I don't think you have to find someone who likes "all the things" you do. A majority is necessary, of course. I know couples where the husband has hobbies that the wife can't stand, (football games, hunting, ummm his family (okay sorry), working with wood building things, working on cars with his buddies, etc.). The wife does her thing either alone or with friends and they are happily married, this "alone" time is good and healthy for them.

Maybe 50-60% is all anyone can hope for when finding someone who likes the same things you do. Maybe more than that and you would get bored with them??? Maybe 75% would be a good mix?? I don't know, I have never had the perfect mix either. I have seen it in others, but don't know how they got there, other than just plain dumb luck maybe???

Reminds me of "Happy Days" when Fonzie was trying to teach Richie or one of the guys how to kiss, didn't he have them kissing a mirror???

dude let me preface this with...wow


anyways


your profile says, "Ok ladies. Here I am in all my awesomness. :-) "

and you have like 8 pictures of cartoons on your profile...what you expecting to get from the site? am i following the point of your thread or r u just talkin about the forums?

i think so

caleigh he isnt serious...i take it?

i assume he's serious.

i figured he was...im not being mean...really


i just see him posting the same kind of things all the time....


and...i dunno....i just.....i dunno, im confused

I am sure he is serious, I think he is like a lot of us, he
is just feeling frustrated and discouraged these days.
I can't speak for him, but that would be my guess.

right..sorry

didnt mean to come off like a jerk, if i did

i know him from when i used billysuvol...we've talked before....i just dont understand why he is frustrated when he takes such an awkward approach...but apparantly he isnt here to explain so i will just shut up

You didn't come off as a jerk. I don't know where he
went, don't know if he is gone for the night or what.
Have a good night.

Sometimes it is hard to see the forest for the trees. People might like you but you don't even notice.

Lot of times I think it is more about just finding out you are ok as you are and owning that without getting belligerent about it (not saying you specificlly) and then keep putting it out there often enough to let someone trip across it.

Sometimes the trying to be and individual our self definition can be so criptic that other people don't get it.

I personally find you a really nice guy. Not in the creepy cyber way but the way that if I knew a friend I would hook you up. I think your self image is way way more negative than anyone else sees you. You have a great sense of humor and you are fair in how you assesss situations except the ones you factor yourself in.

All I can say is maybe you need to see what we see in you. And take that to the world a little bit. You can talk to this coputer sponge until it sucks you dry. Fine if you need a time out but just make it a recess not a way of life. You are way to young and way to cool for that.

is noone seeing what i am seeing!?!

That particular line is something of a joke that I put their because of something a couple of friends said to me in recent conversations.

But, I actually DO think I am awesome.

Does that mean that the experiences I have had have prepared me to actually know and how to deal with someone that thinks I am? Not really.

Like I said. The thought originated with a conversation I had with someone and I realized it after thinking on it a bit.

Nothing major. Not a huge deal. I won't be giving up anytime soon.

I post the things I post because....well...I just do. Sometimes people get what I am talking about because they have felt similar things at times. Sometimes they don't. If they do get it, at least they know that they aren't alone in feeling like that. Sometimes it helps clarify things for them.

Again. Nothing major.

* shrugs *

NEVER settle for sweetpea - NEVER!

G'morning sunshine. Killing time here is probably better than the alternative. You'll know how to attain it when you find her. You are pretty astute that way.

Well, if I weren't killing time here...I would be killing...err...erhm, well, really shouldn't have placed those periods after that word...uhh, I like ponies?

Yeah, I never thought about it in quite those terms, but it makes sense.

I have a pretty good understanding (admittedly biased) about what it is I deserve at this point in my life, insofar as a relationship is concerned.

My problem is that I'm reasonably certain that a.) it doesn't exist, or b.) I have no access to it, if it does exist. Which amounts to the same thing in the end.

"Killing time"? Yeah, I can see that, too. I like to think I'm honing my writing skills here, if nothing else -- because the words, in the end, are all about the communication, and I think I learn a little something every day about putting words together, etc.

But, as a practical matter, I don't see anyone I would consider "compatible," in the blanket, overall sense of the term. I see people I like a lot, I see friends, I see many people with extremely attractive characteristics, but I don't see any relationship prospects.

And you ARE awesome. And there's nothing wrong with saying so.

The whole point of the "Arrogant Narcissistic Conceited Jerks" thread was to serve as a hyperbolic counterpoint to the "Nice Guys" threads. But buried in there somewhere, as well, was the idea that it's OK to recognize your strengths, your positives, your talents, the things you do well.

I'll tell you something I found out -- and this surprised me.

If you do something well, people will see that -- and instead of being impressed or bored or attracted or whatever, it just intimidates them and they run away screaming.

I can't even begin to tell you how many e-mails I've received from women who told me they found my writing "intimidating."

So, I guess it's OK to take your talent and USE it as a way of creating a new roadblock so you don't have to deal with that person!

The mentality seems to be that it's OK to take my writing (which is intended for communication, after all) and use it against me because it's too "intimidating"!

This is why, despite all the claims to the contrary, I don't think most women want an intelligent guy at all. If a few big words in properly-constructed sentences "intimidate" them, then what kind of a guy are they REALLY looking for?

No one , absolutely no one in this world "Deserves" anything

Anything you want you work and plan to get it.

If you can't think that way, for ever and a day you will remain what you are

It may sound harsh but that is the reality

You may wish to listen to philosopher Allan Watts

pffft, i deserve my cup of coffee, so there