I wonder why you would call a "booty" call JUST a booty call? That is enough for me. I invest my heart and life, but not in ONE person, but in many. I have many friends, I donate my time as a volunteer, and they are all in my heart and life. I would never assume to call your choice "JUST" anything. I have a full life, but because I choose sex over a relationship doesn't mean it is "wrong" or should be dismissed as something less than another's choice.

1. I don't think it's the distance so much as that is a handy excuse for not making the effort. There are folks making this happen.

2. You've been in the forums, right??!! This is quite a diverse group of people. But...I do know what you're saying. I don't know.....maybe a move to Mars should be your next move!

Lex and Fear, I don't believe for one second that either of you are unmatachable. If the strategies you've been using aren't working, take another approach.

I would take another approach, but like I've already said...I don't have a problem getting dates, and I don't tend to have a problem keeping ahold of said person (not always true, but people tend to think I'm not really who I am online...which I am...). There is no problem in that at all, my problem is that I can't find someone I would actually enjoy spending a lot of time with, and like I also said...this is all subject to change. My point in this thread is why don't people look at themselves or even just decide to be happy alone? I am an awesome person, and all of my voices agree...though they tend to argue like children about it.

I think personally that you have to be happy alone and with yourself before you can move onto a relationship, some people rush that process and I've fallen into a few of their paths. There was of course interest in the person, but that quickly fades after the person shows who they really are instead of who you thought they were...which I guess comes down to honesty. I just think people should enjoy themselves either alone or out with some friends, then after that step maybe move onto a relationship. I'm past that step and am okay with not being in a relationship at this point in time.

Also, eHarmony couldn't match me...I'm starting to think their math is flawed, one in ten doesn't really make a lot of sense seeing as all the people I've come across couldn't be matched through them either.

right now im not working and prying i dont end up in the hospital again plus after my string of bad relationships i just want to be single and work on me

but the more i stay single the more i like it.i like not having to worry if the other person is cheating or he just wants in my pants b.c more then likely he does.

so i just done date.im having being just friends with my guy friends

Also, eHarmony couldn't match me...I'm starting to think their math is flawed, one in ten doesn't really make a lot of sense seeing as all the people I've come across couldn't be matched through them either.

See, that's another stigma attached to dating that I see quite often. There is always the constant thought of "he/she just wants to get in my pants" and yes, it does happen to guys a lot as well. We just tend to get laughed at when we bring it up because that is all "men" want out of a relationship. Which is a stigma drawn over both sexes, one constantly thinking the other just wants to get in their pants...and the other hoping that isn't what they are thinking.

Relationships require a lot of communication, and I think this is where they fail. This generation has grown up under the guise of having a pill for everything, we are sad we take a pill, we are too happy we take a pill. We don't need to communicate with anyone but the doctor. Now I do understand this isn't always the case, but I think for the most part it is. We are a co-dependent generation, we need something at all times whether it be the screwed up abusive boyfriend...or the pink pill.

They told me that 20% of the people who take the 29-point matching personality profile thing are unmatchable.

Having done some research on the site and its founder (and having noticed how prominent the word "Faith" is in some of their advertising), I have to believe that one's religious orientation (or lack thereof) may play a part in their assessment of one's matchableness.

that's weird.

They told me that 20% of the people who take the 29-point matching personality profile thing are unmatchable.

Having done some research on the site and its founder (and having noticed how prominent the word "Faith" is in some of their advertising), I have to believe that one's religious orientation (or lack thereof) may play a part in their assessment of one's matchableness.

They told you 20%? I was told one in ten, either way the math is flawed I think. Two out of ten? Considering in this thread alone there is what? Five? On top of the number of every person I've talked to can't be matched through them. From different faiths as well, most agnostic/atheist though.

Yeah, after I completed the thing, they sent me the results. This was back in 2006, so I don't remember the exact language, but they definitely said 20% of all those who participated were unmatchable.

They clearly have no use for agnostic/atheist types, which I'm sure is why I was relegated to the scrap heap....

Maybe we should make up our own God.

Works for me. I'm sure we can come up with something more interesting than all those blah gods they're using now....!!

I see a lot of threads from people asking if they should date, or why the can't find someone to date. I'm left wondering why even bother? I decided not to long ago that I am at this point in time not capable of having a relationship, for whatever reason, and that reason isn't really important as the failure rate far exceeds any success (I won't get into the math of it, people tend to be bothered by my mathmatical equations here). I think personally some people at their point in life can or cannot date, for any number of reasons. Some are more apt to date, some are more social than others...and others just need to focus on them before adding anyone else to the equation.

I suppose it is somewhat easier for me as I don't tend to like many people anyway, and am comfortable by myself. What I don't understand is that if for how ever many years one thing isn't working...why bother trying to do it in the first place? Seems like a step backwards to me, or perhaps I'm looking at it too logically. Any insight?

You are so hard about love and one day everything that you think you stand for is gonna hit you in the face there is love for you i have talked with you and know past what you show is an amazing man that one female will break through to you and i hope i am there to be there for that and i will sit on my porch and raise a glass and smile and my heart will be happy that day because all that you have been through love has found you and i will know my friend has found the one who respects and loves the true man that you are

What I don't understand is that if for how ever many years one thing isn't working...why bother trying to do it in the first place?

I know exactly what you mean.. If what you've been doing isn't working for you, rather than try, try again... try something new, different

I was thinking we should put you up there, but I don't know if you are narcissistic enough for the position.