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Topic: You know what I don't get???
Rockmybobbysocks Joined Thu 10/30/08 Posts: 3961	Wed 07/15/09 07:52 PM
Asking important questions.... Oh the joys of dating. 1. Do you own/have more than 27 cats? 2. Is the a graveyard behind your house that contains anything but dead pets? 3. If you were a neurotic psycho with night terrors, would you tell me? 4. Does the shirt make me look frumpy? 1. no. 2. yes. 3. no. 4. yes. i heart you! 1. Sweet! 2. Ummm, what else is buried there? 3. Yea, but a neurotic psycho would say no too. 4. Damn you! 1. yay! 2. if i told ya... i'd have to.. nevermind. 3. trust me ... you'd find out on your own. :p 4. hehehe

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Wed 07/15/09 07:52 PM
How many of you have run into members of the opposite sex at online dating sites that ask: "So what are you looking for?". I mean can't we just chat, meet, chat some more and figure that out when we get to it? Do we have to lay the ground rules before we even talk on the phone? Are people nowadays so afraid of relationships that they have to find out where they stand BEFORE they get out from behind the computer and talk to each other face to face? In my opinion people ask that question for mainly three reason, "So what are you looking for?" 1- Are you looking for love? 2- Are you looking for friendship? 3- Are you looking for sex? You may have sometimes other variances to the question but that's about it.i agree, look at my post at begining

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Wed 07/15/09 07:54 PM
How many of you have run into members of the opposite sex at online dating sites that ask: "So what are you looking for?". I mean can't we just chat, meet, chat some more and figure that out when we get to it? Do we have to lay the ground rules before we even talk on the phone? Are people nowadays so afraid of relationships that they have to find out where they stand BEFORE they get out from behind the computer and talk to each other face to face? In my opinion people ask that question for mainly three reason, "So what are you looking for?" 1- Are you looking for love? 2- Are you looking for friendship? 3- Are you looking for sex? You may have sometimes other variances to the question but that's about it.i agree, look at my post at begining look at my post at begining

earthytaurus76 Joined Wed 04/08/09 Posts: 6603	Wed 07/15/09 07:56 PM Edited by earthytaurus76 on Wed 07/15/09 07:57 PM
Its jusy too often people dont have common sense, so unfortunately people first have to find out if the other is sane, has a sense of normalcy, common sense, etc.. I agree that "What are you looking for?" is a stupid on the spot question.

lionsbrew Joined Tue 08/22/06 Posts: 14232	Wed 07/15/09 07:57 PM
Are those three questions you would ask a stranger off the street? Personally I think you can learn way more from the idle chit chat than any of those questions. Like what would you do if some stranger walked up and asked that of you right after a hello?

Gumbyvs Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 2417	Wed 07/15/09 07:58 PM
Its jusy too often people dont have common sense, so unfortunately people first have to find out if the other is sane, has a sense of normalcy, common sense, etc.. I agree that "What are you looking for?" is a stupid on the spot question. What if someone is looking for something and you ask them "What are you looking for?". Is it stupid at that point too?

Gumbyvs Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 2417	Wed 07/15/09 08:03 PM
Yea, we've gotten here.

cabot Joined Fri 06/12/09 Posts: 640	Wed 07/15/09 08:05 PM
As a man I do not ask for directions... Seriously, Don't ever ask a question like "what are you looking for" it sounds like someone is looking for directions. We all know what we are looking for and a conversation will tell us alot. jmo

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Wed 07/15/09 08:18 PM
That would freak me out if I saw a family member on here!!!!!!

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Wed 07/15/09 08:24 PM
As a man I do not ask for directions... Seriously, Don't ever ask a question like "what are you looking for" it sounds like someone is looking for directions. We all know what we are looking for and a conversation will tell us alot. jmo what if the girl is lesbian or bi and you dont want that. so many people lie now days, you need to ask

cabot Joined Fri 06/12/09 Posts: 640	Wed 07/15/09 08:56 PM
As a man I do not ask for directions... Seriously, Don't ever ask a question like "what are you looking for" it sounds like someone is looking for directions. We all know what we are looking for and a conversation will tell us alot. jmo what if the girl is lesbian or bi and you dont want that. so many people lie now days, you need to ask If you are on a date with her...I would hope you would realize that in the first 5 minutes...or at least a half hour. Why would someone who is a lesbian go on a date with a guy? Just asking.

fullmoonfairy Joined Mon 02/23/09 Posts: 1788	Thu 07/16/09 08:09 AM Edited by fullmoonfairy on Thu 07/16/09 08:09 AM
Well, one important question I always ask right up front is "When you eat a sandwich, do you use both hands or just one?". Reason I ask this is because I had a date with a guy once who had pretty big paws and used only one of them to eat his sandwich. He looked like an ape. TURN-OFF!!! Anyway. Another idiot question I've encountered many times is: "So what are you into?" (sexually) What is the guy hoping to gain from that information? Again, it's a shortcut to getting right down to business without actually doing any work. Or is he hoping that the answer will be "OMG...I LOVE getting it on with my girlfriend and have my boyfriend join in...oh, and anal is like SO my favorite...and bj's...I LOVE giving bj's because when my mouth is full, I don't have to talk and you can keep watching the football game on TV." Come on people!!!

snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Thu 07/16/09 08:15 AM
I'm thinking, a guy who asks that, yeah, that's what he's hoping.