I'm just wondering what is the matter with life?? lol Why is it so difficult to find someone?? It's like the ones you want don't want you, and ones you don't want want you!!! What the heck is that?? lol idk it's hard and I'm beginning to doubt myself...Anyways, discuss away about relationships and it's struggles/difficulty ok go!! haha

Church..You need to attend church..All great loyal woman are their

welcome to my song and dance

Really?? They all seem taken when I go...hmmmmm

I am old fashioned and corny, I know, but,,,

I think the best way to find love is to not be looking. If you stop thinking about what you want in a partner (specifically) and start thinking in terms of what makea a great friend,,,then you may find a soulmate in the pool of friends you meet.

My first marriage was great up until the infidelity because I marred a great friend. My second marriage proved much harder because we werent true friends first.

so, if I am ever single again, that's going to be my approach ,,,romance is after friendship, so focus on making great friends (and if you are actually mutually attracted to any of them, thats even better,,lol)

Wow that was very informative post lol thanks for that. It's good to hear honest insight.

I believe that is called natural selection........

Well, my friend...all I can say is the things I thought would be most difficult in life turned out easier for me, and what I thought would be easier - relationships - proved more difficult. However, it starts by putting yourself in a position to win...that is, find the best possible match. Bars - probably - aren't your best bet. Look for interest groups...food, wine, surfing, golf, horseshoes, hell, whatever floats your boat.
Then, be honest...totally. And let it be known that's important to you. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Talk about everything. Be true to yourself, and the right person...in fact, a few of the right persons will find you. I've lived long enough to know...there is more than just one for us out there...keep looking...don't get discouraged. Women can sense that...and you just seem pathetic. LOL

Hit it & quit it

You want the wrong people? Some people are really just out of your league. I've never really had any difficulty finding someone, my only problem is I don't want to find anyone right now.

Yes I have advice for you. Read my post in this thread.

http://mingle2.com/topic/show/246022

It's long, but worth it.

lol...Thanks guys for the responses. But the thing that really troubles me is that I can get women. And right when I think I really like them all of a sudden I don't. I don't know if I'm just being WAY to picky or what but whenever I do come across that one girl that I can like marry no problem, she's like blah not havin it...stupid. Wish I could just swap the feelings lol

Dude....yer 20....being flaky ( and this isn't meant to offend you ) kinda goes with the territory.

Enjoy life for what it is right now.

Lower your standards, that's what most people do.

I don't go to church but I'm still AWESOME (and great and loyal)... just saying

www.loweredexpectations.com?

So many little factors are in play....

makes it easier i've noticed. if you don't expect much, you're never disappointed.

In my experience young people are not particularly good at showing they are into someone,to the person they want, or accepting someone is interested in them. Its all kind of a game til people get real with themselves.

lol I've tried that...turns out if you're just not satisfied, then your just not satisfied...at least for me