that exact situation? By the time the man commits, the woman has moved on...
Good post

Oh dear!!!!


Sounds like a beer and popcorn moment...

A woman shaking her booty and thinking she can get any man she wants is NOT A WHORE.. She is possibly conceited and egotistical but not a whore.. Just as a man doing the same thing would be arrogant.. PLEASE get your definitions correct before labeling people especially a gender of which you are NOT!

Jess, I'll be honest here, I regret my last relationship. If I had a time machine, I would go back to August 31, 2005. And believe me, I would alter the timeline!

men talk about it more

I think his emphasis was on 'giving it up.' And he is right, I dont understand the male psyche, I can only have an opinion on what appears to happen. There are good men out there, I was just saying in our culture it is EASIER for a man to go from one to the next without conscious than it is a woman. There is extreme stigma there for a woman that just isnt there for a man.

I suspect that both genders feel exactly the same emotions....however it has not been societally encouraged in previous years for men to admit to having emotions...well maybe two...mildly happy, and cranky.

So oftentimes men do not express what they are feeling, or may not even acknowledge their feelings to themselves.

I remember reading a study years ago, that showed men fall harder, faster than women, and take much longer to heal.


(Am donning my flak jacket....INCOMING!!!!)

women are not human .yall are like bats and suck the life out of us men

Sorry I offended you, I clearly did not intend that. I have been cheated on by such a woman that believed this fundamental, and that she could wear the mask, and tempt any man she wanted to get what she wanted. I don't mean to generalize, but I have been burned before, and I am a little biased. I do realize that all women are different, but I do see patterns and trends.