about all you can really do is be sure to be around later when she finally dumps him and say

"I told you so, I told you so"

Then the problem is solved, you look at and attempt to fix computer when he is not around, no need for your personal input on what you think of her b/f

Im pretty sure she knows better than you or anyone else hes a douchebag.


Accept it, or move on.

You really are not good at the whole friendship thing are you? I remember you telling me before to walk away from a friend that was in need.

have you told her this though? wouldn't she question why you won't come over?

yeah i know, i've been there. but when they're in it, they don't want to see it. sometimes they don't want to see it when it's over, but when they're "in love" it's really sad.

Thank you Fran but I was just using that as one expample. there are so many other things I see that just keeps bringing her down. I mean yes sure I could sit back and watch. But I know how depressed she gets over men. And when there are children involved I just do not want to see it.

Im not the one who has the friend problems, this is the second time YOU dont know what to do with YOUR friends.

Dont project your problems onto me.

If you dont want answers or opinions, dont ask in a public forum.

Noones interestd in your slightness or insults.

If I ever got two minutes alone with her then I would. Only time we really got to talk was online, and well now that is not possible. I could call her but know he will be right there listening to her end of the conversation.

hahaha you can use that if you want to

just say "is that dumbass there?" so he can hear

gotcha. personally....I would rather have someone tell me how they feel. there is a difference between telling someone and shoving it down their throat (make sense?) I would tell her your feelings and that to keep peace, you don't want to be around him....but it's up to her to decide what to do. she needs to respect how you feel and you need to understand that you can't make her do anything if she doesn't want to. just how I would feel. it's never easy when it's someone you care about but if you 2 have honesty and trust...then use that and say something to her without attacking. good luck

True, when in a relationship most people only see what they want to see, you as an outsider see more than they care to admit to. Just remain her friend and be there for her.

It is hard, but if you get involved she may feel she has to chose. Another decision left to her, can make things worse.

I do see your point of view jmo

I guess I just do not want to lose her again. I mean I already lost her once to a guy. Then She told me the horror stories about it. I felt totally helpless. I just do not want to see it happen again.

if it happened once...it will probably happen again. just know that you were still there for her when she realized what the person was like. and maybe you could tell her that. just say you don't want to hurt her or lose her but you feel (for your own sanity) that you need to say how you feel. then the ball is in her court

most of the time people regret things they do not do......not things they do....


most of the time

YES THIS IS TRUE.........

First of all he sounds like a tweeked out dildo. Really all you can do is be a friend to her. Sometimes being a friend means doing things that you know are right that are initially aren't going to be recieved well. I think you can speak your piece to him, you dont have to take his ****, your not dating him. Just dont judge her for dating the retard, be supportive and strong. She'll learn her lesson evenyually

Unfortunately some people do not learn from past mistakes. Some men thrive on passive and needful women and likewise thrive on being dominant. He sounds like an A Type personality and also passive aggressive. Men like him get really weird around men that are in deed better than them. They are also control hungry FREAKS!

If he is the kind of dick that likes to get in your face and yells, MACE HIM! MACE HIS *** AND CALL THE COPS ON HIM! No matter what your friend says, just say he attacked you in a hostile and threatening manner! Wave 'Bye Bye' to him as they haul his *** off. Then tell your friend she seriously needs professional counseling!

Do be careful with mace. It can back splash you if he is too close. If he is right up on you try to get space between yourself and the pecker head. People like him remind me of Penises that dare walk erect like men but in reality they have no backbone like men. Your friend knows how to pick them doesn't she? It sounds to me like she is desperate to stay in a relationship because of loneliness issues. People like that have a tough time knowing when to move on. She may be hiding codependency issues from you as well. If drugs are a factor then you are definitely smart to put as much distance between the two of you as you can get. There is no getting through to an addict! Period! Enough said on that!

It is tough to watch a friend self destruct but they have to help themselves before others can help them. There is no other way.

I always am honest with my friends. Tactful but honest. Generally it's already big red flags that they already see themselves. I would want them to be that honest with me, and they are.

I think your friend needs to stand up to her boyfriend for her friends as well. If he wants to be a douche to you and not listen to you, then he needs to listen to her when she should be telling him to let you take a look at it.