Topic: is it okay to be unemployed and date?
Dan99's photo
Sat 05/30/09 10:37 AM


sorry, by rule, if you're unemployed you have to remain celebate.

and no masturbating either


Dinner - $150 give or take a bottle of wine
Club Cover - $40 and that is the low end
Drinks at the club - $8-$10 a pop and maybe 4 or 5 each - $80




wow

when papersmile and I go out we might spend $10 at the bookstore for a pot of tea

walking through the park holding hands is free

and then maybe $5 to split a bannana split

and maybe $20 to rent a movie and a bottle of wine if we feel like staying up late


Wow from me too!

If I were dating, I'd feel too guilty to allow a man to spend that sort of money on me for just a date. And I'm certainly too cheap to spend that kind of money on him! If we were in a relationship, I guess that'd be something else. I can go away for a weekend with that kind of money!

I just bought a bottle of wine at the liquor store for under $20 and would rather drink it on my back porch than in some smokey, loud club with a bunch of half-drunken strangers.

Truthfully, I always found the inexpensive dates far more interesting and memorable than the pricey ones anyway. I'd MUCH rather go ice skating and have a hot chocolate or a bike ride stopping for an ice cream.


Yet you were more than happy for me to buy you dinner at the top of the CN Tower for about 150-200 for the both of us(cant quite remember), and that wasnt even a date! haha

papersmile's photo
Sat 05/30/09 10:39 AM
Edited by papersmile on Sat 05/30/09 10:39 AM
Haha that wasn't a date; more like your repayment for my tolerance of having to locate you on more than one occasion to ensure you made it to maryland and the wedding!

Thoughtfulthug's photo
Sat 05/30/09 10:40 AM
I don't mind if someone I am dating is unemployed. It is just current status and does not necessarily mean that the person is going to be unemployed forever.

Dan99's photo
Sat 05/30/09 10:42 AM

Haha that wasn't a date; more like your repayment for my tolerance of having to locate you on more than one occasion to ensure you made it to maryland and the wedding!


I never said you didnt deserve it! For everything you did for me it was as cheap as chips! 2 years ago tomorrow was the start of that trip.




no photo
Sat 05/30/09 10:47 AM
I would make him my man slave!!!pitchfork

DTHRomeo's photo
Sat 05/30/09 10:49 AM

I would make him my man slave!!!pitchfork


Where do i sign up???? devil :tongue: laugh

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Sat 05/30/09 10:50 AM


I would make him my man slave!!!pitchfork


Where do i sign up???? devil :tongue: laugh
I will make up the contract toot sweet!!devil laugh

DTHRomeo's photo
Sat 05/30/09 10:52 AM



I would make him my man slave!!!pitchfork


Where do i sign up???? devil :tongue: laugh
I will make up the contract toot sweet!!devil laugh

yay!bigsmile

MelodyGirl's photo
Sat 05/30/09 11:48 AM
Edited by MelodyGirl on Sat 05/30/09 11:52 AM



sorry, by rule, if you're unemployed you have to remain celebate.

and no masturbating either


Dinner - $150 give or take a bottle of wine
Club Cover - $40 and that is the low end
Drinks at the club - $8-$10 a pop and maybe 4 or 5 each - $80




wow

when papersmile and I go out we might spend $10 at the bookstore for a pot of tea

walking through the park holding hands is free

and then maybe $5 to split a bannana split

and maybe $20 to rent a movie and a bottle of wine if we feel like staying up late


Wow from me too!

If I were dating, I'd feel too guilty to allow a man to spend that sort of money on me for just a date. And I'm certainly too cheap to spend that kind of money on him! If we were in a relationship, I guess that'd be something else. I can go away for a weekend with that kind of money!

I just bought a bottle of wine at the liquor store for under $20 and would rather drink it on my back porch than in some smokey, loud club with a bunch of half-drunken strangers.

Truthfully, I always found the inexpensive dates far more interesting and memorable than the pricey ones anyway. I'd MUCH rather go ice skating and have a hot chocolate or a bike ride stopping for an ice cream.



Can't say it any better than that!


I guess you guys missed the multiple times I stated that is a once in a while dealio and just average -- and that I offer to pay for these types of dates as well. This was an off-topic comment borne from someone that said $60 was tops for his dates. I replied with 'You can't sneeze in this town for $60 ...' Not to mention all the other examples I gave of 'no money needed' dates. whoa

Take all of my statement and not just one little piece of the entire context. winking :laughing:

Wow, it's like the Inquirer taking a comment out of context! rofl

no photo
Sat 05/30/09 11:51 AM
that would take all the fun out of it

MelodyGirl's photo
Sat 05/30/09 11:53 AM

that would take all the fun out of it


BTW, Quiet, one of my fave types of dates is a tea/coffee bookstore date! :thumbsup: winking

You can learn a lot from a person in that setting. flowerforyou

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Sat 05/30/09 11:57 AM


that would take all the fun out of it


BTW, Quiet, one of my fave types of dates is a tea/coffee bookstore date! :thumbsup: winking

You can learn a lot from a person in that setting. flowerforyou

So, you are not into a skateing rink date..:wink:

Thoughtfulthug's photo
Sat 05/30/09 12:25 PM


that would take all the fun out of it


BTW, Quiet, one of my fave types of dates is a tea/coffee bookstore date! :thumbsup: winking

You can learn a lot from a person in that setting. flowerforyou
How is that so? I like walking and talking. Usually the best place in my area is on a trail near the Cuyahoga River in Kent, Ohio. I like to think that walking with someone is more relaxing for to get to know someone instead of sitting down with someone.

Of course, I am kinda hyperactive and can't be placed in a unfamiliar dull place like a coffee/bookstore. Natural surroundings is betta in my book.

To each its own I guess.

yellowrose10's photo
Sat 05/30/09 12:38 PM
no one should go bankrupt or go broke to date someone. If a guy asks me out...then he usually pays. But I'm like a lot of the posts. I can be happy renting a movie and staying home. If I like the guy and we get along..I might ask him out for the next time then I pay

beachbum069's photo
Sat 05/30/09 12:40 PM
I've dated a couple of unemployed women. I have no problem with it.

TxsSun's photo
Sat 05/30/09 12:40 PM

At my age I often hear women say that they are spending time being a house mom or taking a break from work. I have found out that these are euphemisms for I AM UNEMPLOYED!

Allow me to be fair and describe what I mean

To me there is nothing wrong with being out of a job temporarily my idea of temporary is up to 6 months depending on what you do for a living, in some special cases longer.

When a man is unemployed and attempts to date he has a different set of criteria to meet since he is seen as the initiator. He has to have cash credit or savings in order to date. At no point can a man get away with going on a date more than once with the same woman without being expected to pay. unless he has an exceptional personality.

My one and only question: Why is there a double standard?


Not all dates need to cost money. I would be happy going to a park or a lake. That way the two can talk and get to know each other.

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Sat 05/30/09 12:43 PM



that would take all the fun out of it


BTW, Quiet, one of my fave types of dates is a tea/coffee bookstore date! :thumbsup: winking

You can learn a lot from a person in that setting. flowerforyou
How is that so? I like walking and talking. Usually the best place in my area is on a trail near the Cuyahoga River in Kent, Ohio. I like to think that walking with someone is more relaxing for to get to know someone instead of sitting down with someone.

Of course, I am kinda hyperactive and can't be placed in a unfamiliar dull place like a coffee/bookstore. Natural surroundings is betta in my book.

To each its own I guess.


Being outside is always a good thing. However, I'd never call a bookstore dull. Just depends on what you like, I guess.

Dan99's photo
Sat 05/30/09 01:01 PM
I could enjoy a coffee at a bookstore, but once we have drank it, id wanna go somewhere else.

Not that i know any bookstores that sell coffee, or coffeeshops that sell books.

What is so important about a bookstore anyway? Are you supposed to discuss books or something?

I am happier in a pub or a bar with a proper drink.

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Sat 05/30/09 01:07 PM
I actually enjoy bookstores on my own. I've never been on a date in one.

auburngirl's photo
Sat 05/30/09 03:34 PM
I'll still go with papersmile and take the bottle of wine on my porch, or in front of a firepit/fireplace, playing some good music, dancing together. And I'll take Olive Garden, Mac Grill or any other chain over a $200 a plate place. I've had those too. Always leave hungry! laugh