I have never understood head games. I am a straight forward , honest woman. With a good heart. I met a fellow on line. We had seen each other almost everyday for the past 2 months. I was in heaven. The first month,I was cautious abit, having been burned so many times before. I had told this guy this as well. His words and his actions proved themselves over and over again. He was so happy and so was I.

We introduced our children to one another. They got along. Things were moving in such a good direction. I have never been happier. I let those walls around me down. My friends seen how we were together, his friends seen. They could see the happiness. The two weeks, leading up to him out of the blue breaking up with me, were fabulous. The week before was amazing. The sunday before, I met his parents. I had already met his ex-wife and her fiance. I casually suggested that fathers day after meeting his parents, that we meet mine. He was cool with that. That went all good. I would go the next day to his hockey game. Greeted with a big wave and smile. Big hug and kiss when he was done. He introduced me to all his hockey friends. Hugs, and kisses, and holding my hands.

Brought the kids all over mid week, and hugs and kisses....Thursday..in his arms...kissy kiss.....Friday morning I was bringing my tire over for him to change. He told me to come on over...Get out of the truck..kissy kiss, big long hug..as per normal....He starts to change the tire. I ask him whats happening in a causal way...Well he needs to talk to me..I ask if its the kids, oh no they're great. Is it another woman? oh no, hes gonna be alone. Its not me, its him, he did soul searching.....I am so great, he really likes me, still wants to be my friend..blah, blah.....can I make you something to eat? What the hell? Ahh, no not really...

Anyway, I am there till around noon. Heart broken and confused. I wait till Monday, and call him, I go and see him. I am in a daze, like why? He tells me he realized this a month ago.????? Like what the hell???? Anyway, we are going to be friends. Which was very hard for me to even decide to do.....Hg, hug, he even gave me TEARS.....

Two weeks later, I go to the club hes playing at to show support to my friend....I also had a birthday gift for him..beautiful pictures of his daughters I had taken....

Well, was I surprised...There was another woman..He seen me there, He was a few feet away from me actually, when he kissed her infront of me. Nice...

So I confronted this woman.. I just wanted to know how long they had been seeing one another? She starts swearing at me...None of your f-ing business? Why the F-ing are you here? I guess that answers my question. Anyway, I chatted to his friend outside, and he said this is not the normal behaviour of this guy. Hes the relationship man. He just told me two weeks ago how you two were getting alone so well and that he really likes you...You both want the same things....He was confused as well....He suggested that we talk later in the week about it. I never made a scene at the bar, I was pretty stunned about it all.

A few days later, my daughter texted him, and he calls me,thinking it was me...I said sorry it wasn't. He tears into me about my behavior that night, and how I embarrassed him infront of his band (they suck by the way), and his two friends, and his new relationship????? I had no idea of this new relationship?????If I had, I would never of went there......

He says I crossed these boundries of friendship, and he doesn't want those qualities in a friend. So he doesn't want me to text him, email him, or call him ever again....??????

HIs friend said that the day he broke up with me, he had invited me and him to his birthday party and at midnight, he shows up with this chick.. Hes just as confused. Shes this 38, acts likes shes a high school band groupie..and shes married. Separated for 2 weeks....

My question is how can someone treat you so wonderful, and then hate you? My intentions for going there were so innocent and man it took alot to just go there and accept him as a friend. Was I out of line? In the last month, I had gotten all this affection..your my heaven was one of his texts,the previous week? Did he get scared of everything being so wonderful, that he ran.?? Or is that an excuse for him? Is that alittle harsh, suddenly hating me like that? Is that his guilt for treating me like crap? And maybe hes the one thats embarrassed of his actions?

Just wanting an opinion on these games people play.....(Oh and she tells the guy who broke up with mes date, that she better watch out for him...) She's saying things about people she doesn't even know....

Wow

He's a player and he got busted. You need to get over him.

thank your lucky stars you are done with him

There is a book and a movie called...
He's just not that into you
check it out
You deserve better

Hmmm is he bi polar or doing drugs? Sounds all weird to me! Just be glad to be rid of him!

… And people question why I stopped dating at all about 7 years ago!

I feel badly for you. It’s not much consolation, but know that you’re not alone in being jerked around by someone you cared about. It’s really awful what he did. You handled it the best way you could. The only question left is: Do you want that kind of person to have any part of your life? I wouldn’t even want him as a friend. The memories will hurt, but the pain will fade in time.

Best wished to you in moving past this horrible experience and finding one worthy of you.

People on both sides of the coin are guilty of the head trips and stuff. And it all sucks, too.

The only thing you can do is cut them off at the pass and don't give them the chance to get you into their drama and crap.

OMG he even had the audacity to blame YOU.


Forget it.


I dunno, I never date exclusively anyway, unless its been a LOOONGGG time, and I really know someone.


"your my heaven" CLASSIC

Better to find out after only 2 months than after even more time and energy in this relationship.

I'd say you beat him at his own game, He's a player. Move on you deserve better.

I thought this thread was going to be about a really crappy rock band. be seeing you

Now this was a player
And a good one

I'm so sorry for you

Now you'll be able to spot the next one
With time you'll heal
It's just a shame the kids were involved


Tammy

foreigner hey double vision wasn't to bad and jukebox hero was alright....i know

Did he do any drugs? Do you know? Because my ex did some freaky things to me, too, and that's why. He was literally nuts from coke.

Wow.. sounds a bit like my story. I came to the conclusion he was a player and if I didnt move on then I would get hurt worse then I already was. Thank goodness yours was only 2 months... I knew my guy for 10 years... dating only 1 year.

Move on hun, and good luck!

that is very long and one day i inted to read it

I am sorry this happen to you. Take a virtual hug and hang in there.

I am sure when you get a little distance between you and this bad experience you will count your lucky stars that this louse showed his true colors as soon as he did.

I read your post a couple times and it sounds like he did a pretty good job of showing you what he wanted you to see and doing everything that would tend to let your defenses down and make you think he was into you.

With a little more time I think when you look back your view of the situation might change. You will see some of the red flags and learn from the experience. Like when commitment seems rushed. Ask your friends. How many of them have had guys that were all over their calander every day from the start? How many of your friends did you co-mingle the kids and meet their parents right off the bat? How does going out with the boys in the band compute with responsible , hard working, family man? Do you really know anyone who remained friends with someone who dumped them out of the blue? If it sounds too good to be true in a month it probably isn't.

Sure I am a great romantic at heart. It is fun to pop the cork on the champagne in our life and be happy. Just give it a little time to breath and take it in in little sips. Otherwise you will be gulping the pain of more sour experiences.

Better Luck next time. Don't give up.

You're one of the reasons everyone runs around bipolar, quit it, unless you are a psychologist or psychiatrist...it is rather annoying to hop onto the relationship bit of the forum and every single time someone has a problem with someone they are automatically bipolar.

Anyway, yea, you were played...two months is hardly worth as much thought as you are putting into it though, pick up and move on. Not worth the time and hardly worth the heartache, much less the stress on top of everything. Really, you are better off.

I can soooo relate to this. I apologize this had to happen to you. The morals of people seem to be less and less these days.
There are still good people in this world. We just need to keep looking to find them.

Good luck to you and as I read above, at least it was only two months.