I personally prefer thickness to length

What is the main thing women are attracted to in a man,I know every woman is different but there has to be a common factor that women look for

This is what I've seen:

They say "I want an intelligent guy" or "I'm looking for a guy with a sense of humor" or "a guy who doesn't expect me to take care of him" or "someone who's a good communicator" or "a guy who isn't just out to play games" or somebody who will accept me for who I am...."

But if you put any or all of those in front of them, then suddenly they don't want that anymore.

I think a lot of it is sheer pretense -- they say what they think they're supposed to say, in order to avoid the appearance of being shallow or superficial. Of course, it defeats their whole purpose anyway, since now no one (maybe not even themselves) has any idea what they're looking for at all.

In my experience, the only thing they're really looking for is a guy who can be "domesticated" -- that means: turned into a farm animal, complacent, complinat, entirely trainable, and totally
incapable of independent function.

Since that doesn't seem to work on me, my relationships tend to be rather short -- which is OK. I tend to vanish at the first appearance of the domesticatrix.

I still hold out some hope that there may be somebody out there who might actually be interested in someone intelligent and creative enough to have authored and published two books, with a third coming out soon.

But I'm not holding my breath.

What is to big and what is to small

You paint with a broad brush my friend.

Now I have a personal question for you ladies,What is to big and what is to small when it comes to the size of a man? Sex wise

This is what I've seen:

They say "I want an intelligent guy" or "I'm looking for a guy with a sense of humor" or "a guy who doesn't expect me to take care of him" or "someone who's a good communicator" or "a guy who isn't just out to play games" or somebody who will accept me for who I am...."

But if you put any or all of those in front of them, then suddenly they don't want that anymore.

I think a lot of it is sheer pretense -- they say what they think they're supposed to say, in order to avoid the appearance of being shallow or superficial. Of course, it defeats their whole purpose anyway, since now no one (maybe not even themselves) has any idea what they're looking for at all.

In my experience, the only thing they're really looking for is a guy who can be "domesticated" -- that means: turned into a farm animal, complacent, compliant, entirely trainable, and totally
incapable of independent function.

Since that doesn't seem to work on me, my relationships tend to be rather short -- which is OK. I tend to vanish at the first appearance of the domesticatrix.

I still hold out some hope that there may be somebody out there who might actually be interested in someone intelligent and creative enough to have authored and published two books, with a third coming out soon.

But I'm not holding my breath.

What is the main thing women are attracted to in a man,I know every woman is different but there has to be a common factor that women look for

This is what I've seen:

They say "I want an intelligent guy" or "I'm looking for a guy with a sense of humor" or "a guy who doesn't expect me to take care of him" or "someone who's a good communicator" or "a guy who isn't just out to play games" or somebody who will accept me for who I am...."

But if you put any or all of those in front of them, then suddenly they don't want that anymore.

I think a lot of it is sheer pretense -- they say what they think they're supposed to say, in order to avoid the appearance of being shallow or superficial. Of course, it defeats their whole purpose anyway, since now no one (maybe not even themselves) has any idea what they're looking for at all.

In my experience, the only thing they're really looking for is a guy who can be "domesticated" -- that means: turned into a farm animal, complacent, compliant, entirely trainable, and totally
incapable of independent function.

Since that doesn't seem to work on me, my relationships tend to be rather short -- which is OK. I tend to vanish at the first appearance of the domesticatrix.

I still hold out some hope that there may be somebody out there who might actually be interested in someone intelligent and creative enough to have authored and published two books, with a third coming out soon.

But I'm not holding my breath.

You're right Lex, that type of woman exists, but surely there are others. I know many of us are independent and would not even think about domesticating and making complacent a man. Where would the fun be in that? I personally like men to be themselves, quirks, faults and all. I would be bored with someone that catered to my every whim. To me, that's a turn-off. If there's a need to change someone, that isn't the right person.

What is the main thing women are attracted to in a man,I know every woman is different but there has to be a common factor that women look for

It's been my experience that what most women are looking for is a nice domestic long hair cat and a bowl of really good ice cream.

Confidence is the key. You dont have to be the best looking guy in the room or have the most money if she can tell you happy with WHO you are.

What is the main thing women are attracted to in a man,I know every woman is different but there has to be a common factor that women look for