Topic: Am I Single or Taken?
papersmile's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:14 PM

heyyyyyyy

stop talking about me as if I wasnt here


how do you know it wasn't a different robin?


*walks away whistling*

mischievouskttn's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:14 PM




Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.

In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were.


hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting.

i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything.




yes but u have to go and steal one o the good guys dont'cha? grumble grumble


I'll thumb wrestle you for mine though. (You are so gonna laugh when/if you figure out who that is!) :tongue:


oooo oooo tell tell bigsmile


say 'vagina' and I'll tell you.. :tongue:

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Sat 08/08/09 06:14 PM
oops :laughing:

JustAGuy2112's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:14 PM





But what if, just for the sake of argument/debate, when you DID meet him, he wasn't what you thought he would be? What if he had deceived you in some way??

That is why I say it can only really happen when there is face to face contact. The meeting can solidify what you already feel, or it can completely change it.

Until that point, there is just no way to really know.


don't people fall in, and out, of love all the time - in the real world as well?

how many of us have been in relationships where the person changed in some way, and let us down, deceived us, lied to us?

does that mean that the love we had for them before never existed? or does it mean simply that as the relationship ended, so did the loving?


Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.

In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were.


As far as I can see, nobody is debating that in order for a relationship to PROGRESS..there has to be the physical contact. I don't think I've ever heard of any romantic linking in which there was a mutual agreement to be in cyberlove forever. (haha, this is ironic..if you knew me..but..) The question as I read it, was in regards to at what point is it 'okay' to admit you've been bitten by the love bug and are no longer interested in being 'available.'

I could be wrong.


Yes, your right, but also, as a woman, would you be offended if a guy you were trying to get to know and see where things could go together, was also doing the same thing with a couple of other women at the same time. Is that being a player, or is that being rude and disrespectful, or is that consider OK.


I don't see a difference between getting to know this person online, or getting to know someone in person. In any relationship, at some point committment is addressed. Am I missing something in the question?


But there is a difference. Not being able to read body language being the main one.

Not being able to actually see how a person reacts in a real life situation is another.

JustAGuy2112's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:15 PM


heyyyyyyy

stop talking about me as if I wasnt here


how do you know it wasn't a different robin?


*walks away whistling*


That would be such a mean thing to say if we didn't know any better....lmao

no photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:15 PM





Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.

In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were.


hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting.

i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything.




yes but u have to go and steal one o the good guys dont'cha? grumble grumble


I'll thumb wrestle you for mine though. (You are so gonna laugh when/if you figure out who that is!) :tongue:


oooo oooo tell tell bigsmile


say 'vagina' and I'll tell you.. :tongue:


that is wicked VAG**A, VA*INA

mischievouskttn's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:15 PM


heyyyyyyy

stop talking about me as if I wasnt here


how do you know it wasn't a different robin?


*walks away whistling*


rofl

mischievouskttn's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:16 PM






Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.

In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were.


hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting.

i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything.




yes but u have to go and steal one o the good guys dont'cha? grumble grumble


I'll thumb wrestle you for mine though. (You are so gonna laugh when/if you figure out who that is!) :tongue:


oooo oooo tell tell bigsmile


say 'vagina' and I'll tell you.. :tongue:


that is wicked VAG**A, VA*INA


cheating will only get rocks thrown at you..

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Sat 08/08/09 06:17 PM
Phil? shocked

mischievouskttn's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:19 PM
Edited by mischievouskttn on Sat 08/08/09 06:21 PM
winking

Ready to thumb wrestle now,?

..best two of three?

John1932's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:21 PM





But what if, just for the sake of argument/debate, when you DID meet him, he wasn't what you thought he would be? What if he had deceived you in some way??

That is why I say it can only really happen when there is face to face contact. The meeting can solidify what you already feel, or it can completely change it.

Until that point, there is just no way to really know.


don't people fall in, and out, of love all the time - in the real world as well?

how many of us have been in relationships where the person changed in some way, and let us down, deceived us, lied to us?

does that mean that the love we had for them before never existed? or does it mean simply that as the relationship ended, so did the loving?


Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.

In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were.


As far as I can see, nobody is debating that in order for a relationship to PROGRESS..there has to be the physical contact. I don't think I've ever heard of any romantic linking in which there was a mutual agreement to be in cyberlove forever. (haha, this is ironic..if you knew me..but..) The question as I read it, was in regards to at what point is it 'okay' to admit you've been bitten by the love bug and are no longer interested in being 'available.'

I could be wrong.


Yes, your right, but also, as a woman, would you be offended if a guy you were trying to get to know and see where things could go together, was also doing the same thing with a couple of other women at the same time. Is that being a player, or is that being rude and disrespectful, or is that consider OK.


I don't see a difference between getting to know this person online, or getting to know someone in person. In any relationship, at some point committment is addressed. Am I missing something in the question?
NO NO, your on the right track, but to go deeper, imagine you met a guy and you both hit it off and decided you wanted to get to know each other better to see where things are going.

Later on you find out that the guy was also trying to get to know another girl in the same way and after he dated you both for a few times, he is gonna pick the best out of the two of you.

Wouldnt that be what a player does? Thats what I dont want to do, and I had two friends really badger me for not wanting to date others while I am trying to work on this new girl.

no photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:21 PM
Edited by gayfifer on Sat 08/08/09 06:22 PM
i'll, i'll......

no photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:22 PM

winking

Ready to thumb wrestle now,?

..best two of three?


thats where u learned to swear at me rant

John1932's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:23 PM
Edited by John1932 on Sat 08/08/09 06:26 PM





Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.

In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were.


hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting.

i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything.




yes but u have to go and steal one o the good guys dont'cha? grumble grumble


I'll thumb wrestle you for mine though. (You are so gonna laugh when/if you figure out who that is!) :tongue:


oooo oooo tell tell bigsmile


say 'vagina' and I'll tell you.. :tongue:

In the voice of fifer **** "VAGINA, VAGINA, VAGINA"

DIMMIT FIFER, quit possessing me like that...grumble

mischievouskttn's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:23 PM
Edited by mischievouskttn on Sat 08/08/09 07:19 PM






But what if, just for the sake of argument/debate, when you DID meet him, he wasn't what you thought he would be? What if he had deceived you in some way??

That is why I say it can only really happen when there is face to face contact. The meeting can solidify what you already feel, or it can completely change it.

Until that point, there is just no way to really know.


don't people fall in, and out, of love all the time - in the real world as well?

how many of us have been in relationships where the person changed in some way, and let us down, deceived us, lied to us?

does that mean that the love we had for them before never existed? or does it mean simply that as the relationship ended, so did the loving?


Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.

In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were.


As far as I can see, nobody is debating that in order for a relationship to PROGRESS..there has to be the physical contact. I don't think I've ever heard of any romantic linking in which there was a mutual agreement to be in cyberlove forever. (haha, this is ironic..if you knew me..but..) The question as I read it, was in regards to at what point is it 'okay' to admit you've been bitten by the love bug and are no longer interested in being 'available.'

I could be wrong.


Yes, your right, but also, as a woman, would you be offended if a guy you were trying to get to know and see where things could go together, was also doing the same thing with a couple of other women at the same time. Is that being a player, or is that being rude and disrespectful, or is that consider OK.


I don't see a difference between getting to know this person online, or getting to know someone in person. In any relationship, at some point committment is addressed. Am I missing something in the question?
NO NO, your on the right track, but to go deeper, imagine you met a guy and you both hit it off and decided you wanted to get to know each other better to see where things are going.

Later on you find out that the guy was also trying to get to know another girl in the same way and after he dated you both for a few times, he is gonna pick the best out of the two of you.

Wouldnt that be what a player does? Thats what I dont want to do, and I had two friends really badger me for not wanting to date others while I am trying to work on this new girl.


Well, yes..in MY opinion that is wrong. Online/Offline/Any mix of the two..

EDIT
I re-read my own comment and found myself arguing with it. It's only wrong AFTER two people make a decision together not to see/talk to/date other people. If you haven't talked about it, you should.

mischievouskttn's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:24 PM


winking

Ready to thumb wrestle now,?

..best two of three?


thats where u learned to swear at me rant


blushing

We could play Rock, Paper, Scissors for him instead..


no photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:25 PM






Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.

In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were.


hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting.

i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything.




yes but u have to go and steal one o the good guys dont'cha? grumble grumble


I'll thumb wrestle you for mine though. (You are so gonna laugh when/if you figure out who that is!) :tongue:


oooo oooo tell tell bigsmile


say 'vagina' and I'll tell you.. :tongue:

In the voice of fifer **** "VAGINA, VAGINA, VAGINA"

shocked shocked scared scared scared scared

no photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:26 PM



winking

Ready to thumb wrestle now,?

..best two of three?


thats where u learned to swear at me rant


blushing

We could play Rock, Paper, Scissors for him instead..




ok i'm scissors devil

mischievouskttn's photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:27 PM




winking

Ready to thumb wrestle now,?

..best two of three?


thats where u learned to swear at me rant


blushing

We could play Rock, Paper, Scissors for him instead..




ok i'm scissors devil


Paper...oh damn ohwell

no photo
Sat 08/08/09 06:28 PM
Edited by gayfifer on Sat 08/08/09 06:28 PM





winking

Ready to thumb wrestle now,?

..best two of three?


thats where u learned to swear at me rant


blushing

We could play Rock, Paper, Scissors for him instead..




ok i'm scissors devil


Paper...oh damn ohwell



lol, lol


ohhhhhh phil hunni pitchfork