There are many average looking gay men that you wouldn't know were gay unless they told you. Then you have the flambouyantly gay men, (I have nothing against them but they drive me nuts). Most people I talk to or hang out with never knew I was gay because I didn't act gay. I do not stare at men, I do not hit on men, I treat men like most straight men treat women ( I would hope). I talk to them, get to know them and see where it goes. I wear jeans and tshirts like most guys, wouldnt catch me dead in some of the things I see gay men wearing. I don't have that crazy lisp (that drives me nuts too ). I have a beard and moustache, I worked in a factory. I did not spend all my time checking out the employees, i was there to do my job not get hooked up.

I would hope that the gay people serving in the military, more than you think, are also there to do their job and serve their country. My sister was in the army and her husband still serves. When i talked to them about this they said the same thing. They didn't care about whether a person is gay, straight or bi, as long as they did their job it didn't matter.

Not all gay people sleep around, most of us want the same things that straight people want. I would think that a gay man would want to get home to his boyfriend just as much as you want to get home to your girlfriend/wife. Try getting to know people, you may be surprised at what you might learn. Not all gay people are sex crazed lunatics like some straight men I know.

Good for you, Supermike. that is what it means to be secure in your own skin.

no what i said was i don't worry who someone sleeps with not my business.

I understand.

I'm an AF vet. I served with a few gays, bis an lesbians. I could care less what their sexual preferences were. The only thing that mattered to me was whether they could do their job or not. As a female I experienced my fair share of discrimination an wasn't allowed to do certain jobs because of it. Frankly, I think it's a crock of shite. Sexual orientation nor gender should have nothing to do with whether a person serves in the military nor whether they're allowed to do a certain job or not. If they can do the job then give them the opportunity to do the d*mn job!

sorry TJ...I think I missed this one. don't ask don't tell...does NOT keep them out...it just keeps it hush hush

You know I really don't know why gays would want to serve a country that denies them the same rights as everyone else. Always wondered about that.