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Love, however, only really happens when there is face to face, in person contact.
how can you define love for another person? perhaps it can't happen for you but who's to say what another feels isn't love? i'll argue this til i'm blue in the face because i've no doubt i was in love with robin before i physically met him. 
'single' and 'taken' ain't nothin' but one person's state of mind anyway. What gives anyone else the right to judge? How does it make you feel when you experiance an emotion, say..anger, and another person says to you that you need to curb that emotion because its overblown? You may learn in time you feel differently, but does it mean that you were never angry in the first place? That' silly, people don't work that way LOL Excellent point... 
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Edited by
John1932
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Seeing what??? Where is it???? What is IT ???? FIXXXXXX IIITTTTTTT. too much exposure... you're on your own now John... 
Ive been on my own before, I can do it again...  
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Seeing what??? Where is it???? What is IT ???? FIXXXXXX IIITTTTTTT. too much exposure... you're on your own now John...
Ive been on my own before, I can do it again...
Modela hug John... c'mon baby...  
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IMHO.. you'll see a lot of people make comments announcing a relationship isn't real until you've spent time face to face. Its done with good intentions, sharing of observations, we-just-wanna-help-you-save-face voices of experiance.
I say, thanks for the advice. I'll keep what was helpful and throw the rest away and go on about my head-in-the-clouds business. Some will worry about saving face. Some just know that **** happens and life goes on anyway. Hearts get broken everyday and nobody is immune. Best wishes and Congrats 
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Edited by
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But what if, just for the sake of argument/debate, when you DID meet him, he wasn't what you thought he would be? What if he had deceived you in some way??
That is why I say it can only really happen when there is face to face contact. The meeting can solidify what you already feel, or it can completely change it. Until that point, there is just no way to really know. don't people fall in, and out, of love all the time - in the real world as well? how many of us have been in relationships where the person changed in some way, and let us down, deceived us, lied to us? does that mean that the love we had for them before never existed? or does it mean simply that as the relationship ended, so did the loving? Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed. In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. |
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Seeing what??? Where is it???? What is IT ???? FIXXXXXX IIITTTTTTT. too much exposure... you're on your own now John...
Ive been on my own before, I can do it again...
Modela hug John... c'mon baby...
 Dont tease me just please me... 
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Edited by
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But what if, just for the sake of argument/debate, when you DID meet him, he wasn't what you thought he would be? What if he had deceived you in some way??
That is why I say it can only really happen when there is face to face contact. The meeting can solidify what you already feel, or it can completely change it. Until that point, there is just no way to really know. don't people fall in, and out, of love all the time - in the real world as well? how many of us have been in relationships where the person changed in some way, and let us down, deceived us, lied to us? does that mean that the love we had for them before never existed? or does it mean simply that as the relationship ended, so did the loving? Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed. In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. As far as I can see, nobody is debating that in order for a relationship to PROGRESS..there has to be the physical contact. I don't think I've ever heard of any romantic linking in which there was a mutual agreement to be in cyberlove forever. (haha, this is ironic..if you knew me..but..) The question as I read it, was in regards to at what point is it 'okay' to admit you've been bitten by the love bug and are no longer interested in being 'available.' I could be wrong. |
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IMHO.. you'll see a lot of people make comments announcing a relationship isn't real until you've spent time face to face. Its done with good intentions, sharing of observations, we-just-wanna-help-you-save-face voices of experiance. I say, thanks for the advice. I'll keep what was helpful and throw the rest away and go on about my head-in-the-clouds business. Some will worry about saving face. Some just know that **** happens and life goes on anyway. Hearts get broken everyday and nobody is immune. Best wishes and Congrats
Yes, hearts do get broken, but then you pick up and move on. thanks You |
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But what if, just for the sake of argument/debate, when you DID meet him, he wasn't what you thought he would be? What if he had deceived you in some way??
That is why I say it can only really happen when there is face to face contact. The meeting can solidify what you already feel, or it can completely change it. Until that point, there is just no way to really know. don't people fall in, and out, of love all the time - in the real world as well? how many of us have been in relationships where the person changed in some way, and let us down, deceived us, lied to us? does that mean that the love we had for them before never existed? or does it mean simply that as the relationship ended, so did the loving? Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed. In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. I do agree with you on this, this is more like a crush, we both connected we both enjoyed each others company, and we are just easing into this. I am flying up there next month, to talk with some of my corporate bosses and meet with them of my job change and merging my business and if we feel the urge to meet up, then we will, if not, no big deal, I am just moving there for an offer I cant refuse and she lives there too, that's how I met her, I searched for people who live in that area. I do appreciate every bit of the advice guys. |
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Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.
In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting. i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything. |
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Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.
In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting. i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything. yes but u have to go and steal one o the good guys dont'cha? 
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Edited by
John1932
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Sat 08/08/09 06:11 PM
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But what if, just for the sake of argument/debate, when you DID meet him, he wasn't what you thought he would be? What if he had deceived you in some way??
That is why I say it can only really happen when there is face to face contact. The meeting can solidify what you already feel, or it can completely change it. Until that point, there is just no way to really know. don't people fall in, and out, of love all the time - in the real world as well? how many of us have been in relationships where the person changed in some way, and let us down, deceived us, lied to us? does that mean that the love we had for them before never existed? or does it mean simply that as the relationship ended, so did the loving? Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed. In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. As far as I can see, nobody is debating that in order for a relationship to PROGRESS..there has to be the physical contact. I don't think I've ever heard of any romantic linking in which there was a mutual agreement to be in cyberlove forever. (haha, this is ironic..if you knew me..but..) The question as I read it, was in regards to at what point is it 'okay' to admit you've been bitten by the love bug and are no longer interested in being 'available.' I could be wrong. Yes, your right, but also, as a woman, would you be offended if a guy you were trying to get to know and see where things could go together, was also doing the same thing with a couple of other women at the same time. Is that being a player, or is that being rude and disrespectful, or is that considered OK. |
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Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.
In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting. i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything. yes but u have to go and steal one o the good guys dont'cha?
I'll thumb wrestle you for mine though. (You are so gonna laugh when/if you figure out who that is!) 
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Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.
In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting. i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything. yes but u have to go and steal one o the good guys dont'cha?
I'll thumb wrestle you for mine though. (You are so gonna laugh when/if you figure out who that is!)
oooo oooo tell tell
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heyyyyyyy
stop talking about me as if I wasnt here |
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Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.
In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting. i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything. You and Robin may very well be ( and by all appearances, you definitely are ) an exception. It may just be that we simply have different views on things. In no way am I saying you are wrong. |
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heyyyyyyy stop talking about me as if I wasnt here but ur not all there... |
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But what if, just for the sake of argument/debate, when you DID meet him, he wasn't what you thought he would be? What if he had deceived you in some way??
That is why I say it can only really happen when there is face to face contact. The meeting can solidify what you already feel, or it can completely change it. Until that point, there is just no way to really know. don't people fall in, and out, of love all the time - in the real world as well? how many of us have been in relationships where the person changed in some way, and let us down, deceived us, lied to us? does that mean that the love we had for them before never existed? or does it mean simply that as the relationship ended, so did the loving? Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed. In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. As far as I can see, nobody is debating that in order for a relationship to PROGRESS..there has to be the physical contact. I don't think I've ever heard of any romantic linking in which there was a mutual agreement to be in cyberlove forever. (haha, this is ironic..if you knew me..but..) The question as I read it, was in regards to at what point is it 'okay' to admit you've been bitten by the love bug and are no longer interested in being 'available.' I could be wrong. Yes, your right, but also, as a woman, would you be offended if a guy you were trying to get to know and see where things could go together, was also doing the same thing with a couple of other women at the same time. Is that being a player, or is that being rude and disrespectful, or is that consider OK. I don't see a difference between getting to know this person online, or getting to know someone in person. In any relationship, at some point committment is addressed. Am I missing something in the question? |
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heyyyyyyy stop talking about me as if I wasnt here Sorry. Howdy. LOL |
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Yes. They do. But, in those real life situations, there is physical contact and interaction that allows you to determine whether the person has changed.
In a situation like this, you really wouldn't know if the person " changed " until you know for certain, through meeting, that the person really IS who they said they were. hmmm, i've talked with all sorts of people - online - who've showed me - online - that they weren't who they said they were. it didn't have to come to a physical meeting. i agree that it's probably easier to falsify your life if you only talk online and there's no physical meeting. however, there was absolute certainty on my part that the guy i picked wasn't faking anything. yes but u have to go and steal one o the good guys dont'cha?
I'll thumb wrestle you for mine though. (You are so gonna laugh when/if you figure out who that is!)
oooo oooo tell tell
Oh yea, tell away, this is my thread, you can go off topic, I don't care.. |
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