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With all of my friends, family & pets...I'm am rarely ever "alone"...but I do get lonely for my
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 Has anyone else gone through this? Yes. I've basically been going through the exact same thing since last August. How do you make it go away? I haven't got the vaguest hint of a trace of an inkling of a clue. I suspect it's permanent. dis appear go somewhere new away from everyone you have sent most of your time with i think if ya got money they call it a sabbatical if ya can do it for a month or too you will reboot you brian and things will not look so gloomy at least it worked for me   Tried that -- I've basically been in seclusion since the car accident in Feb. -- and while it's true I've managed to avoid having to deal with most of the people I knew from "before," nothing has really improved at all. did not say to isolate yourself just be around different people where you can be yourself without caring what anyone thinks isolation usually makes it worse for me sorry to here about your accident hope yer doing ok |
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It might be depression, you might want to look into counseling if it keeps up. Usually getting out with friends or family will stop the loneliness. Sometimes we have to learn how to live with ourselves, rather than hoping someone else will make it better for us. Hope you feel better soon. It is normal for all of us to get lonely once and awhile. Guess its a matter of how we handle that loneliness that is important. I have been single a really long time, and had to learn to enjoy myself for me. When I waited for someone to come into my life to correct that loneliness- I was miserable. I have since learned to enjoy myself, even when I feel lonely. When and if someone else comes into my life, will just be an extra bonus when the time comes. (((Hug)))  so true 
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Has anyone else gone through this? Yes. I've basically been going through the exact same thing since last August. How do you make it go away? I haven't got the vaguest hint of a trace of an inkling of a clue. I suspect it's permanent. dis appear go somewhere new away from everyone you have sent most of your time with i think if ya got money they call it a sabbatical if ya can do it for a month or too you will reboot you brian and things will not look so gloomy at least it worked for me Tried that -- I've basically been in seclusion since the car accident in Feb. -- and while it's true I've managed to avoid having to deal with most of the people I knew from "before," nothing has really improved at all. did not say to isolate yourself just be around different people where you can be yourself without caring what anyone thinks isolation usually makes it worse for me sorry to here about your accident hope yer doing ok Well, I ended up having to move to a place where I don't know anybody. And I've never cared much about what anybody thinks....! |
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Well, next time you ladies get lonely....give me a call and we can arrange a game of naked ping pong to get your mind off of things.
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Oh, by the way, the song I’ve been wearing out is “I’m With You”. It's not one of my favorites and I actually didn't care for it the first time I heard it. I guess you never know what your subconscious will choose.  I’m With You - Avril Lavigne I’m standing on the bridge I’m waiting in the dark I thought that you’d be here by now There’s nothing but the rain No footsteps on the ground I’m listening, but there’s no sound CHORUS: Isn’t anyone trying to find me? Won’t somebody come take me home It’s a damn cold night Trying figure out this life Wont you, take me by the hand, take me somewhere new I don’t know who you are but I, I’m with you I’m with you I’m looking for a place I’m searching for a face Is anybody here I know ‘Cause nothing’s going right and Everything’s a mess And no one likes to be alone (Repeat CHORUS) Oh, why is everything so confusing Maybe I’m just out of my mind Yeah, yeah, yeah Yeah, yeah Yeah, yeah Yeah, yeah Yeah It’s a damn cold night Trying to figure out this life Won’t you, take me by the hand, take me somewhere new I don’t know who you are but I, I’m with you I’m with you Take me by the hand, take me somewhere new I don’t know who you are but I, I’m with you I’m with you Take me by the hand, take me somewhere new I don’t know who you are but I, I’m with you I’m with you I’m with you.  that song
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it's very deep and hits very hard....that song......
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We can have all the friends in the world and still, eventually, we need someone in our lives to fill a place in our hearts that no platonic friend can fill.
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Here is where it gets confusing for me. I have read all the previous posts under this topic and I have to say that I truly like me. Now here comes the but, After 3 days of cleaning the house, working on glass and quilting, reading 3 books and there is nothing left to do by myself, I get lonley for conversation with a human being. My daughter is gone for the week (custody thing during the summer, week at home, week with dad...) and I dont even have her to talk to. I have one best friend that I can call day or night, but she has a son and a life. I am out of work and the only other people I get to plaver with is the guy or gal handing me the job applications. And then all I get is a thanks. I go out with pals everyother weekend for a drink and a game of pool. But at the end of the day I am still alone. I cant even find enough people to come over and play a game of volleyball let alone naked ping pong. And it seems to me that married people are even harder to "hang" with. With the 30 softball games one child has and the dancing lessons and family get togethers. They are all busy. And my family lives 500 miles away. Go to school I think, learn stuff and meet people. Guess what? The majority of them are in their 20's and dont want to have anything to do with an old fart like me. So here I am for 2 years on line and I am still alone. So if there is a magic potion or a secret password for finding the right person to be with I havent discovered it yet. But I have to say that I am not going to give up. (yes, I am stubborn, I got that from my dad.) OP, there are days that get to me, and other days that dont. Keep on doing what makes you happy. And when you find yourself in this mood realise it for what it is, just a thinking time for you. And keep on being just you.
Thank you for reading my rant,lol, I will now return you to your regular scheduled program. |
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Here is where it gets confusing for me. I have read all the previous posts under this topic and I have to say that I truly like me. Now here comes the but, After 3 days of cleaning the house, working on glass and quilting, reading 3 books and there is nothing left to do by myself, I get lonley for conversation with a human being. My daughter is gone for the week (custody thing during the summer, week at home, week with dad...) and I dont even have her to talk to. I have one best friend that I can call day or night, but she has a son and a life. I am out of work and the only other people I get to plaver with is the guy or gal handing me the job applications. And then all I get is a thanks. I go out with pals everyother weekend for a drink and a game of pool. But at the end of the day I am still alone. I cant even find enough people to come over and play a game of volleyball let alone naked ping pong. And it seems to me that married people are even harder to "hang" with. With the 30 softball games one child has and the dancing lessons and family get togethers. They are all busy. And my family lives 500 miles away. Go to school I think, learn stuff and meet people. Guess what? The majority of them are in their 20's and dont want to have anything to do with an old fart like me. So here I am for 2 years on line and I am still alone. So if there is a magic potion or a secret password for finding the right person to be with I havent discovered it yet. But I have to say that I am not going to give up. (yes, I am stubborn, I got that from my dad.) OP, there are days that get to me, and other days that dont. Keep on doing what makes you happy. And when you find yourself in this mood realise it for what it is, just a thinking time for you. And keep on being just you. Thank you for reading my rant,lol, I will now return you to your regular scheduled program. Find a place or places to volunteer. Or, take a class. You can meet people that way. |
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I hate to be a dunce, but I did take a class. And you know what happens after that class is over? Folks go back to their husbands or wives, kids and other friends and you never hear from them again. I volunteer at a vet clinic. When the doors close for the night folks go home. I dont know if this is just Ohio or is this every where, but I was just trying to let the OP know it will pass this aloneness feeling.
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Has anyone else gone through this? Yes. I've basically been going through the exact same thing since last August. How do you make it go away? I haven't got the vaguest hint of a trace of an inkling of a clue. I suspect it's permanent. dis appear go somewhere new away from everyone you have sent most of your time with i think if ya got money they call it a sabbatical if ya can do it for a month or too you will reboot you brian and things will not look so gloomy at least it worked for me Tried that -- I've basically been in seclusion since the car accident in Feb. -- and while it's true I've managed to avoid having to deal with most of the people I knew from "before," nothing has really improved at all. did not say to isolate yourself just be around different people where you can be yourself without caring what anyone thinks isolation usually makes it worse for me sorry to here about your accident hope yer doing ok Well, I ended up having to move to a place where I don't know anybody. And I've never cared much about what anybody thinks....! i hear ya i always said that too hope something snaps ya out of it
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if no one is around that wants to listen (or even if they don't want to listen) I talk to myself...I'm good company even when I argue with myself...but at least I always win
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Here is where it gets confusing for me. I have read all the previous posts under this topic and I have to say that I truly like me. Now here comes the but, After 3 days of cleaning the house, working on glass and quilting, reading 3 books and there is nothing left to do by myself, I get lonley for conversation with a human being. My daughter is gone for the week (custody thing during the summer, week at home, week with dad...) and I dont even have her to talk to. I have one best friend that I can call day or night, but she has a son and a life. I am out of work and the only other people I get to plaver with is the guy or gal handing me the job applications. And then all I get is a thanks. I go out with pals everyother weekend for a drink and a game of pool. But at the end of the day I am still alone. I cant even find enough people to come over and play a game of volleyball let alone naked ping pong. And it seems to me that married people are even harder to "hang" with. With the 30 softball games one child has and the dancing lessons and family get togethers. They are all busy. And my family lives 500 miles away. Go to school I think, learn stuff and meet people. Guess what? The majority of them are in their 20's and dont want to have anything to do with an old fart like me. So here I am for 2 years on line and I am still alone. So if there is a magic potion or a secret password for finding the right person to be with I havent discovered it yet. But I have to say that I am not going to give up. (yes, I am stubborn, I got that from my dad.) OP, there are days that get to me, and other days that dont. Keep on doing what makes you happy. And when you find yourself in this mood realise it for what it is, just a thinking time for you. And keep on being just you. Thank you for reading my rant,lol, I will now return you to your regular scheduled program. Darlin...you had me at "Now here comes the but" |
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if no one is around that wants to listen (or even if they don't want to listen) I talk to myself...I'm good company even when I argue with myself...but at least I always win Sounds like me and my dogs. |
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if no one is around that wants to listen (or even if they don't want to listen) I talk to myself...I'm good company even when I argue with myself...but at least I always win Sounds like me and my dogs. all the animals run away....they don't want to hear me either...or they look at me like I'm weird lol |
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Lately, I’ve been in a strange mood and have even whined about it to a few people. I know part of it has to do with confusion over some new emotions I don’t know how to deal with, but there’s also been this underlying thing that I just couldn’t seem to put my finger on. I think I’ve finally figured it out. Music is sort of a therapy for me and I am known to listen to a song over and over for hours on end until I feel the message has sunk in. I listen to songs as reinforcement for how I feel about things (Eaten By the Monster of Love by The Sparks as a reminder of what to avoid), for a positive outlook (All Fired Up by Pat Benetar as a reminder things happen for a reason and for the best), etc. as well as the usual reasons (need good cleaning music, need to just cry it out, want to dance my tushy off, etc.). Sometimes, though, I’ll find myself listening to something repeatedly without consciously choosing it. Anyway, for the past week I’ve been so preoccupied with trying to figure out the other “thing” that I hadn’t paid much attention to what I’ve been listening to. That changed when my sister said, “For crying out loud, just go find someone!” I had no idea what she was talking about until she pointed out that she was ready to slit my wrists for me if I didn’t “stop playing that damned song”. Here’s the kicker… I am surrounded by people at work, I go hang out with different friends almost daily, and I talk to a few people fairly regularly on here. But I guess I’m still lonely. Go figure! I always say I feel alone around most people because most people I know view things so different from me, but I’ve never really felt ‘lonely’ before. Has anyone else gone through this? How do you make it go away? I’m out for the evening, but considering how people have responded to the other two times I whined about something on here, I’m guessing that by the time I come back on again this one will have some responses as well. Most likely, most will be sarcastic and funny, but I’m hoping for some helpful advice.  Been there, done that...cured it. Make sure you really want the feeling to go away before you try and get it to go away...once the feeling of being alone while still surrounded by people fades...it is extremely difficult if not impossible to ever achieve feeling alone again, nullifying most if not all people around you. |
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Here is where it gets confusing for me. I have read all the previous posts under this topic and I have to say that I truly like me. Now here comes the but, After 3 days of cleaning the house, working on glass and quilting, reading 3 books and there is nothing left to do by myself, I get lonley for conversation with a human being. My daughter is gone for the week (custody thing during the summer, week at home, week with dad...) and I dont even have her to talk to. I have one best friend that I can call day or night, but she has a son and a life. I am out of work and the only other people I get to plaver with is the guy or gal handing me the job applications. And then all I get is a thanks. I go out with pals everyother weekend for a drink and a game of pool. But at the end of the day I am still alone. I cant even find enough people to come over and play a game of volleyball let alone naked ping pong. And it seems to me that married people are even harder to "hang" with. With the 30 softball games one child has and the dancing lessons and family get togethers. They are all busy. And my family lives 500 miles away. Go to school I think, learn stuff and meet people. Guess what? The majority of them are in their 20's and dont want to have anything to do with an old fart like me. So here I am for 2 years on line and I am still alone. So if there is a magic potion or a secret password for finding the right person to be with I havent discovered it yet. But I have to say that I am not going to give up. (yes, I am stubborn, I got that from my dad.) OP, there are days that get to me, and other days that dont. Keep on doing what makes you happy. And when you find yourself in this mood realise it for what it is, just a thinking time for you. And keep on being just you. Thank you for reading my rant,lol, I will now return you to your regular scheduled program. Darlin...you had me at "Now here comes the but" Sorry I lost you after the but..... 
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if no one is around that wants to listen (or even if they don't want to listen) I talk to myself...I'm good company even when I argue with myself...but at least I always win dang how you do that one of you must give up or sumtin i usually end up in a draw and my artistry (not the amway make-up) leaves a lot to be desired   |
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