Topic: Is it bad to not want to talk to your mother?
AGoodGuy1026's photo
Sat 07/18/09 11:45 AM

My mother calls me way too much and I really don't like to talk to her.
We don't get along all that well, never have, frankly I don't think she is a very nice person. Is it bad that I just avoid her calls? huh


A mixed bag... sometimes, perhaps... but never? Maybe she needs you, perhaps her life is empty and needs the contact... it's hard to say...

I know my own personal experience, sometimes I let it ring to VM even though I am home, but I usually call her back after a few days just to be sure she does not need a friend due to events in her life...


vortecpowered's photo
Sat 07/18/09 11:49 AM

My mother calls me way too much and I really don't like to talk to her.
We don't get along all that well, never have, frankly I don't think she is a very nice person. Is it bad that I just avoid her calls? huh


even though i honestly like my parents i think it would get a bit annoying if they called all the time. and if that happened i'd just tell them so (tactfully). if the conversations always go flat or turn nasty, it's pretty obvious they aren't worth having that often.

nnason's photo
Sat 07/18/09 11:49 AM
for me i think is real crazy to avoid your mother no matter what for christ sake she is your mother that means you never valve your mother she gave birth to you just for that reason you have to love her with all your heart even respect her see this life is crazy you mom need you that why she calls you regular you are her blood you are a woman you gonna gave birth someday bear this in mind what goes around comes around so think twice before you do.

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Sat 07/18/09 11:51 AM

My mother calls me way too much and I really don't like to talk to her.
We don't get along all that well, never have, frankly I don't think she is a very nice person. Is it bad that I just avoid her calls? huh
no its not a bad thing if shes not a nice person..me and my brother,aint spoke 2 our mum and dad 4 over 15 years"as they did the dirty on my bro"

Ladylid2012's photo
Sat 07/18/09 11:54 AM
yeah, I hear ya there. I just wish we got along better, would be easier to deal with her. Food for thought, thanks:smile:

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Sat 07/18/09 11:55 AM
Just remember you only get one Mom. Mine parents call to check on me if they haven't heard from me in a bit. It's just the way they are.

TxsSun's photo
Sat 07/18/09 11:59 AM
I agree. We do only get one Mom and we don't get to choose who that one is. I do not really get a long with mine either, but I talk to her twice a week just to keep the peace.

Other than that, nah, not much going on.

Ladylid2012's photo
Sat 07/18/09 11:59 AM
Edited by Ladylid2012 on Sat 07/18/09 12:02 PM

for me i think is real crazy to avoid your mother no matter what for christ sake she is your mother that means you never valve your mother she gave birth to you just for that reason you have to love her with all your heart even respect her see this life is crazy you mom need you that why she calls you regular you are her blood you are a woman you gonna gave birth someday bear this in mind what goes around comes around so think twice before you do.



I do value her for bringing me into this world... I'm not mean to her.
And I have 3 sons, all grown up and we talk all the time. My son who lives out of state calls me all the time, we have a good relationship.
And my sons don't want to talk to their grandma either... whoa
She isn't very nice and maybe if she wants people to talk to her more she should lighten up... just maybe. Relationships work both ways, whether it's family or not.

Slyther83's photo
Sat 07/18/09 12:01 PM
haha i dont mind my mom shes pretty cool. my dads emo and annoying as fuq tho (wonder why she divorced him). i answer 1/5 phone calls from him and generally have to make up some bs to get off the phone after an hour of him droning on about his lazy*** life

TxsSun's photo
Sat 07/18/09 12:02 PM


for me i think is real crazy to avoid your mother no matter what for christ sake she is your mother that means you never valve your mother she gave birth to you just for that reason you have to love her with all your heart even respect her see this life is crazy you mom need you that why she calls you regular you are her blood you are a woman you gonna gave birth someday bear this in mind what goes around comes around so think twice before you do.



I do value her for bringing me into this world... I'm not mean to her.
And I have 3 sons, all grown up and we talk all the time. My son who lives out of state calls me all the time, we have a good relationship.
And my sons don't want to talk to their grandma either... whoa
She isn't very nice and maybe if she wants people to talk to her more she should lighten up... just maybe. Relationships work both ways, whether it's family or not.




Wow, are you sure we don't have the same Mother? huh

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Sat 07/18/09 12:03 PM

for me i think is real crazy to avoid your mother no matter what for christ sake she is your mother that means you never valve your mother she gave birth to you just for that reason you have to love her with all your heart even respect her see this life is crazy you mom need you that why she calls you regular you are her blood you are a woman you gonna gave birth someday bear this in mind what goes around comes around so think twice before you do.


I couldn't disagree more!!
I was put in a foster home, lets just say.. My Mom made it really clear every day that she wished she never had kids.

Then when I became adult and on my own, she found me..But not for me. she wanted another source of income, even had my paydays marked on her calendar. She made life a living hell for anyone near her in short.

It is really sad to say that I didn't grieve her passing.
Rather I felt the relief of her then Husband.. I never seen a man put up with such hell.
But this is an extreme.

Some people just live to be nasty.

TwilightsTwin's photo
Sat 07/18/09 12:06 PM

My mother calls me way too much and I really don't like to talk to her.
We don't get along all that well, never have, frankly I don't think she is a very nice person. Is it bad that I just avoid her calls? huh


Question is will you regret avoiding her calls? Some day she won't be able to call you.

Live your life without regrets, thats my only advice.

TxsGal3333's photo
Sat 07/18/09 12:06 PM
It is sad to hear that some do not get along with their parents and feel that way. It would break my heart to know that my kids felt the way that some feel about their parents here. Yes I do call my kids but.... no more then they in fact call me. My son comes by to see me 2-3 times a week only short visits but he does and I look forward to those times. My daughter is normally the more busy one but she still comes by or calls me or I do her if she don't.

But I don't try to run their lives or tell them how to live it either guess that is the difference. We don't argue I respect their space as thy do mine.

Myself I would give anything to have either one of my parents around never had the chance to have a mother call me and check on me for she passed away when I was a baby and lost my dad 7 years ago this Jan.

Sometimes it makes me wonder if some should not really look at the situation they are in and resolve those issues before it is too late and those that seem to annoy you are no longer here. Then it will be too late to wish you had in fact changed things that could in fact have been changed.

Ladylid2012's photo
Sat 07/18/09 12:08 PM



for me i think is real crazy to avoid your mother no matter what for christ sake she is your mother that means you never valve your mother she gave birth to you just for that reason you have to love her with all your heart even respect her see this life is crazy you mom need you that why she calls you regular you are her blood you are a woman you gonna gave birth someday bear this in mind what goes around comes around so think twice before you do.



I do value her for bringing me into this world... I'm not mean to her.
And I have 3 sons, all grown up and we talk all the time. My son who lives out of state calls me all the time, we have a good relationship.
And my sons don't want to talk to their grandma either... whoa
She isn't very nice and maybe if she wants people to talk to her more she should lighten up... just maybe. Relationships work both ways, whether it's family or not.




Wow, are you sure we don't have the same Mother? huh
laugh laugh maybe

Ladylid2012's photo
Sat 07/18/09 12:11 PM


for me i think is real crazy to avoid your mother no matter what for christ sake she is your mother that means you never valve your mother she gave birth to you just for that reason you have to love her with all your heart even respect her see this life is crazy you mom need you that why she calls you regular you are her blood you are a woman you gonna gave birth someday bear this in mind what goes around comes around so think twice before you do.


I couldn't disagree more!!
I was put in a foster home, lets just say.. My Mom made it really clear every day that she wished she never had kids.

Then when I became adult and on my own, she found me..But not for me. she wanted another source of income, even had my paydays marked on her calendar. She made life a living hell for anyone near her in short.

It is really sad to say that I didn't grieve her passing.
Rather I felt the relief of her then Husband.. I never seen a man put up with such hell.
But this is an extreme.

Some people just live to be nasty.


Thank you!
There is this little saying that says..
"Honor your mother and father" spock
If your parents are jerks, your parents are jerks. If I was a jerk to my sons, then they probably wouldn't want to talk to me.

no photo
Sat 07/18/09 12:11 PM

It is sad to hear that some do not get along with their parents and feel that way. It would break my heart to know that my kids felt the way that some feel about their parents here. Yes I do call my kids but.... no more then they in fact call me. My son comes by to see me 2-3 times a week only short visits but he does and I look forward to those times. My daughter is normally the more busy one but she still comes by or calls me or I do her if she don't.

But I don't try to run their lives or tell them how to live it either guess that is the difference. We don't argue I respect their space as thy do mine.

Myself I would give anything to have either one of my parents around never had the chance to have a mother call me and check on me for she passed away when I was a baby and lost my dad 7 years ago this Jan.

Sometimes it makes me wonder if some should not really look at the situation they are in and resolve those issues before it is too late and those that seem to annoy you are no longer here. Then it will be too late to wish you had in fact changed things that could in fact have been changed.
i wish we add a mother like youflowerforyou

TxsGal3333's photo
Sat 07/18/09 12:19 PM

i wish we add a mother like youflowerforyou


Maybe I'm the way I'm due to I hope that I'm the way my mother would have been with me........The way that my grandmother was with us.bigsmile

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Sat 07/18/09 12:19 PM



for me i think is real crazy to avoid your mother no matter what for christ sake she is your mother that means you never valve your mother she gave birth to you just for that reason you have to love her with all your heart even respect her see this life is crazy you mom need you that why she calls you regular you are her blood you are a woman you gonna gave birth someday bear this in mind what goes around comes around so think twice before you do.


I couldn't disagree more!!
I was put in a foster home, lets just say.. My Mom made it really clear every day that she wished she never had kids.

Then when I became adult and on my own, she found me..But not for me. she wanted another source of income, even had my paydays marked on her calendar. She made life a living hell for anyone near her in short.

It is really sad to say that I didn't grieve her passing.
Rather I felt the relief of her then Husband.. I never seen a man put up with such hell.
But this is an extreme.

Some people just live to be nasty.


Thank you!
There is this little saying that says..
"Honor your mother and father" spock
If your parents are jerks, your parents are jerks. If I was a jerk to my sons, then they probably wouldn't want to talk to me.



My kids and I talk on a regular basis, get along great.
I guess that is the ONLY good thing I learned from My Mom...How to NOT treat those we love!!

On the flip side.. I did get an excellent foster home, These are my Parents! We still stay close

Winx's photo
Sat 07/18/09 12:19 PM

Just remember you only get one Mom. Mine parents call to check on me if they haven't heard from me in a bit. It's just the way they are.


Mine are that way too.

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Sat 07/18/09 12:22 PM


i wish we add a mother like youflowerforyou


Maybe I'm the way I'm due to I hope that I'm the way my mother would have been with me........The way that my grandmother was with us.bigsmile


I agree, Thank God for Grandmothers!!:banana: :banana: :banana: