LOL you guys I said I would forgive but keep walking. Lazy your right.
I use the scripture on divorce when making decisions on infidelity. I
use the word of God for everything :)

Hey spider..what does OPP mean? Sorry I couldn't catch it haa

It's an old rap song from the halcyon days of my youth. It means "Other
Peoples...<blank>", the last word changes with the gender and I suppose
sexual orientation of the person you are talking about.

yep i mean it if you do your best.. and they still cheat.. it still
hurts. but you can live with a clear mind.. A dirty mind can cause alot
of troubles in ones life..

man Spider I feel so SLOW...yeh that's by naughty by nature duh!

STUPID SMACK FOR ME ~wham!

people cheat for somthing they feel they arent getting from the one they
are with.

there are no excuses why they do it.. it is an addiction..

Actually, in their head there is a perfectly legit excuse.

i HATE cheaters...i hope we all do

in there head, that is the clue..

Thier is no excuse for cheating and if two people are fully commited in
making thier relationship work, Seek counseling, church, friends to talk
to who casn offer advise,, Cheating is not the answer

I don't cope with cheating...I just say SEEEEEEEE YAAAAAAAAAA!!!!


Cheaters aren't worth wasting my time on!!!!!!!!!!!

People 'cheat' for many reasons, and I don't begin to pretend I know
them all...

However, I have noticed a few common denominators..

Low self esteem...desire for 'instant gratification', avoidance of
realities in the primary relationship...a belief life and love is a
fairytale, never-ending sappy Hollywood movie..and when it isn't go
hunting for it elsewhere.

Personal experience, yes. How did I manage it?

It was his choice, it was about him, not me, he had work to do on him,
and his ideals...I don't 'own' anyone, I didn't rant and rave, i didn't
threaten, nor did I run for the door.

I learnt from the experience, that this person whom I loved, was human,
and had collapsed into an easier way of behaving, rather than learn
about personal integrity.

I learnt that we are all human..we all do things that may be hurtful,
firstly to one's self, and also to others.

I learnt that actions have consequences and impact on others.

The relationship did end, many years later, for completely different
reasons.

there is no excuse for cheating, if you are not getting something for
your significant other maybe you should communicate that to them.
i think it is an excuse for them because they will cheat
even if they get everything they need at home. i think it is more of a
self esteem issue.

Joyce...I agree with you....I think for some and I asked this very
question after it happened to me...why?....couldn't believe the answer I
received....."the thrill of the chase"

Call it what you will...

Low self esteem....ego feeding...lack of respect

No excuses excepted.

As to coping with it...does anyone ever cope with it well.

ehem.... as long as they include me in the dance i have no problem with
a non monogamous relationship.... and dammed if i am ever gonna answer
to some man where and what i have been doing!!!


but then i like being single so i guess i don't count

Because they are lacking in something...

Lack of moral values
Lack of respect for their partner
Lack of love for their partner
Lack of trust/perhaps they were cheated on too
Lack of sex
(wouldnt drive me to cheat...but I would never do that to someone I
loved)

Because they are Stupid That's right I said it,nobody else will.They
always think their is something better.Bottom Line Stupidity,if you
don't want to be with someone just fu***g leave. I'd rather you leave
then cheat

People can give them all the excuses they want to. For when it comes
right down to it all the blame should fall onto the one that cheated.
For it was there choice to follow through with the action in hand. If
and when it comes to the point that someone is going to cheat they have
the option to back up and stop what is fixing to happen. And to either
fix the problem with there partner or call it quits. I have heard so
many times it is because they are not getting the attention they need at
home or it must be there partner is no longer sexually. Sorry I have
known were that is not the case in hand at all. And they still chose to
cheat and tell others they will never leave there spouse cause they love
them. Hellooooooooo Respect is a part of love and if you no longer have
that for your partner it is time to move on. There is no excuse for
cheating when there is always an option in hand either try to fix what
they themselves are missing or simply walk away.