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if all parties are for it - more power to them
not my cup of tea - but then again I don't like tea |
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tell your woman to look me up  
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i can tell you that open relationships dont work
i had one with my ex hubby, wayyyyyy before we even got married and there was wayy to many problems for one he went to bed with a friend of mine that i went to school with, and he knew i was mad, and his coment was we agreed.. well a week later we had gotten into a arguement about something and he was gone some where. so i ended up going over to my friend carls and he knew that i was mad. well i ended up going to bed with him. and yea i did tell my ex hubby(bf at the time) but i told him a few days later and he was pist... why should he. so meaning you could go to bed with someone and i couldnt.... and no i wouldnt do it again |
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woohooo Queene - you little sex vixen you
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woohooo Queene - you little sex vixen you as i stated that was back then.. I WOULD NOT DO THAT AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!! |
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that your relationship isn't a real one. i think open relationships are a joke. if you feel the need to date others than you don't give a damn about the person you're with. seriously. once you need to open the relationship up.. then kiss the relationship goodbye. its just cheating with a permission slip.      I think really what usually causes this is either being unhappy with the person you're with in some way, or the other person agrees to it just to make the other happy even if they aren't. Not unlike some other sexual things, the person doing it may not want to do certain things, but they do anyway to make the other happy, though it may mean sacrificing some of their own. usually this type of request is made when someone wants to cheat. when someone is done with being exclusive which means they are done with the relationship. lets take for instance a friend i have... he's a sweet guy who had a girlfriend who was kinda a nutball. well.. one day she says "i want to be bi." and he just stares at her. He loves her. what can he say?! then she says "i want to try dating girls." he stares at her. he reluctantly agrees and eventually it breaks his heart. there ya go. Yep that's pretty much it. It's funny how love can blind a person sometimes isn't it? oh he wasn't blind, he knew what would happen. the moment she asked his heart was broken. he just accepted the defeat as it came. That must have sucked, the poor guy. How long had they been dating prior to this? |
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woohooo Queene - you little sex vixen you as i stated that was back then.. I WOULD NOT DO THAT AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!! Just meant you are brave sharing that info - not judging you at all.  sorry if I offended you |
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Edited by
shoesmonkey
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Wed 07/29/09 12:18 PM
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How do Ýou feel about open relationship? My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 6 months now and we have an "open" relationship. By that I mean that we both have permission from the other to date and be intimate with other people. I have met some people that are outraged by such a thing and other think its great. We both use protection and only "play" safe. What do you think? |
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woohooo Queene - you little sex vixen you as i stated that was back then.. I WOULD NOT DO THAT AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!! Just meant you are brave sharing that info - not judging you at all. sorry if I offended you you didnt, its just when i see someone thinking that open relationships work , i think back and i say to myown self.. what a sucker they are to think this would work and if a guy would ask me about having one i would tell them to go fly a kite |
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Some people prefer to find things out on their own - they ask in these forums to find someone/anyone that agrees with them because if someone agrees with them they must be right.
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that your relationship isn't a real one. i think open relationships are a joke. if you feel the need to date others than you don't give a damn about the person you're with. seriously. once you need to open the relationship up.. then kiss the relationship goodbye. its just cheating with a permission slip. I think really what usually causes this is either being unhappy with the person you're with in some way, or the other person agrees to it just to make the other happy even if they aren't. Not unlike some other sexual things, the person doing it may not want to do certain things, but they do anyway to make the other happy, though it may mean sacrificing some of their own. usually this type of request is made when someone wants to cheat. when someone is done with being exclusive which means they are done with the relationship. lets take for instance a friend i have... he's a sweet guy who had a girlfriend who was kinda a nutball. well.. one day she says "i want to be bi." and he just stares at her. He loves her. what can he say?! then she says "i want to try dating girls." he stares at her. he reluctantly agrees and eventually it breaks his heart. there ya go. Yep that's pretty much it. It's funny how love can blind a person sometimes isn't it? oh he wasn't blind, he knew what would happen. the moment she asked his heart was broken. he just accepted the defeat as it came. That must have sucked, the poor guy. How long had they been dating prior to this? a few years. |
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How do Ýou feel about open relationship? My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 6 months now and we have an "open" relationship. By that I mean that we both have permission from the other to date and be intimate with other people. I have met some people that are outraged by such a thing and other think its great. We both use protection and only "play" safe. What do you think?   Yep. |
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Hey, I'd be open to getting a wrong number about now. OK.... My number is 1-666-555-1212 
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For me, I wouldn't want to be involved in an open relationship. But some people have their preference. What ever makes you happy.
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I say oh well, at least you're "cheating" on each other with mutual consent. I've known a lot of women who were very hurt to find out their bf/hubby was banging some other woman, so at least this way she knows what you're up to, and she's okay with it. My mom had a friend whose hubby openly cheated on her the entire time they were married, and she "looked the other way" to keep him. So my opinion is this, whatever works for the both of you, I say go for it. It's not my scene, but it's not my business.
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i can tell you that open relationships dont work i had one with my ex hubby, wayyyyyy before we even got married and there was wayy to many problems Open relationships aren't for everybody. But it can work for some people. I know a couple that are swingers and have been married for 10 yrs. |
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Reply to BonnyMiss. Well that's an interesting opinion. I know a couple that have had an open marriage for 7 of the 9 years they have been together. That's pretty stable to me. We are both very sexual people and sometimes our work schedules don't allow us to be intimate with each other for days at a time. So we have other to fill the down time. We are very much in love and know how to make a relationship work. We are both divorced and had ltr's before meeting each others. Her marriage was 9 years and mine was almost 10. We live together and are totally committed to making our relationship last. We are not just F buddies at all. We just have F buddies for those times when we need to scratch the itch and the other is not available. We agree on who the other sees or it don't happen. I believe that we are very stable in our relationship. "...for those times when we need to scratch the itch". (...poor choice of words for this thread, maybe?  )
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First off, I do have to ask... have you ever waited for something in your life? I mean I understand when you do want something, you want it, but when it comes to being intimate with your woman, doesn't the wait make it better? I don't know, I honestly don't, I was always taught that patience and honesty is a virtue. Good things are worth waiting for. And finally being in a relationship is being in a relationship, which means NOT doing anything with anyone else. No matter how bad you want the sweet lovin. No matter how good she looks. No matter how much she throws herself at you. I dunno, if I am wrong, please let me know, I honestly don't mean to sound rude, but half of what I say ends up making me sound like a jerk so take it as ya want. Yea...what he said! |
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How do Ýou feel about open relationship? Might as well still be single......Whats the point of saying your exclusive as a S.O? When your both seeing other people. Personally I couldn't do it. I like being number 1. Not saying I'm opposed to casual sex. But if I'm going to say a woman is my S.O its because I want just her and if I or she doesn't feel that way Id rather stay single than set myself up for disaster. |
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How do Ýou feel about open relationship? Might as well still be single......Whats the point of saying your exclusive as a S.O? When your both seeing other people. Personally I couldn't do it. I like being number 1. Not saying I'm opposed to casual sex. But if I'm going to say a woman is my S.O its because I want just her and if I or she doesn't feel that way Id rather stay single than set myself up for disaster. Good point, I've often wondered why they bother with calling it a "relationship" at all, why not just date whoever you like, and consider yourself single? Unless it sounds naughty to be in an "open relationship;" some people get off on terms, you know. |
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