Topic: Do you agree that a mothers love is unconditional?
Jimmy59's photo
Tue 07/28/09 11:46 PM

My love for my sons is.. I learned unconditional love and forgiveness from them, not my own mother. My mom hates me sad2
Sorry that your mother feel that way. It is sad.

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 07/29/09 12:40 AM

What about unconditional love between a mother and an adopted child? Do you think it is possible or never really exists?


I have had day care kids, foster kids, children by birth and adopted children and I can tell you that bonding feeling is basiclly the same. With and adopted child you see them it just hits you like when you are pregnant and you have that "quickening" feeling. Any child you have you have to bond with. If mother and child are both strong and healthy it is a lot easier to bond than if one or both are not.

Once a child goes through severe enough abandonment they turn within and pretty much are never able to bond. Those kids can get all the love in the world and it is not going to change their ability to bond. Not with a parent and often not with their children. Very sad.

Ladylid2012's photo
Wed 07/29/09 12:45 AM


:heart: Do you agree that a mothers love is unconditional?:heart:

there's no such thing as unconditional. everyone has their limits. IMO


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real love is unconditional... if it is not then it isn't love. Love does not have conditions, we do. Love would never ask what we ask of each other sometimes.

All you need is love - John Lennon :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:


Want2B5ft's photo
Wed 07/29/09 12:49 AM
Edited by Want2B5ft on Wed 07/29/09 12:53 AM


What about unconditional love between a mother and an adopted child? Do you think it is possible or never really exists?


I have had day care kids, foster kids, children by birth and adopted children and I can tell you that bonding feeling is basiclly the same. With and adopted child you see them it just hits you like when you are pregnant and you have that "quickening" feeling. Any child you have you have to bond with. If mother and child are both strong and healthy it is a lot easier to bond than if one or both are not.

Once a child goes through severe enough abandonment they turn within and pretty much are never able to bond. Those kids can get all the love in the world and it is not going to change their ability to bond. Not with a parent and often not with their children. Very sad.


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hereformore's photo
Wed 07/29/09 06:59 AM

My love for my sons is.. I learned unconditional love and forgiveness from them, not my own mother. My mom hates me sad2

I'm so sorry for you, I am familiar with that as well.

Differentkindofwench's photo
Wed 07/29/09 07:03 AM
An individual IS an individual. Not all mother's are what I would call "maternal", so no, not all mothers love unconditionally.

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 09/22/09 11:22 PM
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msharmony's photo
Tue 09/22/09 11:29 PM
usually, but unconditional love doesnt mean unconditional support. I love mine unconditionally but I wont support any decisions they make to do wrong. I will still love them though, right or wrong.

DonnieDarko's photo
Tue 09/22/09 11:29 PM

No.

It should be.... but I've seen plenty of cases where it's not.

i agree with this post

tohyup's photo
Wed 09/23/09 02:45 AM

:heart: Do you agree that a mothers love is unconditional?:heart:

Yes and the same for the father's love .

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 09/23/09 12:45 PM

usually, but unconditional love doesnt mean unconditional support. I love mine unconditionally but I wont support any decisions they make to do wrong. I will still love them though, right or wrong.


This is a very good point. Often people think that when someone does not support whatever they want to do they don't love or have their back. Sometimes the hardest thing to do, but responsible and loving thing is to say no, your wrong, or I won't be a part of this. Parenting often is about doing the hard stuff.

luckycharm89's photo
Fri 09/25/09 10:40 AM

:heart: Do you agree that a mothers love is unconditional?:heart:


I believe that it should be in all cases, but as it's already been said, it's sad to say that that's not always the case...

Personally I don't see how a mother couldn't have unconditional love for their child, but then again I'm not a pos ;]

catseyes1's photo
Mon 10/05/09 08:15 PM
:heart: :heart: A mother's love is always unconditional :heart: :heart:

Ladylid2012's photo
Mon 10/05/09 08:31 PM

:heart: :heart: A mother's love is always unconditional :heart: :heart:


no so..my mother has many conditions based on her beliefs..she holds back her love when I disappoint her, she always has.

mo_muirnin's photo
Mon 10/05/09 09:40 PM

My love for my sons is.. I learned unconditional love and forgiveness from them, not my own mother. My mom hates me sad2


LadyLid...Maybe it's not really hate, maybe it's something she never did with you that makes her feel guilty. My mom acts like she hates me too...I guess parents are just funny like that???

Winx's photo
Mon 10/05/09 09:43 PM

What about unconditional love between a mother and an adopted child? Do you think it is possible or never really exists?


Yes, a mother can love an adopted child unconditionally.

Ladylid2012's photo
Mon 10/05/09 09:45 PM


My love for my sons is.. I learned unconditional love and forgiveness from them, not my own mother. My mom hates me sad2


LadyLid...Maybe it's not really hate, maybe it's something she never did with you that makes her feel guilty. My mom acts like she hates me too...I guess parents are just funny like that???


I know she doesn't HATE me..the word hate means to reject..and she does reject me when I don't do as she would like me to do..that is conditional love. Thank God I had my sons to teach me...
I guess now were those funny acting parents...slaphead

mo_muirnin's photo
Mon 10/05/09 09:46 PM


:heart: :heart: A mother's love is always unconditional :heart: :heart:


no so..my mother has many conditions based on her beliefs..she holds back her love when I disappoint her, she always has.


Sounds alot like my mom...I guess the only thing we can do is just remind them that we love them, no matter what? flowerforyou

Winx's photo
Mon 10/05/09 09:46 PM

:heart: Do you agree that a mothers love is unconditional?:heart:


I receive that love from my mother and my child receives it from me.

Ladylid2012's photo
Mon 10/05/09 09:48 PM



:heart: :heart: A mother's love is always unconditional :heart: :heart:


no so..my mother has many conditions based on her beliefs..she holds back her love when I disappoint her, she always has.


Sounds alot like my mom...I guess the only thing we can do is just remind them that we love them, no matter what? flowerforyou


yep..and be grateful because we know what
it's like to be a mom..and forgive.... flowerforyou