I try to live my whole life that way and I am far from perfect and there have been times when i didn't like what I saw looking back at me. But the last couple of years I like what looks back at me even threw all the tears and sorrow. I try to remember to hold my head up high and know that I am being true to me, and I will not compromise my believes any longer just for the sake of a companion. I no longer have the energy, desire, or patience for the instant gratification. But when I find someone, they will know the real me from the very start so hopefully that will cut down on some of the players and professional daters. Like always good luck all.

Thanks, I'm still learning how to post on here.
All that should be expected of anyone is for them to be themselves. No head games, just honest upfront, yourself!

Intelligent lady, telling it like it is.

Yep, me too, got tired of men just "trolling" for instant gratification,

After a while, you learn to be able to weed most of them out pretty quickly.
Last mail I got was from a young man who said he wanted a nsa relationship. I told him that at first I was thrilled because I thought he said nasa, and that he wanted to take me to the moon! For some reason I didn't get a reply.

Trolling men get no where unless you bite the hook.
We all seek different levels of a relationship.
We just need to be very open, say what we want & if we settle for less, be it short time or long time? We made that choice.

Go for what you want & accept the responsibility for what you chose.

True, that's why I'm still alone, won't settle for less, couldn't bear the consequences long-term.

Btw. Why did you break the mail, wanted to send you a naughty one.

well I am here now, send it.

Well Don again I see why the name. I haven't been on here much so I thought I would put my two cents in. Is there any men out there that want a real relationship? They say they do but the actions and the words on paper are so far apart. Is there any hope of finding the one? When your in your EARLY 50's (ouch) is the social life over, are the dinner dates over, is romance over? I sure hope not. It's all about the quick everything isn't it? How can you go for what you want when it isn't out there anymore.

I think I know what I want and yes I would love to be in a relationship, I want to feel like a kid again taking it slow and all.....but to be total honest I dont think I can ever walk down an Isle again

Still weeding been a year getting tired :) but I've made some good friends. Seems like allot of us don't want to get into the emotional side of it after the past. Guarding our hearts.

In life there are lots of battles don't give up on the war. :)

What'd I do....scare everyoneoff???

Vivian, what you say works for some, not for others.
We all have to find what works for our soul & then live with it.
We all walk in different shoes, we just have to break them in to where they are comfortable.

Nope you'll get lots of answers everyone is out and about :)

That's true Don....I can only speak for myself....sure wouldn't want to try and influnce anyone else!

Yes I agree there are many of us that are guarding our hearts. I know I am. Hoping to find someone that will touch me in a way to take the guard down. But I have hit a dry spell big time on here, with the exception of one that I chat with. And he seems like a great person so hoping at some point to meet.