I would leave when my "bad" column was longer than my "good".
Let's just put it this way, when the hurt outweighs the love, its time to move on.

it wouldnt be for very much longer

I first would ask him/her to sit down and try to see what is going on and if that doesn't solve anything. I would just move on because I know there is someone out there who will show love, affection, hold hands, kissing and sex.

id leave immediately.. they can go **** themselves, theyre lucky Im there in the first damn place.

sounds like marriage.!!!

I managed 8 Years. Finally I could take it no longer.

OMG that is EXactlY WHAT happened before I met Peccy...my former bf...and I guess we all know what happened lol

actually wasn't funny at the the time though

I've heard it all before!
Been there, done that!!!

What time is it now?!?


Kick them to the curb

i did this for the last 3 years.it really sucked.all she was in love with was the money i made working on the river. she wanted the benefits of a relationship with someone who had a good paying job without giving any or very little affection.i will never do it again.thanks to datehookup though,ive found my sweetheart.....shes definately my huckleberry!i do however still have my mingles sight intact for the forums,but ive taken down my profile since im not looking anymore.ive already found her and next week im relocating for the relationship because i can live anywhere since i work on the water.i only have to commute to work once evry 30 days,so distance to commute doesnt matter!

I had this happen
I could live without the constant affection and attention
But once sex stops. I'm out!

This is a loaded question. Either you get to the bottom of it and see what is going on and if it can be worked out or you bail. No sense in staying in a relationship where nothing is forthcoming.

NO one falls in and out of love so easily. Like weight loss, relationships have plateaus. Always believe in that saying: when the honeymoon is over......

And when it is, not a reason to keep going until you both have exhausted all options of making it work. I have heard plenty of people say "we still love each other but we couldn't make it work". Baloney! They didn't try hard enough or they let it get stale for so long that when they did try to salvage something from the relationship, it was too late.

Try to beat the odds if you care for someone and when all else fails, walk away with your head up and no regrets. At least you gave it a shot.

I guess the key word here is "suddenly". I think all kinds of alarm bells would go off very quickly. Family pow wow almost immediately.

If they were not willing to work together to identify, and resolve whatever "sank" the connection I think I would not believe they loved me regardless of what they said.

I do think there are problems like assaults, job loss, physical or emotional problems that might take a while to resolve so I wouldn't cut and run immediately but if they abandon the relationship on all the levels you listed I think I would be calling it quits after a few months. Never years.

to be honest, i wouldn't stay with them. actions mean more to me than words and if someone isn't showing you how they feel but telling you that they love, they are probably just saying that. get out, run, as fast as you can.

I have this strange feeling that darinlee has lived my life. My relationship was also 3 years, and my ex was the penultimate user and a sociopath. If this happens, pretend your house is on fire and GET OUT NOW! This is a really bad sign, and the more you fight it, the worse it will get. Trust me on this one!