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Topic: Ways your partner tells you their not commited
AdventureBegins Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 7666	Mon 07/13/09 09:40 PM
I am sure we have all seen a lot of these. When the voice says 'I'm committed' but the actions show otherwise(or so it seems to you at the time). What are some of things people do that send the message 'I might not really be committed'? Perhaps if we examine some of them we can all learn not to send those messages... and benefit from it.

tngxl65 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6189	Mon 07/13/09 09:42 PM
I am sure we have all seen a lot of these. When the voice says 'I'm committed' but the actions show otherwise(or so it seems to you at the time). What are some of things people do that send the message 'I might not really be committed'? Perhaps if we examine some of them we can all learn not to send those messages... and benefit from it. I don't think I want them to learn how not send the message. I think it would be better for them to actually be committed.

AdventureBegins Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 7666	Mon 07/13/09 09:45 PM
I am sure we have all seen a lot of these. When the voice says 'I'm committed' but the actions show otherwise(or so it seems to you at the time). What are some of things people do that send the message 'I might not really be committed'? Perhaps if we examine some of them we can all learn not to send those messages... and benefit from it. I don't think I want them to learn how not send the message. I think it would be better for them to actually be committed. What if you are totally committed but something you are doing (without even realizing it) causes your partner to feel you are? you might be suprised.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Mon 07/13/09 09:47 PM
I am sure we have all seen a lot of these. When the voice says 'I'm committed' but the actions show otherwise(or so it seems to you at the time). What are some of things people do that send the message 'I might not really be committed'? Perhaps if we examine some of them we can all learn not to send those messages... and benefit from it. If she brings her boy toy home to meet you, she's probably not committed.

tngxl65 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6189	Mon 07/13/09 09:50 PM
I am sure we have all seen a lot of these. When the voice says 'I'm committed' but the actions show otherwise(or so it seems to you at the time). What are some of things people do that send the message 'I might not really be committed'? Perhaps if we examine some of them we can all learn not to send those messages... and benefit from it. I don't think I want them to learn how not send the message. I think it would be better for them to actually be committed. What if you are totally committed but something you are doing (without even realizing it) causes your partner to feel you are? you might be suprised. If you're both totally committed, then a conversation should go a long way towards resolving it.

vortecpowered Joined Mon 04/06/09 Posts: 665	Mon 07/13/09 09:51 PM
let me tell you what's NOT a statement that i'm not into her. if i'm in a really bad mood and i say i'd like to be alone for a while to unwind. just because your in a relationship does not mean you have to be all over each others' business constantly.

lonetar25 Joined Mon 05/18/09 Posts: 3531	Mon 07/13/09 09:58 PM
if she cuts off your thingy and feeds it to the dog then she`s probably, just not that into you

ablessedlady Joined Mon 07/07/08 Posts: 113	Mon 07/13/09 10:05 PM
let me tell you what's NOT a statement that i'm not into her. if i'm in a really bad mood and i say i'd like to be alone for a while to unwind. just because your in a relationship does not mean you have to be all over each others' business constantly. I agree. I believe couples,okay in my case if/when I am 1/2 of a couple,we need to have some time apart. Whether it's to spend some time with an activity the partner is not into or maybe just a time 1 wants to be alone to think,talk to God,just ponder life. I didn't feel this way when I was young,but by about 37 I was no longer clingy or insecure about what he was doing without me. I feel it is good for the relationship to be apart now and then, but most of the time doing things together jmo

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 07/13/09 10:21 PM
I am sure we have all seen a lot of these. When the voice says 'I'm committed' but the actions show otherwise(or so it seems to you at the time). What are some of things people do that send the message 'I might not really be committed'? Perhaps if we examine some of them we can all learn not to send those messages... and benefit from it. When they want to go out and do things without you

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Mon 07/13/09 10:51 PM
When they want to go out and do things without you I must disagree. Just because someone wants to do things that the other may find dull doesn't mean they aren't commited. For example, I am a musician. I'm not going to bring my girlfriend to a band prectice twice a week because she'd be bored out of her mind and I'd be ignoring her. Having a life outside your relationship is a good thing. It allows you to have something to talk about when you are together.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 07/13/09 10:59 PM
When they want to go out and do things without you I must disagree. Just because someone wants to do things that the other may find dull doesn't mean they aren't commited. For example, I am a musician. I'm not going to bring my girlfriend to a band prectice twice a week because she'd be bored out of her mind and I'd be ignoring her. Having a life outside your relationship is a good thing. It allows you to have something to talk about when you are together. Good point

Motevia Joined Tue 06/12/07 Posts: 271	Tue 07/14/09 07:18 AM
I am sure we have all seen a lot of these. When the voice says 'I'm committed' but the actions show otherwise(or so it seems to you at the time). What are some of things people do that send the message 'I might not really be committed'? Perhaps if we examine some of them we can all learn not to send those messages... and benefit from it. He only drives the half hour to see you on the weekends and then b*tches about gas money it takes to see you. Yea... been there.

Nova86 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 4547	Tue 07/14/09 07:28 AM
if you meet your current girlfriend at a family reunion you migh.... oops, wrong topic again uuuuhhhhhh backs out quietly

Gossipmpm Joined Tue 03/03/09 Posts: 19414	Tue 07/14/09 07:48 AM
I'd probably figure it out after I saw The girlfriend The wife The boyfriend

Gaelicgals Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 18	Tue 07/14/09 11:30 AM
Boils down to simple: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS nuff said Melody

newarkjw Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 17172	Tue 07/14/09 11:45 AM
Restraining Order

suncandy25 Joined Sun 01/18/09 Posts: 348	Tue 07/14/09 12:27 PM
Restraining Order Some still don't get it after the papers have been served.

pokerface1200 Joined Mon 10/20/08 Posts: 60	Tue 07/14/09 02:09 PM
someone once said to me "you can say what you want but your actions will prove the story" so you really need to base it on actions and not words. remember we can say what we want and what we would like to happen but our actions ultimately prove if we mean it or not

vortecpowered Joined Mon 04/06/09 Posts: 665	Tue 07/14/09 03:03 PM
I am sure we have all seen a lot of these. When the voice says 'I'm committed' but the actions show otherwise(or so it seems to you at the time). What are some of things people do that send the message 'I might not really be committed'? Perhaps if we examine some of them we can all learn not to send those messages... and benefit from it. He only drives the half hour to see you on the weekends and then btches about gas money it takes to see you. Yea... been there. anybody who ****** about driving 30 minutes is a whiny little baby.