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After a couple of long phone conversations with a friend, a few things that were said during those conversations made me realize something. In all the relationships I have been in, I simply settled for what I thought I ' deserved ' at the time. The problem with that is, as I see it, this. Everything I have gone through in my past relationships has done absolutely nothing to help me understand how to actually GET what I feel that I deserve at this point in my life. I know I deserve better than what I have gotten in the past. But I have absolutely no clue how to attain it. Basically, I figured out that being here is doing nothing more than killing time. Maybe I'm the only one that feels like this....but maybe not. Anyone else? Well, if I weren't killing time here...I would be killing...err...erhm, well, really shouldn't have placed those periods after that word...uhh, I like ponies? you can't kill ponies, they're too cute. 
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Meh. At least they are looking. LOL but its not the right people looking!!! unless they perv me in stealth? that could be it. maybe the lovelies are on my profile right now staring and thinking dirty thoughts...but they're in stealth mode. 
That very well could be....lol now i'm swearing. picture me swearing. yet being immensely tickled at the same time. gawd, i'm such a girl. anyway, since we're  i think most people settle in life, for most things, otherwise you can end up with nothing. which can suck.
Ahh yes, but it sucks less than settling and being unhappy. Trust me--I married someone I settled for and stayed for 11 years. As much as I'd love to have someone in my life right now, I still have to remind myself I'm better off this way than unhappily married. |
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Meh. At least they are looking. LOL but its not the right people looking!!! unless they perv me in stealth? that could be it. maybe the lovelies are on my profile right now staring and thinking dirty thoughts...but they're in stealth mode.
That very well could be....lol now i'm swearing. picture me swearing. yet being immensely tickled at the same time. gawd, i'm such a girl. anyway, since we're i think most people settle in life, for most things, otherwise you can end up with nothing. which can suck.
Ahh yes, but it sucks less than settling and being unhappy. Trust me--I married someone I settled for and stayed for 11 years. As much as I'd love to have someone in my life right now, I still have to remind myself I'm better off this way than unhappily married. true. i didn't mean settling for a person, i meant settling for certain things, like one job over another, for example. yeah, settling for a person is just dumb. 
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yeah, settling for a person is just dumb.
Oh thanks! 
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Edited by
Calleigh12
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Sat 08/15/09 10:16 AM
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yeah, settling for a person is just dumb.
Oh thanks!
LOL I didn't mean you.
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G'morning sunshine. Killing time here is probably better than the alternative. You'll know how to attain it when you find her. You are pretty astute that way. Perhaps. But then, I really don't know. It's the ' not knowing ' that is kinda irritating. lol |
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Edited by
robert1652
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Sat 08/15/09 12:36 PM
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No one , absolutely no one in this world "Deserves" anything Anything you want you work and plan to get it. If you can't think that way, for ever and a day you will remain what you are It may sound harsh but that is the reality You may wish to listen to philosopher Allan Watts pffft, i deserve my cup of coffee, so there
You either make it in the kitchen or you go to a shop to get it either way you have to work for the coffee before you sit down to enjoy it any way twinkle your eyes and a buffoon may buy you a cup. In which case he would have had to work for that. Meanwhile we can discuss this further at a Starbucks. I am prepared to work for mine 
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After a couple of long phone conversations with a friend, a few things that were said during those conversations made me realize something. In all the relationships I have been in, I simply settled for what I thought I ' deserved ' at the time. The problem with that is, as I see it, this. Everything I have gone through in my past relationships has done absolutely nothing to help me understand how to actually GET what I feel that I deserve at this point in my life. I know I deserve better than what I have gotten in the past. But I have absolutely no clue how to attain it. Basically, I figured out that being here is doing nothing more than killing time. Maybe I'm the only one that feels like this....but maybe not. Anyone else? Very true. It can definitely suck. But the thing is, having dealt with what I have, I pretty much refuse to settle for less than I deserve. I've been there and I know I am worth more than that.
But, I am also realistic. I know that no one is perfect. I doubt there is even " perfect for me ". I am just too scattered in what I like and don't like. I think perfect for me is nothing more than someone who can accept the fact that we aren't going to see everything the same way. I am sooooo right there with ya, JAG 
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jag i just dont understand what youre complaining about
put yourself in a womans shoes....and then go look at your profile i am not saying ure a bad guy i think ure cool just the same i just think u need to "tinker" the profile up a little...thats all |
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Edited by
earthytaurus76
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Sat 08/15/09 03:01 PM
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lol i dont believe in fairy tales. He dosnt have to be perfect, just please me, and have the ability to have a good time.
Killing time? Nah, i find this constructive. |
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lol i dont believe in fairy tales. He dosnt have to be perfect, just please me, and have the ability to have a good time. Killing time? Nah, i find this constructive. Yeah, I find it constructive, too. Ironically enough, not in the way I had originally anticipated; but in many other ways.... |
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jag i just dont understand what youre complaining about put yourself in a womans shoes....and then go look at your profile i am not saying ure a bad guy i think ure cool just the same i just think u need to "tinker" the profile up a little...thats all Well..what kind of " tinkering " would you suggest, Billy? Serious question. |
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jag i just dont understand what youre complaining about put yourself in a womans shoes....and then go look at your profile i am not saying ure a bad guy i think ure cool just the same i just think u need to "tinker" the profile up a little...thats all Well..what kind of " tinkering " would you suggest, Billy? Serious question. Seriously? 
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Edited by
JustAGuy2112
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Sat 08/15/09 05:21 PM
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jag i just dont understand what youre complaining about put yourself in a womans shoes....and then go look at your profile i am not saying ure a bad guy i think ure cool just the same i just think u need to "tinker" the profile up a little...thats all Well..what kind of " tinkering " would you suggest, Billy? Serious question. Seriously?
Yep. Dead serious. I want to know what he thinks. That goes for everyone else too. I really do want to know. |
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I ain't suggesting a thing darlin'. I like you just as you are.
I'm off to get a kiddo ready for bed, and if you are here when I return.....I'm gonna look you up on IM....
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I ain't suggesting a thing darlin'. I like you just as you are. I'm off to get a kiddo ready for bed, and if you are here when I return.....I'm gonna look you up on IM....
I have it on. I just appear to be offline. |
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jag i just dont understand what youre complaining about put yourself in a womans shoes....and then go look at your profile i am not saying ure a bad guy i think ure cool just the same i just think u need to "tinker" the profile up a little...thats all Well..what kind of " tinkering " would you suggest, Billy? Serious question. Seriously?
Yep. Dead serious. I want to know what he thinks. That goes for everyone else too. I really do want to know. I'm not sure what constitutes "tinkering." I know there are those who preach the idea of making your profile as attractive and palatable as possible so as to be more appealing to the readers. But I think there's a huge difference between an editorial brush-up and a massive reconstruction resulting in a disingenuous facade. My attitude has always been: If you like my profile, fine. If not, that's OK, too. It isn't going to change anything either way, and it's not worth my time to make up a bunch of fictional drivel just to get some girl I'm never going to meet anyway to send me an e-mail or two. It is what it is. I update it sometimes. But I'm not going to try to skew it to cater to anybody.... |
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jag i just dont understand what youre complaining about put yourself in a womans shoes....and then go look at your profile i am not saying ure a bad guy i think ure cool just the same i just think u need to "tinker" the profile up a little...thats all Well..what kind of " tinkering " would you suggest, Billy? Serious question. Seriously?
Yep. Dead serious. I want to know what he thinks. That goes for everyone else too. I really do want to know. I'm not sure what constitutes "tinkering." I know there are those who preach the idea of making your profile as attractive and palatable as possible so as to be more appealing to the readers. But I think there's a huge difference between an editorial brush-up and a massive reconstruction resulting in a disingenuous facade. My attitude has always been: If you like my profile, fine. If not, that's OK, too. It isn't going to change anything either way, and it's not worth my time to make up a bunch of fictional drivel just to get some girl I'm never going to meet anyway to send me an e-mail or two. It is what it is. I update it sometimes. But I'm not going to try to skew it to cater to anybody.... I understand that. I am pretty much the same way. I'm just a little curious as to what he, or anyone else, sees as far as what could be " better ". |
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