Topic: Very Discouraged!
msmyka's photo
Thu 08/27/09 07:58 PM
Edited by msmyka on Thu 08/27/09 07:58 PM

New to Utah (In from Southern California) and I found myself single in a state where I might as well have a single eye, three horns, and purple skin. (I’m beginning to think it would actually be an improvement).

I can accept I’m not the best looking guy on this site but I am so discouraged by the fact that the people who contact me are OBVIOUSLY insincere and the profiles I reach out to ignore me completely. In California I had no issues and I must say I am embarrassed to be on a dating site in the first place. I am especially embarrassed to be here saying what I’m saying at this time.

It seems if I am to remain in Utah I must either plan on being single or seriously lower my standards. Could someone diagnose my profile and tell me what the hell is going on?

No doubt I am setting myself up with this post but I no longer care!



Embarrassed? Thats your problem.... get over that and you may have better luck.

jeffterry's photo
Thu 08/27/09 08:25 PM
its better than craigslist! im not embarrassed to be here I'm looking for fun intelligent women so I have to advertise on the internet! Walmart and McDonalds hasn't worked yet!

Jill298's photo
Thu 08/27/09 08:26 PM

its better than craigslist! im not embarrassed to be here I'm looking for fun intelligent women so I have to advertise on the internet! Walmart and McDonalds hasn't worked yet!
exactly! I've met stranger people in walmart than I have online. scary folks out therescared scared

no photo
Fri 08/28/09 01:21 AM
Oh my Gosh!..I love this site! I just joined a few days ago and began posting tonight and I love reading what everybody writes. I've finally found where all the smart, open, honest,supportive,creative and funny people have been hiding...right here on this site!..Soooo, open up and enjoy, it looks like it's gonna be a great ride!happy

eileena9's photo
Fri 08/28/09 01:45 AM
Welcome and have some fun in the threads.....once we get to know you, you won't be able to leave.....laugh laugh ....This place can be like Hotel California.

Good luck to all the newbies, and to EchoDelta, it isn't embarrassing to be here on a dating site. Embarrassing is hiding from the world and not looking for new people to get to know.flowerforyou flowerforyou

earthytaurus76's photo
Fri 08/28/09 01:52 AM
Jeez, i dont know, you look good, and have a great job, and great qualities.

I thnk its the area. I dont see anyone good from mine either, and theres less interest in me here, in florida there were alot more people who were interesting, and also interested.


I know it sucks.


But dont stop putting yourself out there with the profile.. cast your bait, and hook, and wait.


Katzenschnauzer's photo
Fri 08/28/09 01:59 AM
flowerforyou Welcome! We are glad to have you here and don't be embarrassed. I felt funny at first but then I realized it was a step up from writing my name on Greyhound Bus Terminal restroom walls.slaphead

earthytaurus76's photo
Fri 08/28/09 02:12 AM

flowerforyou Welcome! We are glad to have you here and don't be embarrassed. I felt funny at first but then I realized it was a step up from writing my name on Greyhound Bus Terminal restroom walls.slaphead


rofl "stick with ME kid, youll GO places".

Katzenschnauzer's photo
Fri 08/28/09 02:21 AM


flowerforyou Welcome! We are glad to have you here and don't be embarrassed. I felt funny at first but then I realized it was a step up from writing my name on Greyhound Bus Terminal restroom walls.slaphead


rofl "stick with ME kid, youll GO places".


I'm right here with "yous". I was reading some other posts asking how they can delete their profile and QUIT. That's like sitting at a dinner table and saying, "I'm gonna barf all over the place!" Just get up, get out and shaddup already!

michiganmutt's photo
Fri 08/28/09 02:36 AM
ya know, i really now how you feel. I just moved from michigan to texas and almost lost my morals with a women on the greyhound bus, do not be ashamed of being on a dating site, at least this way you get to know others before hand, ( although it is hard to get responses. i have been on here for quite some time,( i think one year) and have not got a single one( except for a bot leading me toward to fling). yeah im a little discouraged but i am also hard to match up with. dont know why but i have accepted that. but i wish you well and since you claim on being the best looking male on this site, any advice for the second best looking?happy

Rasmus916's photo
Fri 08/28/09 05:13 AM

...This place can be like Hotel California...


and I quote straight from the song...

"You can checkout any time you like,
But you can never leave!"

:tongue: :tongue: :tongue: :tongue: :tongue:

Welcome aboard, and I am another who used to live in Utah, trust me, I would rather move back home to the Crinshaw District of L.A. (Yes I know I spelled it wrong) than move back to Utah.

On the other note, don't worry about lowering your standards, I tried that with my ex, and well, she is my ex. Now you have to be damn near perfect to catch my eye. :P

EchoDelta's photo
Fri 08/28/09 06:29 AM
For those of you that felt slighted by my comments – you missed the spirit of my point completely.

For those of you that detected a possible insult and joked about it WELL DONE! Point taken.

For those that are feeling the same way I am, you have my understanding.

lilith401's photo
Fri 08/28/09 07:26 AM
"I have not made the time to tend to my social needs and simply thought I would explore this site to see what happens.

Got to admit that I'm not much of a Hispanic, even though that is my ethnic group by birth and appearance. What can I say; my parents and their parents were born in the US and I was raised to be "integrated".

I do not provide nor do I want to receive any drama. I am very light hearted and if I am not constantly laughing or providing others with laughs I am quite bored. I plan on tending to my profile further as times goes on, but for now, just the basics!
"

This whole part I'd delete. Overall, it's quite good. The "framing up" thing really, for me, caused me to lose interest.

Just be sure to personalize your e-mail messages and strive to perservere. I've been here forever, dated and not dated, it just takes a long time. Dating sites are like everything in life... what you make of them. Good luck to you, and welcome to the forums!

digger56's photo
Fri 08/28/09 07:51 AM
Good things come to those who wait? Darn, something really good must be coming because I have been waiting a long time! lol Jump in the forums and enjoy. Lots of great people here from all walks of life.:wink:

Perrinbever's photo
Fri 08/28/09 08:22 AM
Hey There...I'm recently divorced and GOD I NEED TO GET MY SOCIAL LIFE BACK. Love to chat and look forward to getting to know you

no photo
Fri 08/28/09 08:26 AM

New to Utah (In from Southern California) and I found myself single in a state where I might as well have a single eye, three horns, and purple skin. (I’m beginning to think it would actually be an improvement).

I can accept I’m not the best looking guy on this site but I am so discouraged by the fact that the people who contact me are OBVIOUSLY insincere and the profiles I reach out to ignore me completely. In California I had no issues and I must say I am embarrassed to be on a dating site in the first place. I am especially embarrassed to be here saying what I’m saying at this time.

It seems if I am to remain in Utah I must either plan on being single or seriously lower my standards. Could someone diagnose my profile and tell me what the hell is going on?

No doubt I am setting myself up with this post but I no longer care!



If you're embarrassed to be here, why do you expect others to want to meet you?

beachbum069's photo
Fri 08/28/09 08:30 AM

hello and welcome fellow Utah freak..you are not alone!flowers


It's not you... it's this place. scared scared

You got that right.:banana:

digger56's photo
Fri 08/28/09 08:44 AM
You think Utah is bad? Try living in Illinois.laugh

4974's photo
Fri 08/28/09 09:00 AM
i hear all the blind woman live in utah...flowerforyou

Ladylid2012's photo
Fri 08/28/09 09:05 AM

i hear all the blind woman live in utah...flowerforyou


I do have to use my readers these days..:smile: