A few of you know my stand on this. A few years is no big thing as long as the 2 involved are adults.
And maybe it is a society thing but an older man and a younger woman is no big thing ...However....
Some woman older than me was "keeping" my son for about a week.
She is beautiful....Gotta be a mental prob right.
She is 44 and he is a whopping 22.
WTH does a woman my age see in a kid?
Ok he is not hardly a kid and legal but he is such a kid!

Younger men are sometimes into more mature ladies, and younger ladies have been keeping me busy for years. Opposites attract.

That woman is not right in the head.

The only problem is the one that society has placed upon such relationships. I've dated a girl twice my age and it was fantastic, we shared a lot in common and helped each other through quite a few issues.

Maybe we should all drop these ridiculous society standards and just learn to enjoy what we have everyday...instead of finding something bad about it, look at the positive, instead of tearing the situation down, look at it from another perspective. Life is short, experience, learn, live, grow.

I agree Winx!

No, he's YOUR kid, she probably sees him (and he probably IS) far different than YOU see him. He is an adult, by several years. For whatever reasons they are or were together, it's really none of your business anymore. If he's happy, not hurting anyone or anything, then it's not your place to judge. The harsh and perhaps undeserved judgment on that woman you're dishing out could come back and bite you in the *** and you'll wish that perhaps you had opened your heart and mind a little more. All you will do with that attitude is alienate your child, is that what you want?

Perhaps she is a "mental" case but I'd bet not. Perhaps she sees the wonderful qualities with which I'm assuming he has been raised. And if she is a "mental" case, then your son will see that sooner or later, sooner if he's not so defensive with you, later if he's forced into a position of constantly defending his decisions.

While I feel for you, you are obviously upset, I'm not sure I understand why such an extreme reaction to something really relatively trivial. Relationships at that age come and go. Likely, if you let him be, it'll run it's course before your blood pressure goes back to normal.

I tend to agree with F&L ..... society "allows" older men to date younger women.
Look in any magazine at the doctors waiting room and flick through to see people like Jack Nicholson, Rod Stewart, Mick Jagger etc all dating much younger women and no one bats an eyelid.
But when Demi Moore decided to marry a younger man, wasn't she hammered by all and sundry and still is. He is often stated as being her "toy boy".

Society often puts labels on people - there is a word for a younger man - toyboy - but there is no word for a younger woman !!

No people should uphold to HIGH moral standards and I do not see where I have much in common with my son.
He has very few real life experiences, He is not mature enough...this woman has kids older than him. What, besides sex, could she possibly gain from a relationship with him.
I think women that go after the very young guys, just have control issues and feel somehow superior to them. I felt that way when I was 27 dating a 22 yr old and thats nothing compared to a 22 year age gap!

Well, that is how you feel. Nothing I say will change your view.

I feel sorry for you, to tell the truth. Such close-mindedness and judgmentalism will only lead to a very lonely life for you and a life-long estrangement from your child. Do you hate your child that much? Because, quite frankly, that's what I'm hearing.

And so what, maybe they are just ****ing, why is that YOUR business?

I don't understand the attraction myself. When I look at a 20 something guy... I think, "Oh, my daughter would like him."

I would never alienate my son over this or any choice in who he wanted to be with.
Black, white, male, female Who cares.
This is not a question of mine and his choices. My deal is ...What could she possibly get from a relationship with him? There is no equaility here. What could they possibly have in common. I hear his coversations with girls on the phone. I laugh at the silly crap that these young girls fall for. She is a Grandmother! Her son is 25!

I can't feel attraction to someone my son's age.
He's 24. I always think-that could be one of my son's friends!

your son is probably having the best sex thus far of his life. let him enjoy it IMO.

I think as a Mother any threat to my sons well being even if it is just to his heart where no it may not be any of my business but should Damn well be of concern to me.
I dont see where you got that I am hating my son on this.
When he told me I told him my thoughts which are she is missing a screw somewhere and told him to hurry up and move in so I can have my computer room back!

I do respect your opinion Fear.

Hands over ears "Lalalalal"
Shhh!

((( Good Morning Hooly )))

And LOL you could come home and there they'd be hooked up on the could eating your chips playing Guitar Hero!

I would bet, this is a passing phase.

Either way not much anyone can do.

I actually didn't know how to seg-way into this but he dropped her... said she was too immature
My question from the beginning was what she sees in him.
I am with Lily I see a 22 yr old I think is cute I think of him as a match for my daughter... not me.