Everyone my age is married. Around here anyhow.

That said, certain things are known, lets see.. 18, high schoolll...

a girlfriend here or thereee... with little girlsss.. not older womennn...


Hes only just completed developing physically.


Psycologicly, what does he know about a grown woman? Say.... 30,45? 50 and up?



What experience can he have? there are far too many things a woman learns in that time about a relationship, that most likely.. HES not going to know.


Whats he know about how to treat a woman? He doesnt. He doesnt know, if he tries, hes winging it, and sweating the whole time.

He hasnt built a thick skin in a relationship, to be able to endure an argument, or problem solve a heated debate on something he lacks.


There are just too many things. IMO, they are just like children.


I am positive there are exceptional young men who can handle a relationship with a older woman, but it would be rocky even in that situation, in the end it would fail miserably, as most do... for the reasons Ive stated above.

well florida is known as "gods waiting room".....so i can't say it's any better

That's more or less my whole point -- the numbers are just numbers, and all they tell you is how many times a person has ridden the planet around the sun.

It's about people, not statistics.

You're right, love is not based on being reasonable (Otherwise I never would have been married) or having experience -- reason and experience are two factors in every person's life, sure, but love isn't based on those two things. There is certainly a lot more to it.

My point, in creating this thread, was to raise the issue of relationship "limitations" that seem, after some contemplation, to be specious and disingenuous to me. Not that it matters what I think -- call them "preferences," and I will be the first to say "You're entitled to your preferences, as are we all."

Try to veil them behind nonsense like "I can't get involved with anyone who is my kid's/parent's age," as if this is some sort of noble, transcendental sentiment, as a sort of masquerade/smokescreen for what are most likely, in the end, simple preferences (albeit with glitzier packaging), and I lose the ability to see any sort of logic therein.

My other intention was to try to get some new people to e-mail me, but that seems to have gotten lost in the shuffle....!

So anyway.. will you be my boyfriend? *bats eyelashes*

I dont have any problems with age gaps, my ex was several years older than me. and i've dated guys a couple of years younger than me.

But i do have a problem when it comes to maturity. the level of maturty has to be equal in a relationship. A friend of mine (she 26) dated a guy (he 18) for a short while and on one occation he threw a tantrum (and i do mean TANTRUM, with stomping feet and slamming doors) because he didnt have his favourite shirt to wear that day. And i think the problem for some women who have children that age they dont want to have to 'mother' someone who i supposed to be a significant other.

And also SOME women may find it embarassing to be seen with someone their childs age. A work friend of mine whent on a date with a much younger co-worker and was mistaken for his mother at the reseraunt. Needless to say there hasnt been a second date.

I got a response once, all I did was reply to her nudge that she sent me and she responded with, "I have a bf," that's it LOL. Actually, that just happened yesterday lol.

The one major flaw I find in this argument is the supposition that the older woman has any more knowledge about a loving relationship than the young man does. Age does not necessarily equal experience. JMO

Let's say you are 40 and some 20 year old wants to date you. The odds that the persons maturity level or even long term interests are similar to yours are pretty darn slim. Most likely the attraction is based on some sort of fleeting emotions that aren't going to last. I suppose it's possible (as anything is), but I wouldn't be taking bets that you could build a solid lasting relationship with such a huge age gap.

I don't consider that being closed minded, it's just being realistic.

You can talk till your blue in the face and some people wont get it till they do it. They may think they like it, but will quickly realize that they have mistaken, or they may enjoy it. Whatever makes you both happy, then go for it. Just as long as it is not my daughter when she is 18 and the guy is my age. Ummmm no, that wont work. I will go to jail really quick on that one.
So look at it this way, if it was your son or daughter dating a person your age, how would you feel? If you wouldn't like it, then maybe you shouldn't do it either, or if you don't mind it, then go for it.

I don't care what other people do...if you like young/old dates - go for it!

Dating someone either of my childrens' age would feel weird to me. Having a drink with a group of them is fun and fine and does happen when visiting the kids at college (am anticipating a heck of a fun 50th birthday party over Thanksgiving weekend!)

If it DIDN'T feel weird to date that age, let me just say there are some some VERY cute boys in that circle that I know I could spend time with - I wouldn't be trolling the M2 crowd for that date!

I would bet money on that just by accident she will, even if its only by someone elses example.

OK, let's be uberrealistic.

The likelihood that ANYBODY'S interests, intellect, maturity level, creativity, favorite Pop-Tart, whatever, are going to match mine, are almost nil, regardless.

You can pretty much bet the farm that if I get involved with anybody, it'll be over in 90 days. So why should I sweat the small stuff?

Might as well make it an outrageous 90 days then. Young, hot and ready to trot!......

That's how I figure it -- "Eat, sleep, and be merry, for tomorrow she will try to turn you into a goat."

I haven't read the whole thread, but do agree about preferences and differences about where people are at points in their lives.

I did find it creepy when asked by 2 separate 18 y/o's to get involved with them. Geez, that is a 40-year age difference. I couldn't get past that. I will admit to tormenting my daughter with it though, she is 34 and I told her she would only have to buy his beer for a few years, then he would be old enough to buy his own. (She was going on about not calling an 18 y/o "daddy" so I had to get my "digs" in .)

To each their own, I know of a few cases where the woman is a lot older and they are happy, or the man is a lot older and it works. As someone said, I do think it comes down to maturity and you have to have something to carry you through the day-to-day "stuff."

Oh, and Lex, don't look now, but someone did turn you into a goat, ummm, oooppss!!!!!

Yeah, it was practically inevitable -- how was I, who am, after all, probably still only one person, going to stand against the combined might of billions of determined domesticatrices?

Conspiracy Theory #882

Hey, we are not all conspiring to turn men into farm animals, some of us may want to turn our men into "jungle animals" after all. Hmmmmmmmmmm, interesting thought!!!!

Age is just a number, but when guy can't talk about the music I like then they are too young....
If ya haven't heard of Neil Young, your not old enough for me.