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Topic: Would you rather
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Sat 10/03/09 09:56 AM
talk or listen? Don't say both. It has been my observation, especially lately, that people have one or the other preference, mostly talking.

I used to be much more comfortable as a talker. However, recently I've noticed most people are much more interested in telling you all about them as opposed to hearing about you. This has been particularly evident to me lately due to a number of circumstances. Thus, I've come to be cast in the role of sympathetic ear more often than not.

How about you? If I see too many listeners I'll know you are not being honest, because I must stress that is NOT THE NORM.

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Sat 10/03/09 09:59 AM
my dad said we have two ears and one mouth because we were meant to listen twice as much as we talk. Im a listener.

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Sat 10/03/09 09:59 AM
Believe it or not, Im more of a listener. You can get way more info, feel for a person when just sitting back and listening.

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Sat 10/03/09 10:03 AM
depends on if I'm right or wrong in the situation laugh If I'm right about something or I feel something is right, I will keep on talking until someone listens. If I'm in the wrong, I will listen to what you have to say and maybe take some advice. Yes, I do admit when I'm wrong.

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Sat 10/03/09 10:06 AM
I studied psychology for a long time, and one of the things I learned is that most people's favorite subject is themselves -- which makes sense, on some level, because that's what they know the most about.

In real life, I'm about 95% listener. I rarely say anything about myself to anybody; anybody who has been around me at all knows I'm the "designated counselor" for anyone who wanders into my circle.


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Sat 10/03/09 10:10 AM

I studied psychology for a long time, and one of the things I learned is that most people's favorite subject is themselves -- which makes sense, on some level, because that's what they know the most about.

In real life, I'm about 95% listener. I rarely say anything about myself to anybody; anybody who has been around me at all knows I'm the "designated counselor" for anyone who wanders into my circle.


People may love to talk about themselves. But as silly as it may sounds, often they really don't know themselves at all.

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Sat 10/03/09 10:13 AM


I studied psychology for a long time, and one of the things I learned is that most people's favorite subject is themselves -- which makes sense, on some level, because that's what they know the most about.

In real life, I'm about 95% listener. I rarely say anything about myself to anybody; anybody who has been around me at all knows I'm the "designated counselor" for anyone who wanders into my circle.


People may love to talk about themselves. But as silly as it may sounds, often they really don't know themselves at all.


They think they do, though. And many of them like to talk about it.

It's true, though -- there are a lot of people running on auto-pilot. Ask them about their motivations, why they do the things they do, and they draw a blank.

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Sat 10/03/09 10:19 AM
Edited by TxsGal3333 on Sat 10/03/09 10:22 AM
Ohhhh hell my Dad use to tell me I would talk to a telephone pole if it would talk back..........Sooooooooooooo I can not lie I'm a talker and those that have talked to me or meet me know that I'm like and every ready battery. I never run out of something to say heheheh.....


Hummmm Mitch (along with a few others) no smart remarks on that one now............:tongue: :tongue: :tongue: :tongue: :tongue::laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:


But I don't think that I talk about myself all the time just everyday stuff.....

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Sat 10/03/09 10:23 AM

Ohhhh hell my Dad use to tell me I would talk to a telephone pole if it would talk back..........Sooooooooooooo I can not lie I'm a talker and those that have talked to me or meet me know that I'm like and every ready battery. I never run out of something to say heheheh.....


Hummmm Mitch (along with a few others) no smart remarks on that one now............:tongue: :tongue: :tongue: :tongue: :tongue::laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:



I'm merely observing.... I wouldn't dream of a smartazz comment. laugh

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Sat 10/03/09 10:27 AM

depends on if I'm right or wrong in the situation laugh If I'm right about something or I feel something is right, I will keep on talking until someone listens. If I'm in the wrong, I will listen to what you have to say and maybe take some advice. Yes, I do admit when I'm wrong.



I'm not necessarily talking about right or wrong situations. In general, when you are having a conversation is it mainly about you and your life or what the other person is going through? I've found over the years that it is generally one way or the other...

For instance, "Oh, I'm sorry your mother died. Did I tell you I had a really great date the other night?"

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Sat 10/03/09 10:27 AM
Lmao, hell even I know your sitting there laughing your azz off going yeah that is the truth hell hard to get a word in edge wise when talking to her...........noway slaphead :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

Ohhhh well at least I do admit it.......hehehebigsmile

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Sat 10/03/09 10:30 AM

talk or listen? Don't say both. It has been my observation, especially lately, that people have one or the other preference, mostly talking.

I used to be much more comfortable as a talker. However, recently I've noticed most people are much more interested in telling you all about them as opposed to hearing about you. This has been particularly evident to me lately due to a number of circumstances. Thus, I've come to be cast in the role of sympathetic ear more often than not.

How about you? If I see too many listeners I'll know you are not being honest, because I must stress that is NOT THE NORM.


I'd rather listen.

I'd be glad to lend an !!

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Sat 10/03/09 10:30 AM

Lmao, hell even I know your sitting there laughing your azz off going yeah that is the truth hell hard to get a word in edge wise when talking to her...........noway slaphead :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

Ohhhh well at least I do admit it.......hehehebigsmile


Yeah, and they say we New Yawkers are fast tawkers. laugh

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Sat 10/03/09 10:35 AM
Whenever me and my girlfriends get together its talk talk talk from all of us.:banana: :banana: laugh laugh

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Sat 10/03/09 10:38 AM


depends on if I'm right or wrong in the situation laugh If I'm right about something or I feel something is right, I will keep on talking until someone listens. If I'm in the wrong, I will listen to what you have to say and maybe take some advice. Yes, I do admit when I'm wrong.



I'm not necessarily talking about right or wrong situations. In general, when you are having a conversation is it mainly about you and your life or what the other person is going through? I've found over the years that it is generally one way or the other...

For instance, "Oh, I'm sorry your mother died. Did I tell you I had a really great date the other night?"
I had a situation like this the other night. I love to talk and tell stories but I also allow people to tell their stories and have a discussion. I HATE being interrupted so I try not to do it to others.
I was out with 2 friends. One of them was constantly interrupting us to tell her story. Which of course was always better than the one we were telling.
If I lost 20 pounds, she had to tell how she lost 40 pounds. That kind of thing. Pisses me off.

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Sat 10/03/09 10:39 AM
bigsmile MirrorMirror listenbigsmile

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Sat 10/03/09 10:40 AM

bigsmile MirrorMirror listenbigsmile
ssshhshshhh ... I'm talking here :angry: laugh laugh

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Sat 10/03/09 10:44 AM
Oh, I like to talk...but it can't be one-sided for very long! laugh Besides, it's like most things...quality counts! When you're listening...do you really hear? And when you open your mouth is it worth hearing for others? :wink:

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Sat 10/03/09 10:46 AM

Oh, I like to talk...but it can't be one-sided for very long! laugh Besides, it's like most things...quality counts! When you're listening...do you really hear? And when you open your mouth is it worth hearing for others? :wink:
my hearing is fine. It's my listening that gets all screwed up ohwell laugh

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Sat 10/03/09 10:47 AM
some people listen when another speaks

and some people just wait for their turn to speak

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