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I think it is about even but when guys do really get hurt I think they carry it a lot longer. Sad when you see someone get crushed and it just closes their heart. I think you are correct, men do carry it longer. However I have seen a lot of bitter women also. When it comes to "the one that got away", is it men or women most likely to regret and pine over the ending of a past relationship? |
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Irish_Dude made a post about "The one that got away." Do men more often experience regret over past relationships than women? Or vice-versa? Ya, I think more men have regrets. I regret none of my decisions of leaving any of the men I have. Once Im gone....Im gone! 
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I dont think men are as hardwired to feel regret as women are. To further elaborate, I think men are often trained to see relationships as conquests and women as commitments. I think it makes it easier for men to go from one to the next without regret. I can't believe you just said that, and if you believe that, you don't understand the male psyche at all. I and several other male friends of mine have been burned by arrogant egotistical woman that think that if they shake their booty and give it up, they can have any man they want. This is not a respectable woman, this is a whore. A woman shaking her booty and thinking she can get any man she wants is NOT A WHORE.. She is possibly conceited and egotistical but not a whore.. Just as a man doing the same thing would be arrogant.. PLEASE get your definitions correct before labeling people especially a gender of which you are NOT! I think his emphasis was on 'giving it up.' And he is right, I dont understand the male psyche, I can only have an opinion on what appears to happen. There are good men out there, I was just saying in our culture it is EASIER for a man to go from one to the next without conscious than it is a woman. There is extreme stigma there for a woman that just isnt there for a man. Then my apologies Cats, I misread.... |
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Jess, I'll be honest here, I regret my last relationship. If I had a time machine, I would go back to August 31, 2005. And believe me, I would alter the timeline! I've been reading your post history Cats....and you sound as though you have really been through the wringer! It feels as though you are still hurting...still a bit stunned...and stung. My heart goes out to you...(hope I am not embarrassing you)...I hear the rawness of the last relationship in your posts. 
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yanno....Ive always wanted to date a motorcycle!!!
 
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I dont think men are as hardwired to feel regret as women are. To further elaborate, I think men are often trained to see relationships as conquests and women as commitments. I think it makes it easier for men to go from one to the next without regret. I can't believe you just said that, and if you believe that, you don't understand the male psyche at all. I and several other male friends of mine have been burned by arrogant egotistical woman that think that if they shake their booty and give it up, they can have any man they want. This is not a respectable woman, this is a whore. A woman shaking her booty and thinking she can get any man she wants is NOT A WHORE.. She is possibly conceited and egotistical but not a whore.. Just as a man doing the same thing would be arrogant.. PLEASE get your definitions correct before labeling people especially a gender of which you are NOT! Sorry I offended you, I clearly did not intend that. I have been cheated on by such a woman that believed this fundamental, and that she could wear the mask, and tempt any man she wanted to get what she wanted. I don't mean to generalize, but I have been burned before, and I am a little biased. I do realize that all women are different, but I do see patterns and trends. I'm sorry this happened to you and that I misread your post.. You're right not all women are the same... There are some skanky people out there men and women, some just aren't right.... |
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There are friends and potential friends no longer in my life who I think about from time to time. Certain situations that I regret not handling differently, but I feel if someone is really meant to be in your life, nothing will stop them. Friends and lovers realize each others imperfections and try to deal with them together to make things better. If someone got 'away' its probably for the best.
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yanno....Ive always wanted to date a motorcycle!!! Hahahaha.....you could even bring a friend along on a double date! 
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Irish_Dude made a post about "The one that got away." Do men more often experience regret over past relationships than women? Or vice-versa?  men talk about it more How have you been Mirror? I would have believed women talk about it more... Does that mean men experience it more? Maybe women are better at forgetting their past relationships and focusing on the present or future? |
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yanno....Ive always wanted to date a motorcycle!!!
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Irish_Dude made a post about "The one that got away." Do men more often experience regret over past relationships than women? Or vice-versa? men talk about it more How have you been Mirror? I would have believed women talk about it more... Does that mean men experience it more? Maybe women are better at forgetting their past relationships and focusing on the present or future? I still hold to it is equal....women appear to 'move on' quicker....usually they are the primary caregivers of children, and have to 'suck it up and get on with it'....they are more social creatures...and so tend to reach out for support. (Please read my previous post about men and expressing emotions.) I also feel men feel an equal amount of pain...usually they are removed from the family unit...new surrounds, no family to come home to...isolation... |
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Jess, I'll be honest here, I regret my last relationship. If I had a time machine, I would go back to August 31, 2005. And believe me, I would alter the timeline! I've been reading your post history Cats....and you sound as though you have really been through the wringer! It feels as though you are still hurting...still a bit stunned...and stung. My heart goes out to you...(hope I am not embarrassing you)...I hear the rawness of the last relationship in your posts. Not at all. I put myself on the cross to crucify me. Read all and learn all you can about me, if you're interested. I have nothing to hide, and I will always tell you the truth. I am humbled that you took the time to investigate me further, and you sound like you could be a very good friend, and you know what the true meaning of friendship is. If this is the case, then God bless you. |
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Jess, I'll be honest here, I regret my last relationship. If I had a time machine, I would go back to August 31, 2005. And believe me, I would alter the timeline! I've been reading your post history Cats....and you sound as though you have really been through the wringer! It feels as though you are still hurting...still a bit stunned...and stung. My heart goes out to you...(hope I am not embarrassing you)...I hear the rawness of the last relationship in your posts. Not at all. I put myself on the cross to crucify me. Read all and learn all you can about me, if you're interested. I have nothing to hide, and I will always tell you the truth. I am humbled that you took the time to investigate me further, and you sound like you could be a very good friend, and you know what the true meaning of friendship is. If this is the case, then God bless you. Anyone who can sling a bit of friendly mud at drunk, loud, angry australian women is alright in my books...
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Jess, I'll be honest here, I regret my last relationship. If I had a time machine, I would go back to August 31, 2005. And believe me, I would alter the timeline! I've been reading your post history Cats....and you sound as though you have really been through the wringer! It feels as though you are still hurting...still a bit stunned...and stung. My heart goes out to you...(hope I am not embarrassing you)...I hear the rawness of the last relationship in your posts. Not at all. I put myself on the cross to crucify me. Read all and learn all you can about me, if you're interested. I have nothing to hide, and I will always tell you the truth. I am humbled that you took the time to investigate me further, and you sound like you could be a very good friend, and you know what the true meaning of friendship is. If this is the case, then God bless you.
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you know....I dont think my cats would love you. They hate all men!!! Hahahahaa....so do my kids....lucky Dan is impervious to kids hating him...
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Jess, I'll be honest here, I regret my last relationship. If I had a time machine, I would go back to August 31, 2005. And believe me, I would alter the timeline! I've been reading your post history Cats....and you sound as though you have really been through the wringer! It feels as though you are still hurting...still a bit stunned...and stung. My heart goes out to you...(hope I am not embarrassing you)...I hear the rawness of the last relationship in your posts. Not at all. I put myself on the cross to crucify me. Read all and learn all you can about me, if you're interested. I have nothing to hide, and I will always tell you the truth. I am humbled that you took the time to investigate me further, and you sound like you could be a very good friend, and you know what the true meaning of friendship is. If this is the case, then God bless you. Anyone who can sling a bit of friendly mud at drunk, loud, angry australian women is alright in my books... Maybe I was too hasty on wanting the U.S. to declare war on Australia. But this Aussie I was with turned my world upside down. I am really hurting from our recent breakup, I gave her everything, and she put 100 knives in my back, I would sincerely hope that my ex didn't represent the average Aussie woman. |
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Jess, I'll be honest here, I regret my last relationship. If I had a time machine, I would go back to August 31, 2005. And believe me, I would alter the timeline! I've been reading your post history Cats....and you sound as though you have really been through the wringer! It feels as though you are still hurting...still a bit stunned...and stung. My heart goes out to you...(hope I am not embarrassing you)...I hear the rawness of the last relationship in your posts. Not at all. I put myself on the cross to crucify me. Read all and learn all you can about me, if you're interested. I have nothing to hide, and I will always tell you the truth. I am humbled that you took the time to investigate me further, and you sound like you could be a very good friend, and you know what the true meaning of friendship is. If this is the case, then God bless you. Anyone who can sling a bit of friendly mud at drunk, loud, angry australian women is alright in my books... Maybe I was too hasty on wanting the U.S. to declare war on Australia. But this Aussie I was with turned my world upside down. I am really hurting from our recent breakup, I gave her everything, and she put 100 knives in my back, I would sincerely hope that my ex didn't represent the average Aussie woman. Probably.....but then I am the exception to the rule...  And one crazy aussie doesn't maketh the country.
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Jess, I'll be honest here, I regret my last relationship. If I had a time machine, I would go back to August 31, 2005. And believe me, I would alter the timeline! I've been reading your post history Cats....and you sound as though you have really been through the wringer! It feels as though you are still hurting...still a bit stunned...and stung. My heart goes out to you...(hope I am not embarrassing you)...I hear the rawness of the last relationship in your posts. Not at all. I put myself on the cross to crucify me. Read all and learn all you can about me, if you're interested. I have nothing to hide, and I will always tell you the truth. I am humbled that you took the time to investigate me further, and you sound like you could be a very good friend, and you know what the true meaning of friendship is. If this is the case, then God bless you. That's okay, hon, I have two tuxedo cats, both female, and over the last decade, they only like men. Any time a female comes over, they hide. I don't understand why, but that's what they do. |
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Okay, Oz, I will extend an olive branch, if we can be friends, then you have gotten through to me, and that I just had a bad apple and not the whole tree.
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Okay, Oz, I will extend an olive branch, if we can be friends, then you have gotten through to me, and that I just had a bad apple and not the whole tree. Ok...Cats...here is how I see it. You met a woman....fell in lust...love...a puddle....whatever.. you gave...she took. you kept giving....she kept taking. Now the tough love bit.... Ready? Strapped in? Mate...you dont give yourself for over three years to a hellish nightmare, unless you are 100% masochistic...so in all of that time, there MUST have been some good stuff. Time to remember the good stuff, and shake off the not great stuff. You aren't dead. You aren't a street person, homeless...you even got to keep your cats! It sucks...but you had a not great relationship. You got burned. Welcome. Now move on up into the big boy panty world... and let a lot of the yuk go. If you are still doing court stuff...then it will take a little longer. I was loathe to comment on your desire to have your ex sectioned in that thread last night...as I was concerned for your motives. I suspect there's a whole heap of anger in there...and wondered if it was vendetta motivated. You have the potential to greatness.... you have had the hard yards...you know what it takes to have a great relationship, by being accountable and responsible for YOUR part, and learning from the past. Time to Grow. You had a relationship with a woman....who happened to be from Australia. So by default do you condemn all women? I think not. |
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