Topic: Do you believe there can be love after cheating?
babygirl98270's photo
Fri 09/11/09 03:44 PM
Edited by babygirl98270 on Fri 09/11/09 04:23 PM
LOVE maybe but I think cheating is the ultimate betrayal And the one who cheats does not love

mythicalman22's photo
Fri 09/11/09 03:55 PM
well the person who cheated was obviously not in love so I am not sure...Maybe they might fall in love after they cheat on there mate..Who knows...But probably not

earthytaurus76's photo
Fri 09/11/09 03:58 PM
If youre stupid.

Katzenschnauzer's photo
Sat 09/12/09 03:45 AM
It would be hard for him to love again when I've rearranged his face and his unit has been re-attached with the wrong end up.

Bubba43's photo
Sat 09/12/09 04:27 AM
Yes...but the reason has to be found why the cheating mate cheated and from there it must be found if they would choose to not cheat after the issue could be resolved.

papersmile's photo
Sat 09/12/09 04:32 AM
it takes a lot for me to completely close a door on someone that i love, and cheating would probably be no exception (especially if we shared children and my partner and i were still in love).

a 'serial' cheater is another matter entirely, but i'd need to be in the situation before i could say what i'd actually do in reality.


no photo
Sat 09/12/09 08:05 AM
Once a cheat, always a cheat?

trgirl's photo
Sat 09/12/09 08:11 AM
not for me...

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Sat 09/12/09 10:24 AM


love yeah

Scrabble no



Well said, Quietman...
My writing skills are not that succinct.
So I obviously have to use alot more words to get my point across !

Will love endure? It depends on alot of factors.
The trust will be shaken, both people will be changed, and the relationship will be forever altered.
If there was cheating, there was never real love there in the first place, at least on the part of the cheater.
The relationship had its problems, any of millions of possibilities there...
The wronged partner will respond based on the depth of love he/she has.
Because love endures.
The resulting decisions to be made will depend on the personalities and degree of love both persons have, the quality of the relationship, about a million other factors, and communication, communication, communication.
Every person/every couple will have a different outcome.


But, yeah...
Love is not destroyed by the stupid mistakes we all make.
But some mistakes forever destroy relationships.

No scrabble sad tears

Tootsweet13's photo
Sat 09/12/09 02:17 PM
I think it's possible. But rare. It takes a LOT to rebuild trust.

4974's photo
Sat 09/12/09 02:18 PM
been there tried that...no it doesn't work..without trust you have nothing

TimeIsiNow's photo
Sat 09/12/09 02:24 PM

been there tried that...no it doesn't work..without trust you have nothing


Totally agree, you may still love the person even though you've been cheated on. But you can't 100% trust ever again, so the relationship is dead.

Cheat on me once & you're gone, no exceptions, no excuses.

PacificStar48's photo
Sat 09/12/09 02:40 PM
Someone who includes cheating in their choices of acceptable behavior doesn't have the same definition of love that I have so no.

PacificStar48's photo
Sat 09/12/09 02:44 PM

Yes...but the reason has to be found why the cheating mate cheated and from there it must be found if they would choose to not cheat after the issue could be resolved.


That is real simple; they are more self centered than couple centered and you can not change basic character so there is no resolution unless you want to make the rest of your life subserviant to the cheating partners. I don't do second class person well but whatever turns you on.

SandiNic54's photo
Sat 09/12/09 03:10 PM
nopedrinker

Samsen's photo
Sat 09/12/09 05:21 PM
My ex cheated and used the most asinine excuse: "I was drunk, and I don't remember anything."

Ok, so I have always been a firm believer in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" saying. So, I have never put up with it in the past.

Note the "in the past..." I thought this time I'd try to work it out.

It didn't work. I found myself wondering and worrying every time alcohol was involved and I wasn't around. I made myself sick with worry.

The best thing I can say is: "You can always forgive, but you'll never forget."

So many people are worth one's time. Don't waste it on someone who can't see that.

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Sat 09/12/09 05:27 PM
I think it depends where your at in your relationship. for instance, if your just dating someone... dating mean there seeing other people right? Then there is a possibIlity either are going to cheat... Now one may be more in love faster then the other while dating and thinking there is no way that person would cheat on me.... Thats when one gets caught, and fur flys! Then comes commitment, what a challange.... But how bad do you want it? IF you want that person to be only yours...

Cheating After commitment,i would never go back to that person, would you?









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Sat 09/12/09 05:27 PM
Edited by toolheart on Sat 09/12/09 05:31 PM










msharmony's photo
Sat 09/12/09 06:45 PM
love after cheating,,,,yes

Noone is perfect and if people are truly REMORSEFUL about their mistakes (meaning taking the effort to not repeat them ) than love can absolutely perservere.


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Sat 09/12/09 06:47 PM
love after cheating? you will not trust him/her the way before it happens.. and you dont have peace of mind..a cheater will be a cheater forever!