That's not true gypsy. I've seen people turn around from crack. It's hard but it can be done. It really depends on the person and their will to get it done or not.

my ex hubby way before we got married he was into shooting up
and i gave him the choice and he gave up the drugs, far as i knew, i think in some ways he was still doing it. not sure. i dont care anymore as his wife can deal with him now


i have a cousin that when she was 16, she took every drug you can think of and she almost died 2 differnt times her mind went back to a 5yr old.. she recently died(xmas day) there not sure from what for she had been clean for many yrs. she was in her mid 40s

if the person doesnt want the help, then there is no need to stand behind them

my uncle was alcoholic and drug addict for yrs. and he has been now clean and sober for 20yrs.... now for his ex wife well she still a alcohic she wont change

Unfortunately...this is right. A crack addict will steal you blind and their friends will help. A crack addict is hardcore and will use you up dear.

Soon enough...you will be as bad as she is (not on the drug) but to the situation. You will want to help her and take her back when she comes onto hard times.....and she may beg and cry...but hon....it is something that goes on and on...til something bad happens.

You have to stay away from her. She will bring you down like you have never known.

Kat

People on hard core drugs like crack and meth lose site of what we might call a normal life. Life to a drug addict is run by the drug of their choice, and where and how they will get the next fix. They will do anything to get money for it. AND I DO MEAN ANYTHING

I have known women like this. She will never be worth a ****. At least not for many many years, if ever.

I've known people on both (me, meth) and the ones that do crack are the worst when it comes to cleaning up.

Kat

People that are hooked on that stuff are worthless.

yeppers i agree

run dont walk .............go to alanon meeting You are a valuable person, don't allow them to make you their enabler. Go on with your life. '
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Letting go is the hardest thing to do.

People in recovery are told that they themselves should not seek any kind of relationship, for at least a year out of rehab, or into recovery. Even the person working the most amazing 12 step progarm is only one step away from a drink or a drug.

There are so many other problems that come along with someone who is an addict, or alcaholic.

The people who told you this person will rob you blind are 100% dead on, cos they WILL.

There is so much selfishness, and healthy attitudes toward life, family, work, people in general, BESIDE the fact they cant deal with ANY kind of stress, or deep emotion, even regular things, without wanting to use.

Rehab alone doesnt help either. this person needs to continue theyre recovery for the rest of theyre life.

Ive worked with many addicts, and alcaholics to help them in theyre recovery.

This person needs far more help than you can give them, and belongs in no relationship til theyre LONNGG into self work, and help.

3 years into a persons recovery is safer, but still not a guarantee.

Do like people tell you. RUN!!

Well said.

Leave, run, split, go, vamos, high-tail it, be gone, in the wind, like smoke............

If any of her friends still have furniture or appliances left you may can pick up on a good bargain Other than that, leave, quickly, any direction, just do it.

I can't believe that you guys fell for that!

Are you kidding? The OP had 1!...let's count that again....ONE post...throws out a Jerry Springer scenario...No need to point out the stupidity of it.

hahahahahahahaa

the OP`s on crack, isnt he?

Sadly, you must let her hit rock bottom on her own. If you assist her by even supplying a place to live and food you are preventing her from hitting rock bottom. They must go to rehab because they are tired of living that life style and until they hit that point you have to let them go.

It is one of the hardest things to do because you feel as if you are abandoning a person in time of need but if you do not let them go, they will take longer to hit the end of that road. So you are doing them a favor in leaving them to the consequences of their choices.

Apparently other people are as well..

I totally disagree. That is one of the most ignorant statements I've heard in quite a while. If quitting was that simple, we wouldn't have rehab programs, AA, NA, etc. Even with the use of such support groups, breaking drug habits formed over years of practice is not an easy thing to do. It takes way more than the desire to quit. It goes from the desire, to dedicated use of these aforementioned programs, to establishing support networks, to complete lifestyle changes.

And as for the OP's problem, she does have to want to quit, but also has to be willing to get help from anywhere that offers it. If she doesn't really want to quit all that badly, then there's nothing you or anybody can do to help her. It's hard to let someone go that you care about, but you just might have to do that in order to keep yourself from being brought down. If so, then she might come to the decision of what's more important in her life. If she can do so and can honestly and convincingly express to you that you and her sobriety are more important, then you will inevitably be a critical part of her support network. But you have to be careful that you are supporting and not enabling her.

If she starts taking advantage of your support and doesn't work on her own as well, then you need to let her go. I've had my problems in the past and depend a lot on my sources of support. I'm glad they didn't give up on me like everybody else here seems to think you should give up on your friend. I do my best to use, but not take advantage of, them. If I do, then they no longer wish to help me and I'm back to my old habits or in prison. 99% of the time, it's a problem that cannot be fixed without something drastic happening to to addict, but there is that chance if you're willing to take it. But anyway, I wish you luck in resolving this problem however it gets done, and hope the best for your friend. And seriously, addicts are hard people to deal with, no matter what the drug. They lie, cheat, steal, and much worse to get to their drug. Don not let yourself be brought down just by trying to help somebody who isn't willing to help themselves.

hey man i grew up in a crack house the best thing you can do is leave now and dont deaal with it 99.999999 % chance it will never stop.

not only that but i was bad on meth for a little bit. quiting was one of the hardest things ive ever done. i still have dreams about it and crave it but i have to stop and think at what it will do. see most cant do that thats why most cant quit it.