Life is so complicated and hard....

Only if you allow it to be.

I tried to avoid it by all means and it keeps coming back to me.

Then you have to take a look at what you are doing that keeps bringing it back.

I know you don't know me but if you need someone to talk to, I am a good listener.

I have days when I think like this this this too. I am sure it will get better

Pardon me, I have to view your profile. I thought you are a woman... coz of your avatar.... sorry..

nice of you to offer...

No worries.

I have gotten that a couple of times since I put up that avatar. lol

i hope you feel better soon ...life does seem to have its share of "ugly" times.....but it will have "beautiful" times too...

to undo a complicated and hard life, one must undo what created it...

for only starting with one want, can achieve a perfect result, but many wants, cloud unto oblivion...

this creates a "grab all" thinking and mentality, that can be easily persuaded, and make self "hope" what is wishes for, will somehow appear, even though many things say something is amiss...

have you not heard, if self wish for it, it can convince itself that it exists, even when the evidence is lacking...

the brain can prove to itself, whatever it wishes to be true, since all is in the perception...

so, self is like a filing cabinet, full of ton's of data, and when self goes to pull out a draw, of it's own brain's knowing, it will find the evidence it looked for, which you guessed it, will be created by what self wanted to find, it's motive when looking...

since the human "want", or desire, whether it be defined as want or need, drive all human behaviour, which is thoughts, words, and ALL actions, there has to be a finding of just "ONE MOST WANT", in all the universe, that self want the MOST, and define and prove such to self as what it most want, and this alone will allow all the millions of "want" potential's, that pass thru the mind, to breeze by, IF THEY DON'T FIT...

not trying to breeze down the grocery isle hungary, and wonder why self can't decide what to buy...

the cause of the ONE MOST WANT, not EVER trying to MAKE THEM FIT, and most trying to squeeze them out if possible, cannot help but to produce what is left, that be what is created, which will quite simply be the purest, so most, want that self had...

there was no perfect precise timepiece, hailed as the infinity perfect, unless one had decided it wished to build the worlds finest timepiece, so obviously, this was the MOST WANT...

nothing happens by accident, as in success, or no stress, or to stop worrying, and certainly, no solution does either...

but, what self most want, as ONE THING, in human life, will begin to allow a true deciding of how much reality self has actually built upon, that which is not based on true merit...

of course, in a world that entice with utopian dream marketing, and dazzeling ideas as fact, with gazillions of promises to make one's dreams come true, to NOT KNOW, what the "one most want", is first, shall create an ever more increasing state of WAY TOO MANY WANTS, which shall increase the anxiety and stress of trying to juggle them all, and without facts of how to actually create them...

just one want first, as the foundation of all other's, will stop the abuse of self, lol...

that one most want, drive's all the rest of the wants, no matter how far removed from the conscious mind, but it can be found, by digging into self, and actually asking self, what it would want, if it indeed, could have all things, simply by requesting it...

you would be surprised just how difficult it actually is, to name just one most want...

guess what the first sought after not findable common persuit???

to be loved, first and foremost...

well, since "love", is many feelings, many deeds, to focus on this, will remove any hope of creating it...

as love must be created, not found, with someone whom agree's with self as to what the hell it the "most truest defintion" is, in a definable agreed defintion, which cannot be based on "words describing emotional feelings", as these are "simply moving descriptions", not solid in knowing, looking for feelings first, without sight of what actually creates such feelings, "besides the action at the time it was felt"...

since time and self is shifting, a past action, attributed as the "creator" of "love feelings", will not allow self to ever find what it seeks, as self and all other's are morphing each second, so as standing on shifting sand, which is like trying to kiss a passer by, in another car in time and space...

if it is based on this, than this will allow a constant "never knowing for sure, that self is loved, as each thing it see, it will be looking for what "IS NOT LOVE TO SELF", which will GARAUNTEE THEN THESE THINGS TO BE FOUND, even then removing more each day, as the negative list grow's, any possiblity of anything that resemble love, and the "not love" potential, will be labled in the mind as not love, again and again, until soon, poor poor self, as if no one loves self, BUT, ITSELF SURELY HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THAT BEING FELT BACK FROM OTHER'S???

WHAT SELF IS ACTAULLY DOING, CREATES IT ALL, LOL...

for most, it is quite simply self preservation alone that drive, with as much comfort along the way as possible, and if there is some left over for family and friends, well, self deems itself as even rather generous...

love is not love, until it has given it's last meal, and will face imminnent death from doing so, to save it's friend or loved one...

there are a lot of potential's along the path, that may look as "happy maker's" for self...

there is no possible way, that anything can be happy, and content, if it does not know what it is actually most trying to get, and if self is trying to get something, it cannot find such without totally defining precisely what it seek...

just thoughts...

peace

I agree life is complicated as we as humans can be... I don't think life is hard. I think life is awesome... always something new to learn if we allow the lesson.

I always look at it like this, no matter how bad I have it, someone out there has it worse. If life were easy, It would be boring..jmo