I have always liked my men my age or older

My ex is 18yrs older

I just have really nothing to talk to youngins about if we were in a relationship

Also

I hate peach fuzz !!

I have only dated a woman 1 year older and the last two were 7 years younger. Those last two were born a day apart. Wow, that just dawned on me..

At 38, I admit that I am immature and a bit of a social misfit. Thats just how I perceive myself. With that being said, I dont see some 21 year old being on the same maturity level as me. She might be smarter, she might be wise beyond her years. But I feel that nothing takes the place of experience and time. And its really not an issue for me. Not a lot of 21 year olds trying to get at me

In general I have a 10 year rule, up or down. I try to be thoughtful and wise, etc. But let me be honest. She could be 18 or 50+ and if she is hot and has a nice personality, Im gonna kick my "age rule" to the curb in a heartbeat.

Oh Lex please? Just this once, step outside that NEVER box and do it. Getting a reply is really beside the point. You doing something you've never done is though.

I will have to google goat noises. I'm unsure I've ever heard a goat.

Well said.

I had a 4 year younger at the most and a 3 year older than me on the older side. Not because I don't move out of this range, but that's how it happened.

I love men of all ages...

Most younger men who email me are looking to cyber, or hook up or get my yahoo id- so they can cyber or hookup- or see my boobs or something equally lame. Older guys who email me usuallyhave something stupid to say, like "hi" and I just ignore them.

As for women who won't date a guy their kids' age, I understand that. My mom had a friend whose son ended up marrying someone who met him through her KID; she started dating her son's friend. How disgusting is that?? I don't know about you, but if I ever brought home a guy and the guy had a friend, who ended up dating my MOM, I'd be freaking pissed.

But why? You wouldn't want your mom to be happy? I mean, it's her life, right?

This whole thing just baffles me. You ask: "How disgusting is that?" To me, it's not disgusting in the least. The thing that concerns me, though, is the idea that you would rather your mom stay away from someone who might truly make her happy, simply based on some numbers. And I know this is merely a hypothetical extrapolation, but who are ANY of us to call another person's happiness "disgusting"? That's just way too judgmental for me.

Lex...I can only speak for myself. I'm not into guys that are near my sons age. But I won't tell anyone else they are wrong for dating younger people. as long as they are legal...then if it makes them happy, I'm all for it. It's just not my thing

That's what so great about living in America, we're all entitled to our opinions. Btw, she considers the men I like "disgusting" too, so maybe me being "too judgemental" is hereditary?

Well, see, I'm thinking there's a difference (and this might be technical enough to be a semantics issue at bottom) between "I'm not into people of a certain age" (a preference) vs. "I can't see myself getting ivnolved with someone who is my kid's age" (a justification -- ?)

Because a preference is something I think anyone can understand, excluding the 48-year-old women with 4 kids who like to complain about my profile (but that's a relatively small group, at least the expressive ones!) -- whereas the other just seems specious and defensive to me....

I don't think a preference, regardless of WHAT it is, should ever have to be justified....

Not everyone at a certain age have the same maturity, some at 25 are older mentally and some are younger so it's not the age that counts it's the compatibility between the two person, if they are happy they have chemistry and none is in it forcefully then I see no problem with it.

I just want to meet a woman that will be at the same level that I am whatever her age.

I'm not even saying you're personally being judgmental here -- it sounds like more of a reflex than a long-considered reaction to me....I mean, "disgusting" is not generally a term one uses to describe something one has been pondering over for several hours....

But here's the thing -- if your mom considers a man you like to be "disgusting," how much weight does that carry re: your decision whether to get involved with him?

Even more to the point -- how much weight SHOULD it carry?

My own impression is none, and none.

Aren't we really talking about a preference here?

The difference being that most of us don't label things outside our preferences as "disgusting" -- do you see where I'm going with this? -- it's a self-imposed limitation, which is fine, but it comes with a sort of "value judgment extremism" which is unnecessarily polarizing....

Lex, I think the "same age as my kid" thing comes in when you know you diapered, and potty trained someone who is this persons age.


Youve also watched this childs voice crack, and have prepubescent boobies spring, and taught them about the birds and the bees, and wiped a childs tears after they scraped their knee.. the same age as the person you are looking at.


When in a situation where you have had to nurture, and raise, and educate, and dicipline, someone who is the same age as a good looking younger man, a question forms in mind, under most normal circumstances.


Would i be munipulating, or taking advantage of someone who is younger than I, and probably doesnt possess the skill it took me this long to understand?

Is this morally sound?

Shouldnt my place be one of wisdom to someone this age, and not benefitting from their ignorance?


I know consenting adults are free to do whatever. I am not really of substancial amount of age, (as my child is only 10) to where this scenario could be in effect.


But I thought I would put out there this school of thought, as I have heard it from older women, and my mother as well.

Ive dated a man as young as 10 years less than myself. I dont see a problem myself with dating men younger.

I will say I may have a judgement call though if I ever am posed with this kind of dilemma.

I also know an amount of maternal, or paternal instinct to protect is involved.


I value your posts, and I wonder what You think about that.

I agree. and for me at least...this is just my preference. I have dated younger before (10 yrs younger) and it just wasn't for me is all. I wouldn't say for someone else that they are wrong for dating younger just as I don't feel I'm wrong for my choice. It's just opinions.

either way i ain't getting a date,so oh well

I just LOVE the term "Sugar Mamaism"...really just LOVE it!!!

we love you too! ;) hehe

I understand the basic concept, sort of, but it just seems to me that in incorporates a sort of deliberate "blindness" insofar as the separation between one's own child and another person of that age.

Let's say your kid was 5 years old and you got him a beagle puppy. Then the puppy got hit by a car two years later.

Are you going to tell other people with 5-year-old kids not to get them beagle puppies? How is your experience relevant to what theirs may or may not be?

Where you mention: "Youve also watched this childs voice crack, and have prepubescent boobies spring, and taught them about the birds and the bees, and wiped a childs tears after they scraped their knee.. the same age as the person you are looking at."

OK, but it's not the same person. This is the crux of my inability to comprehend the argument.

Same age. What about same height, same weight, same shoe size, same GPA....? What is it about age that carries this almost sacred aura of inviolability?

Where you ask: "Shouldnt my place be one of wisdom to someone this age, and not benefitting from their ignorance?"

Doesn't this carry within itself a prerequisite judgment of its own, that to do this thing is inherently wrong somehow? "Benefitting from their ignorance" holds a LOT of negative connotations; my point is that this need not be the case at all.

Can people of different ages treat each other as equals? Or is this somehow impossible? I'd like to know, because I've got a lot riding on the "equals" scenario.

Pssssst Lex, have you sent the email yet you girly man. *making impromptu goat noises*

Feel free to use that anytime. Another public service from your Friendly Neighborhood Obscure Reclusive Author....