No offence to all women on here but why is it you mention you have a child they just aint interested any more ? Its not nice for loving single parents whether the child lives with them or not :( and same goes for blokes just dropping a nice gals because she has a child whats wrong with you all scared of the commitment or something ? Whats your views ? And why do you think they do it .

Some people just are not into kids....
I have 3 sons, only one is still under 18, but
they are a big part of my life because I have raised them alone.
I am all they have and right now they are all I have.
If some one isn't interested in me because of that
I don't take it personal, there are a lot of guys who don't
mind if I have kids, so I don't worry about the ones who
do mind. I would not want to date anyone with kids younger than mine.

i have no clue what is wrong with them but i blame it on McDonalds food

My new guy has kids... No I wasn't really looking for a man with kids mine are 18 and 22. But I would never pass up a great person because he has them.
When you meet the one you are supposed to be with, she wont mind either.

YOUR not the only one "Mister"... TRY running a daycare and putting 3 adult kids through college add in taking care of a grandchild.. And YOU are VOODO!>>>>>>>?

I can understand that most People my age are Just finally getting there Freedom. The kids are grown, out of the house and all they have to do is visit the grandchildren.. How fun...

But for some of us! Now a days [The teens that turn into adults] and go to [college] it is cheaper for them to stay home.

I pay 9k per adult kid a year/ 27k just for college.
Child care is between 6-900.00 a month
Mortgage is 1200. a month
it cost me 200.00 a week just in food
insurance is 4k a year

The reason i wrote all of that! is this [its the reason why]! We are Too expensive?, "even if we pay all of are own bills". They do not see it that way. Believe me! it is true! they only see what they have 'to contribute' if they are to live with you.

It's not Kids and parent, 'It is life style' i have found out.

Can they live your lifestyle? YOU! want them to -give up- there way of life, and come and live with you, you want them to change jobs if needed, and get a new one -near you-, you want them to start -doing chores- in the house, dishes, laundry, making beds, vacuuming. Then down the line, "could you help me with >>>>????", and could you do this for me, Little by little you bring them into the household, and the family.

YOU! all eat together, you! all go to the store together, or movies, it stops being "US" time.....The kids and family swarm you because not only are you working, taking care of your kids, family members, friends, your home and business or job, Now! you have a 'PARTNER WHO WANTS YOUR TIME' [Jealousy from the kids]! And the list goes on for ever..

I have been through it all....and my kids are grown!

Well that is my 97% of my $5.00 worth of information.

When you find a selfless person on a dating site who is willing to give up everything, to become [part of your family].... Tell me maybe they have a friend who wants a wonderful women like me.....

9yrs in waiting????????????? still waiting???????? yep still waiting...... and my kids are GROW>>>>>>>>

Is that what happened to you JT?

you're saying there's something wrong with me?




ok it probably is

Well when someone says that their hand has a headache I would wonder if it was too much McDonalds....

nope,too much Debbie Does Dallas....

Thats Deep, but your exactly right.
It is sad, but true

i see nothing wrong with kids but what about if a guy is like..1st time dating..do you think that would be a good 1st experience for him?? i would say no but i would like you people's opinion

children are demon spawns

I am down with Silly on this one. If you are looking for a serious relationship and the other person has kids, you have to evaluate if you want to take on multiple roles and adjust your entire way of doing things.

tough to find, but not impossible.

It's going to differ from person to person. Some are fine with kids and some do not want kids.

guilty. its such a bummer when you meet a girl and are initially interested and then you find out she has a kid.

"oh 7z3r05, you are so mean and heartless!"

i know i know. but the reason is... im 22 years old and am looking for a girl within my age range. how many 22-23 year old girls are out having kids on purpose? i would wager not too many. this would imply that this child was initially unwanted in the first place, making this child a monumental pain in the neck rather than a holy gift from god.

more reasons:
a) kids are annoying
b) kids are expensive
4) kids take all your time
e) i am a terrible role model

i could sit here all day and write out reasons why i wouldnt date a girl with kids, and seeing how this is a conclusive paragraph i will reiterate my main points. ahem. dating a girl with kids would suck because kids are such a general hassle to begin with. that and the undue amount of stress on the young mother may cause other emotional problems as well.

although i am sure i would be singing another tune if i had a kid.

Preference

brian, are you ready to take on a paternal role yet? i know you dont have a real job yet and you are still working your way through school... yeah... no thanks.

Some people simply may not want to be a potential step-parent to a child that isn't theirs. If a person is still relatively young, they may not be ready ( maturity or financially ) to help raise a child.

Its good to see many replys and different views on this topic and do understand were your all coming from it is disappointin when it happens but dont get chance to explain little things like 1. they Dont live with me 2. I see my daughter once every two wk 3 . Dont see my son due to his mum . So technically i dont have the cost or time consumption that new partners etc are worried about if anything i have time on my hands nearly all the time lol .

in my opinion i would say its kinda true...im only good with kids because there my friends kids but other than that i don't think i would make a good step dad...i like to have fun alittle bit too much..