That is what I would have said, E.T.

You only go with what feels right.What you choose is what you get!
To many people just over look their own feelings,for the fear of being alone,only to be split up a couple of years later,or even divorced a few years later
Get to know yourself first,an then pick a mate!

well, it all depends on who you are

for some that might be okay

for others it may be too much of a compromise


for me , it would be too much of a compromise

and i don't want to be ruled by my fears

yeah kinda

good advice

Thank you Nessa

Of course, i wasnt suggesting otherwise.

I agree with the others that if it's ok with the person it should be ok, but if you're asking the question then obviously it's not ok. Also the thing that gets me is that it's not neccisarily that your asking the question as it is what you're asking. People question everything. It's human nature, but it shouldn't be about finding or not finding someone "better". The question shouldn't be "Is it ok to settle because you don't think you can find some one better?" What should be be asked is are you not settling because you feel there is someone better out there? Regardless of the fact that you don't think you could get some one else, if you don't think the person your with is the best and you feel like you're "just settling" then perhaps it's time to reevaluate you're wants for a relationship and revaluate the one you're in.

Thank you ,and that is some excellent and thought provoking advice

In my opinion...Life is an experience, and you want to have really good experiences in life and be happy. It isn't so much that you find someone and "settle" for them...what ends up happening is that you find someone cool...you click with them...things are great..but of course...there's a big chance that someone more "fitting" for you is still out there, but who knows when you will meet him/her. relationships end up coming and going, people want something that will last, but often times it seems that it doesn't. In the end of "some" relationships...people look back on it as a good experience, they learned from it, and shared good times and bad times with the person they were with...

in a way it is also bad..because the way some people see it...is "I'll stick with him/her till something better comes along"...then...that just turns out to be "using". Wheather it's good or bad is up to the person viewing that scenario...the bad truth of life is that in order to get what we want...eventually we will have to step on someone else to get it, or get what makes us feel good...that job you got lucky and got some other guy felt he deserved it, the bump up in position results in a jealous co-worker..that girl you met at the club, some other guy had her eye on her for quite awhile but just never got up the nerves to ask her out and you ended up stealing his chance...it's just part of life I guess...

Great point

Just like a relationships on Mingles.
Unless you have spent time on here,reading the forums.
An knowing the humor in some of the people that post the most,they don't understand?
Most that come to dating sites,don't even post.
What they look for,i still will try an understand.

For myself...I searched the site,to understand what it's all about!
An now...It one of the bests sites i have been on,cause it come down to communication!

To be accepted into the family is another,that is trust

You are more than welcome my Dear Lee

what time is it there 3 AM ???

don't you ever sleep Buddy ?

You are so poetic

I don't get enough sleep. But I am fixing to hit the hay

Friends with benefits is ok, as long as both understand

I don't get enough sleep. But I am fixing to hit the hay



that's good ....

cause you have lots of responsibility in your day job

& I think you stress too much

but then, it takes one to know one


& you definitely need your rest

soo, sleep well and sweet dreams