blood relation means little to me. i love my family but im not going to remain in constant contact with certain members who act like smackeda$$es all the time just because i share genetics with them. i have like 15 cousins and im closest by far with one whos from another marriage and doesnt share any blood.

Indeed...blood is not always thicker than water.

"Sometimes families do not grow up in the same house"
Richard Bach

very true. i have some friends who'd get my help long before some of my relatives if they were dangling over a cliff.

I know what you mean.. I always put my family first.. Found out the hard way my friends are better family than all my family, except my sons of course...

Friends are God's way of making up for our family

yeah i perv'd your profile. dear lord.

I agree Lady.. My friends are so wonderful, I feel truly blessed...

There were times when I didn't want to talk to mine. I talked on the phone ALL day at work and the last thing I wanted to do when I got home was talk on the phone. And she'd always call to be sure an axe murderer wasn't hiding behind my shower curtain! We were Extremely close and she passed away in 06. Now, man....there are so many times I'd just like to talk to my Mom.

I talk to my mom almost daily, sometimes a few times a day if my sch allows. I am lucky to have my mom as my best friend. I have an older sister that I avoid at all costs, finally gave myself permission to stop putting myself in harms way! I am actually closer to some of my step siblings than I am to my blood siblings...

We get to choose our friends, not our families. If you and you mom truly don't get along...don't feel bad for limiting contact. Once you have made that decision, do not do guilt!!!

I wouldnt encourage you to talk to anyone ya dont want to.

Wow

I can't imagine not talking to mom no matter how not nice she is

And I'd die

If my girls didn't talk to me!!

I think its total bs for people to guilt you because your not feeling your Mom.

Some people parents are horrid people that are unhealthy for a person to commuincate with much, or at all.


Before I moved to my Moms same town, I spoke with her all throughout the day, we are very close. Weve had times when we werent as close.

But I have to limit convos with my father, because its awful, and bad for me.

My Dr. even instructed me to limit the visits, and calls.

Just because people are family, doesnt mean they are decent people.


Many times if these people weret related, wed never be their friends.

I don't mind talking to my mother...it's my dad that bugs me with the same old question he's been asking me for 30+ yrs.

"Are you ready to move home yet? I'll help financially and you can stay here until you get on your feet again." It's like he doesn't care about what I want...my happiness. I love the family and all but have no desire to move back to those Ohio winters. When I talk to him on the phone and hear that question, there is a moment of silence then I change the subject.