"Love is not a feeling. Love is an action, an activity. . .Genuine love implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom. . . . love as the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.....true love is an act of will that often transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis, it is correct to say, 'Love is as love does'.”

I agree with that quote 100%. Implied therein is that love is a choice. Attraction or being in love... those are feelings that are beyond a person's control and have to do with biology, pheromones, etc.