Topic: Is It Ever Okay?
MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 12:18 AM

Friends with benefits is ok, as long as both understand
flowerforyou

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Mon 07/13/09 12:19 AM


Just like a relationships on Mingles.
Unless you have spent time on here,reading the forums.
An knowing the humor in some of the people that post the most,they don't understand?
Most that come to dating sites,don't even post.
What they look for,i still will try an understand.

For myself...I searched the site,to understand what it's all about!
An now...It one of the bests sites i have been on,cause it come down to communication!

To be accepted into the family is another,that is trustsmokin

flowerforyou
bigsmile You are so poeticflowerforyou


embarassed Nope...
Just feelings:smile:

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 12:20 AM

that's good ....bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile

cause you have lots of responsibility in your day job drinker

& I think you stress too much drinker

but then, it takes one to know one bigsmile


& you definitely need your rest yawn yawn yawn

soo, sleep well and sweet dreams flowers flowers flowers
flowerforyou No stress Nessa.flowerforyouI just do these questions for fun.bigsmileI wouldn't put something about me or anyone else on here because that could cause dramaflowerforyouThank you for caring and I am going to catch some z's soon flowers

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 12:22 AM



Just like a relationships on Mingles.
Unless you have spent time on here,reading the forums.
An knowing the humor in some of the people that post the most,they don't understand?
Most that come to dating sites,don't even post.
What they look for,i still will try an understand.

For myself...I searched the site,to understand what it's all about!
An now...It one of the bests sites i have been on,cause it come down to communication!

To be accepted into the family is another,that is trustsmokin

flowerforyou
bigsmile You are so poeticflowerforyou


embarassed Nope...
Just feelings:smile:




bigsmile Maybe its just me, but sometimes you seem to have such a lyrical quality to the things you sayflowerforyou I like it when you do thatflowerforyou It's cutebigsmile

Rapunzel's photo
Mon 07/13/09 12:24 AM
okay ..honey...that is good flowerforyou

It's almost 12:30 AM here yawn

so i am gonna hit the sack too laugh


good night everyone flowers flowers flowers




MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 12:26 AM

okay ..honey...that is good flowerforyou

It's almost 12:30 AM here yawn

so i am gonna hit the sack too laugh


good night everyone flowers flowers flowers




flowerforyou Goodnight Lady Nessa,and I thank you for posting in my thread:heart:

IdAppreciate's photo
Mon 07/13/09 12:27 AM

:heart:Is it ever ok to be with someone because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else better?:heart:

I feel that a problem lies in feeling "afraid".
How about just feeling good with who you are spending time with and enjoying yourself in the moment?
I think a healthy relationship requires trust in yourself that you are making a choice to be with them because you feel good about yourself when you're with them. If you are thinking about "someone better" then maybe your thoughts are elsewhere? Another concern is that if you feel that there is another "better" mate out there, what does that make you feel about who you ARE with? Are they ...not good enough? How would you treat them if you felt that way?

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Mon 07/13/09 12:28 AM


that's good ....bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile

cause you have lots of responsibility in your day job drinker

& I think you stress too much drinker

but then, it takes one to know one bigsmile


& you definitely need your rest yawn yawn yawn

soo, sleep well and sweet dreams flowers flowers flowers
flowerforyou No stress Nessa.flowerforyouI just do these questions for fun.bigsmileI wouldn't put something about me or anyone else on here because that could cause dramaflowerforyouThank you for caring and I am going to catch some z's soon flowers


One day i will rest,but today you need me most.

So for the time i have,i will rest upon your shoulder...

For the comfort of both!

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 12:29 AM


:heart:Is it ever ok to be with someone because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else better?:heart:

I feel that a problem lies in feeling "afraid".
How about just feeling good with who you are spending time with and enjoying yourself in the moment?
I think a healthy relationship requires trust in yourself that you are making a choice to be with them because you feel good about yourself when you're with them. If you are thinking about "someone better" then maybe your thoughts are elsewhere? Another concern is that if you feel that there is another "better" mate out there, what does that make you feel about who you ARE with? Are they ...not good enough? How would you treat them if you felt that way?



:thumbsup: Excellent point:thumbsup:

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 07/13/09 12:30 AM



that's good ....bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile

cause you have lots of responsibility in your day job drinker

& I think you stress too much drinker

but then, it takes one to know one bigsmile


& you definitely need your rest yawn yawn yawn

soo, sleep well and sweet dreams flowers flowers flowers
flowerforyou No stress Nessa.flowerforyouI just do these questions for fun.bigsmileI wouldn't put something about me or anyone else on here because that could cause dramaflowerforyouThank you for caring and I am going to catch some z's soon flowers


One day i will rest,but today you need me most.

So for the time i have,i will rest upon your shoulder...

For the comfort of both!
bigsmile That is so adorableflowerforyou

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Mon 07/13/09 12:35 AM




that's good ....bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile

cause you have lots of responsibility in your day job drinker

& I think you stress too much drinker

but then, it takes one to know one bigsmile


& you definitely need your rest yawn yawn yawn

soo, sleep well and sweet dreams flowers flowers flowers
flowerforyou No stress Nessa.flowerforyouI just do these questions for fun.bigsmileI wouldn't put something about me or anyone else on here because that could cause dramaflowerforyouThank you for caring and I am going to catch some z's soon flowers


One day i will rest,but today you need me most.

So for the time i have,i will rest upon your shoulder...

For the comfort of both!
bigsmile That is so adorableflowerforyou


Feeling is what i see,or read between the linesflowerforyou

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Mon 07/13/09 12:38 AM





that's good ....bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile

cause you have lots of responsibility in your day job drinker

& I think you stress too much drinker

but then, it takes one to know one bigsmile


& you definitely need your rest yawn yawn yawn

soo, sleep well and sweet dreams flowers flowers flowers
flowerforyou No stress Nessa.flowerforyouI just do these questions for fun.bigsmileI wouldn't put something about me or anyone else on here because that could cause dramaflowerforyouThank you for caring and I am going to catch some z's soon flowers


One day i will rest,but today you need me most.

So for the time i have,i will rest upon your shoulder...

For the comfort of both!
bigsmile That is so adorableflowerforyou


Feeling is what i see,or read between the linesflowerforyou


Love of friendsflowerforyou

74Drew's photo
Mon 07/13/09 12:53 AM

:heart:Is it ever ok to be with someone because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else better?:heart:

sure. but it's not ok to be with someone because you're afraid of being alone.


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Mon 07/13/09 01:04 AM


:heart:Is it ever ok to be with someone because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else better?:heart:

sure. but it's not ok to be with someone because you're afraid of being alone.


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Of course it not.

PacificStar48's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:17 AM

:heart:Is it ever ok to be with someone because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else better?:heart:


I could be way off but if part of it just feeling like you won't find anyone I just have to say that not only is there always someone for everyone that where there is a desire for love there are also many chances over time.

I feel like if you choose to be with someone, anyone, because you don't think you can get better you are not doing them or yourself any favors. Life is too short to settle by selling yourself out.

The loneliest place in the world is being in the arms of someone you know you do not love or doesn't love you.

If you are in a relationship and things are taking the preverbial lows as in highs and lows all relationships go through I would say hang tight for awhile. Maybe make a special effort to fall in love again like the circle of love all relationships are.

It is really easier to be alone than look back at your life and know you should have lived it differently.


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Mon 07/13/09 01:38 AM

:heart:Is it ever ok to be with someone because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else better?:heart:
??? to each his own......Ive never been in this position before. Afraid I cant get anyone better? What? do I have no self esteem????? huh laugh

74Drew's photo
Mon 07/13/09 01:41 AM


:heart:Is it ever ok to be with someone because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else better?:heart:
??? to each his own......Ive never been in this position before. Afraid I cant get anyone better? What? do I have no self esteem????? huh laugh

bout time you got back.

i keep hoping your self esteem will bottom out so that i'll have a chance.
a man can dream.



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Mon 07/13/09 01:46 AM



:heart:Is it ever ok to be with someone because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else better?:heart:
??? to each his own......Ive never been in this position before. Afraid I cant get anyone better? What? do I have no self esteem????? huh laugh

bout time you got back.

i keep hoping your self esteem will bottom out so that i'll have a chance.
a man can dream.



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bwhahaaaaaaaaaa I have a great tan. As for chances....just be positive. No arguing and negativism. Its like a chick magnet!!!bigsmile

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Mon 07/13/09 01:53 AM
dont forget the puppy!!!laugh

s1owhand's photo
Mon 07/13/09 02:00 AM

:heart:Is it ever ok to be with someone because you're afraid that you won't find anyone else better?:heart:



Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha! laugh

why do you think we're all here?!?

laugh