This guy I met had been seeing this girl for 2years before he met me. We lived in different states and our time zone was 1hour different.
To the point , We met through my step dad and we started to email back and forth for a couple of months. I came down to his town and stayed with him for a week. I then went back and we continued to talk for several months . We where intimate during the time I was there and he wanted me to move in with hime and so on. Well one day I get a phone call and it was his girlfriend whom I thought they had been split up for several months before me. She states to me that they had a fallen out for about a week and they had been together the whole time.
This guy made this women out to be crazy telling me that it wasnt a good time for me to move in because this women could hurt me and my children. His 19yr old daughter was confirmming everything that he was , so I believed him.
Well the womem called me stating that this guys daughter gave her my number. I talked to her and she was very kind to me and also very confused about me.
She had no idea what her so called boyfriend was doing behind her back with me, nor did I have no idea what he was doing behind mine.

My confussion here is this , how does a person get over being decieved like this and to move on wondering if every man out there is like this? I have never been involed with someone so clever and sharp to carry on as much as he did. How did he do it without getting caught? How could he keep his stories straight from one girl to another?

I feel bad for being the other women in the picture and hurting that girl so much. I didnt know or I would of never of been with such a person.
Needless to say the other women and I have no hard feelings for one another and she isnt crazy at all. The guy is out of the picture on my behalf , but I have been told she is still with him. How do I convince her that she needs to get away?

No, not every man out there is like that. Don't generalize off one bad experience or you will not survive dating, period. He played both of you, how? I have no idea, I can't even get one girlfriend. You don't convince her, that will create a rift...she either decides to dump him or continue to stay with him, outside of pissing a few people off there is nothing you can do.

What a snake!!!!

i gave him lessons....




that's how i roll

PUT HIM BEHIND YOU AND MOVE ON

There are plenty of gret guys out there that will not do that to you. You can not control the actions of others. She no knows obviously that he wasn't faithful to her and what she choses to do about really doesn't concern you.

There is an old saying, take care of yourself and cover your own a$$

Hopefully you will never get over being deceived in such away, it sucks that it happened but you learned a lesson, unfortunately a hard lesson. Just be a little more weary not all that glitters is gold.

Well, he really does not seem all that clever to me, not really... you lived in another time zone and he took advantage of that distance between you so he could spin his tale.

Clever would have meant that you would have never found out about his "Other Gal" nor would you have met his daughter.

He DID get caught and keeping Women straight is not that difficult a chore for man whom is obviously as simple minded as he was. Likely he called you both Baby or Sweetie or some other common pet name. He also likely did not really pay all that much attention to what you had to offer and told you both the same lies. He was a waist of space either way.

If she wants to stay with this fellow, far be it for you to step in now, this is really a choice this Lady has to make on her own. After all, you said it, you are the outsider...

They don't. They just make male-bashing generalization threads.

*DISCLAIMER* This is NOT directed at the OP, just an all-too-common observation, so don't be getting your panties in a twist.

I thought this was gonna be like one of those Penthouse letters

"How do I convince her that she needs to get away?"

Why would you ever look back in that direction again?

Drop this situation like a bad habit.
You got played, and that's sad, but you have to move on.
You owe nothing to anyone.
I've got five dollars that says you aren't the first he has done this too and you won't be the last either and his girlfriend will put up with it or not. Either way, not your concern.

Sound advice......Can't say it much better than this.

So you had a problem with one guy & now every guy is like this!!

Exactly. It always floors me when someone wants to stay with someone like this. He is no good, even getting his daughter to lie to you for him. There are good guys out there, but he isn't one of them. Move on.

you don't need the drama. Be happy you are out of it. Lying is one things I have a HUGE problem with....but I have to keep telling myself that at least now I know and I don't want someone like that in my life

This deserves an *** whippin!!!

exactly....the other woman knows what is going on and she is a grown woman and needs to get it through her own head. you will be beating a dead horse, so to speak

If you really think about it... you were happy the whole time you were with him until you learned he had two girlfriends.

Essentually you've been dating a man with two girlfriends the whole time and you were happy.


Congratulations for ruining it.

I'd say just leave it alone. Whatever you say to her will just get 'explained' to her by him. You wasted your time with him and hopefully that was your only loss. No reason to waste more of it because of him.

Sometimes we need to **** it up over being decieved and move on, giving the next person a fair chance and trying not to become jaded in the process.

Feel the pain, remember what happened, move on step by step



you were acting honestly, he was not. The problem was him, not you... (well, as long as you ended it as soon as you found out)



you left, your done - the rest is her problem... move on... you are worth more... don't worry about the rest...

I just can't believe that **** is an unacceptable word omg this did'nt seem like a carebear forum when I walked in lol