I am a very confident person in general

After a few disappointments on site dating I have decided to proactively look for a partner

I spoke to this lady a few weeks and then when I thought she was comfortable I asked if she wanted to meet me. She said I was scary.

Yet someone I wasn't even pursuing told me not to pursue her just to stay friends and I wasn't even thinking of pursuing her.

Now I know I am eccentric Englishman, I know I fool around and joke around a lot to the point that may get on some people's nerves. I know I can be a pain with my bubblegum philosophy. But am I scary?

Why is it that they talk very nice for months on end and the moment the word Starbucks or dinner comes into conversation they run away.
Can someone explain what is it? Good luck on here Robert

Guys do this to, so I feel part of it's just the mentality of certain users enjoying the closeness and intimacy you can build with someone online, or even the phone but don't ever want to commit to meeting in real life because it destroys the illusion.

For what ever reason, it doesn't appear that she was right for you, don't give up hope as several success stories on here prove it is possible!

And now I will just drool over the thought of your British Accent

Well you may look like popeye and i maybe olive but your not Brutus thank god lol i would dust myself down sweetie and put it down to experiance....her loss. Anna x

Try ASKING her why!!!! Why is it that men find it so hard to ask questions???????

Guys do this to, so I feel part of it's just the mentality of certain users enjoying the closeness and intimacy you can build with someone online, or even the phone but don't ever want to commit to meeting in real life because it destroys the illusion.

For what ever reason, it doesn't appear that she was right for you, don't give up hope as several success stories on here prove it is possible!

And now I will just drool over the thought of your British Accent

Interesting point. I admit that I wish I hadn't met a few of the losers I met off the internet, they were soooo much nicer online. So maybe she's had the same experience? Would have been nice for her to just be honest though.

Its a risk we take,,,keep pushing on...

Just messing with ya guy. You got a sense of humor. Not many folks like that around anymore. You'll find somebody who appreciates it I'm sure.

Ah women, one of the greatest Mysteries of the Universe.
Who knows why?
Many possible reasons have been given here and all or none might apply.

Move on.

I am a very confident person in general

After a few disappointments on site dating I have decided to proactively look for a partner

I spoke to this lady a few weeks and then when I thought she was comfortable I asked if she wanted to meet me. She said I was scary.

Yet someone I wasn't even pursuing told me not to pursue her just to stay friends and I wasn't even thinking of pursuing her.

Now I know I am eccentric Englishman, I know I fool around and joke around a lot to the point that may get on some people's nerves. I know I can be a pain with my bubblegum philosophy. But am I scary?

Why is it that they talk very nice for months on end and the moment the word Starbucks or dinner comes into conversation they run away.
Can someone explain what is it?

If you read read the post I asked why she said because I was scary and when pushed further she refered to the pictures in the profile. Now bash your head to the wall as much as you like


Yes I know that she said you are scarey, did you ask her WHY she thought you were scarey?

I reiterate it again this time bald letters may be you see it this time. That means when asked further she thought the pictures in the profile were scary capish???