You asked for advice, and they gave it to you, you should be prepared to get answers you don't like, not everyone is going to agree with you, just because you think they should. With that said, I don't have an answer for you, because I don't want to live with a man- ever, so for me there is never a good time. And no, I don't want a family life either, all that white picket fence bs doesn't interest me. In my perfect world, if I had a bf (god forbid) he'd have his own place and I'd have mine and we'd visit every so often and then go home to sleep- alone. But most men don't want that, so whatever....

If you want to move in with her and she's willing, then go for it. You don't need the approval of a bunch of strangers who don't know you and don't really care one way or the other. I wish you luck.

When you are first in a relationship there is a rush of chemicals in your brain that aid in the bonding process. It is a time of bliss ... you see what you have in common ... you don't see the 'annoying' little quirks. It takes awhile for the chemistry of your brains to return to normal. That is when you get to see what is real...

I'd wait until then before making the move if it were me ...

Good luck whatever you decide. All experiences are opportunities to grow and evolve.

just because someone doesn't want another person living with them, it doesn't mean they are looking for one-night-stands.

perphaps they believe in the concept of marriage?

I'm tossing in another "never".

Or they are afraid of putting them under the stoop if they get out of hand...

that, or they just prefer their own space. i'm never getting married, and i still don't want a man in my house. but that's unusual, from what i've heard....

I counted 5 "never"
and I am going to make it an even 6

Never.

truthfully I'm not completely against living together. But it can kill a new relationship. Why rush into it?

I asked my new GF to move in with me, only a couple of days after meeting her. Her birthday is Sunday and I am going to ask her to marry me on Saturday!!! I don't give a crap what the proper time-line is for meeting someone and asking them to spend your life with you. Do what "you" want to do and don't worry about what "normal" people are doing, cause that might not apply to you... Good luck!!

The only thing that can "kill" a relationship is being a dumbass... If you can't live together, then you shouldn't even be together.

Well, I am very old fashioned, so I would say never as well. I think if its that serious, one should not forfeit their residence while the other maintains one. Instead, I think, both parties should look together for a place that will be BOTH of theirs. That way, they have both invested just as much of a risk and have that much more motivation to work at it.

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I was engaged to a woman for 7yrs, yet we kept separate residence, if your ready to move in together might as well get married.

when you give her that big diamond ring. If she's good enough to live with then she's good enough to marry!

never before noon

if you are having doubts, and posting the question here to get some reassurance... seems a bit soon. I would think, if you both wanted it... there would be no quesitons in your mind (or hers)...

just MHO:....

There's always that possibility, it's scary down there, even with the blanket...

That depends... are there kids involved? How old are you both? Religion?

There are just so many variables, but I'd say at least six months. Six months is a good time line to know if a person is the one or not. However, if you know that, if they are the one... might as well get engaged unless you don't plan to marry at all.

In Colorado if you set up housekeeping, you are legally married.

I knew a guy who allowed a woman to spend one night at his apartment because she was having boyfriend trouble. He was being kind.

She called the police and accused him of abuse and they locked him up in jail and when he got out everything in his apartment was gone.

Legally he had no leg to stand on because she convinced the authorities that she was his legal common law wife.

Get married, don't 'move in' or let anyone move in.

After I've checked the public records and freecreditreport.com!
LOL jk