Well said...

yes.. exactly... are they really listening? or waiting to jump in....

I do make it a point to really try and listen to what other's have to say. If you aren't listening to them, you're making them not feel very important.

Well said...and true.

I'm a much better listener than I am a speaker.

Listen, the wise one speaks for he has something to say, the fool because he has to say something.

My first endeavour in ALL communications is to be a good, active listener first and foremost!

All relationships really are an art, that art being dance ...

A healthy communication balance is the prime currency in any highly successful relationship.

The dance is usually a 70/30 interplay balance that shifts conversely between the 2 players to even out to a reciprocal measure of the desired 50/50 balance on the whole.

This is optimal in a friendship, partnership and a romance.

When this does not occur, and the 70/30 stays 'stuck' and one~sided, it often devolves into a 90/10 balance, with one person feeling used, unheard and unimportant to the incessant 'chatter'.

When one of the persons becomes a mere live current events journal, sounding board and designated trouble shooter to the other, w/ out healthy turn around?

The 10 per center realizes the other member in the dynamic is far too self involved to ever really care about their life and well being. The relationship becomes a burden to that quieter player, and they come to dread hearing from the egoist.

The demise of respect and relationship is then predestined, and friendship and curtailed dialogue is inevitable. The dance tapers off, dwindles and dies.

It really does take two to do a GREAT tango!

talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk

Listen

Listen well.

I like to listen, you learn a lot that way.

i'm almost afraid to say 'listener' now.



because i tend to be a shy person, i'm almost tempted to respond with listener right away; however, i also probably try to hide the shyness level by overchatting and do have the ability to strike up conversation with total strangers.

so maybe i'm going to pay attention to myself a little bit more and i bet you're right in that i tend to be more of a talker, although i don't necessarily agree that it's mostly talk about myself.

wow, what a bunch of jibberish right there that was

Pays to proof, now corrected ... :

My main endeavour in ALL communications is to be a good, active listener, first and foremost!

All relationships really are an ART, that art being DANCE ...

A healthy communication balance is the prime currency in any highly successful relationship.

The dance is usually a 70/30 interplay balance that shifts conversely between the 2 players to even out to a reciprocal, average measure of the desired 50/50 balance on the whole.

This is optimal in a friendship, partnership and a romance.

When this does not occur, and the 70/30 stays 'stuck' and one~sided, it often devolves into a 90/10 balance, with one person feeling used, unheard and unimportant to the incessant 'chatter'.

When one of the persons becomes a mere live, current-events journal, sounding board and designated trouble shooter to the other, w/ out healthy turn around?

The 10 per center realizes the other member in the dynamic is far too self involved to ever really care about their life and well being. The relationship becomes a burden to that quieter player, and they come to dread hearing from the egoist.

The demise of respect and relationship is then predestined, then friendship's collapse and curtailed dialogue is inevitable. The dance tapers off, dwindles and dies.

Shhhhhhh ...

It really does take two to do a GREAT tango!

It is tough to listen to someone talking non sense while I am just listening like a damass . So i prefer to talk .