I am a very confident person in general

After a few disappointments on site dating I have decided to proactively look for a partner

I spoke to this lady a few weeks and then when I thought she was comfortable I asked if she wanted to meet me. She said I was scary.

Yet someone I wasn't even pursuing told me not to pursue her just to stay friends and I wasn't even thinking of pursuing her.

Now I know I am eccentric Englishman, I know I fool around and joke around a lot to the point that may get on some people's nerves. I know I can be a pain with my bubblegum philosophy. But am I scary?

Why is it that they talk very nice for months on end and the moment the word Starbucks or dinner comes into conversation they run away.
Can someone explain what is it?

Ya got me swinging. I'd have a coffee with ya. If you bought,,,,,,and sat at another table.

Nope, can not explain that, I have no idea what they are thinking..your not scary.

Your hardly scary...

Don't worry about it Bob, your a sweetheart!

If I were you and had been chatting for weeks and she said that I think I would have to ask her what she meant. Apparently not too scary to be chatting with.

On-line getting to know someone is difficult at best unless your personalities really mesh. Keep trying Robert. You will find her.

Well for what its worth- I don't think you are scary- maybe she was just not comfortable actually meeting anyone at this time- Some women feel more comfortable talking on the phone or chatting online but aren't confident enough to take that next step.

Don't take it personally- we women are sometimes confusing yet completely wonderful creatures

I think it just boils down to being confident in yourself and evidently they were not

The most important piece of advice I can give you can be summed up in one word my friend..........NEXT!!!!!

I am not worrying I am just trying to find out the mentality
what makes people think that
I guess distance makes people feel safe

She may just not be ready right now...




But you're not scary.....






I am

I also have no problem with that but why not say Bob I don't feel comfortable at this time No is an answer too isn't it?
They have no problem talking about what they like and what they don't like so what is the problem with a straight No?

Holly smoke!!!!! you are too

she said my profile and the choice of the pictures and me making faces scares her

F@#king hell what next

ARE NOT!!! ...hehehehe

I buy you a coffee go and sit where you like

Well you may look like popeye and i maybe olive but your not Brutus thank god lol i would dust myself down sweetie and put it down to experiance....her loss. Anna x

Ok, so I had to do it. I perved ya. You only have a few real pics on your profile but you're smiling and they appear recent. Didn't see any of you making faces, except popeye which is funny. And your profile is lovely.

I'm with Giggles on this one............NEXT!

You are not at all scary to me, but consider the source ...

I find you quite intelligent, entertaining, flippant and, yes, eccentric.

We eccentrics must find another!

I lived in England for years and had that sorta humour when I arrived, no integrative educationals necessary.

Yanno it flies right over many other cultures heads, 'tisn't personal ... just misunderstood.

Few have ever really 'gotten' me and it informs me.

Dan was apparently thought of as quite rude for some period here; then folks finally cottoned on that it was humour ... just a joke folks!

Just consider it a well defined narrowing for your search... as I do, it eliminates the 'noncandidates' for you, phew!!!

Thus, the screening process is done for you ...

I think they're afraid of your big pipe.

Your trying to figure out the mentality of these women...of women..

Good luck with that.